help for a friend

ErinDarryl

Hey ladies,

  A friend of mine just got admitted at 32w because her water broke yesterday. They have her on bedrest to try and keep the little guy in there at least another 2-3 weeks. I'm praying they can. Is there anything that you would recommend  gift/action wise to help them out? I was thinking of picking up some preemie outfits, but that's all I can really think of. Is there anything someone did for you that really meant a lot or seemed really thoughtful? 

TIA 

ashleybritton

I got tons of magazines, but didn't look at a single one. My mind was too preoccupied, although I didn't spend too much time in antepartum. I really appreciated getting preemie clothes. Hospital food gets old, so it was nice to have food delivered. My food was covered by the hospital, but not my husband's. He had to buy every meal and that got really expensive. A visa gift card would have been greatly appreciated. Also, my SIL got me a necklace with his birthstone from James Avery once we knew he would be born in May. It is one of my most treasured gifts. There was so much sadness for me around him being born in May, so it was nice to turn that around and celebrate his arrival.

Also, there may be a time when your friend doesn't return your calls, or is slow getting back to you. Once my son was born and in the NICU I had to turn my phone off. I felt guilty for not having the energy to keep the people who were so helpful and kind to me informed. It is insanely exhausting and emotionally draining having a baby in the NICU. If that happens please know all you have done for her will have been greatly appreciated. You are a sweet friend for taking care of her.

urbanflowerpot

ErinDarryl:

Hey ladies,

  A friend of mine just got admitted at 32w because her water broke yesterday. They have her on bedrest to try and keep the little guy in there at least another 2-3 weeks. I'm praying they can. Is there anything that you would recommend  gift/action wise to help them out? I was thinking of picking up some preemie outfits, but that's all I can really think of. Is there anything someone did for you that really meant a lot or seemed really thoughtful? 

TIA 

You're a good friend! Click the FAQ in my siggy for a list of ideas the moms here put together Outfits are a good idea - they can wear hats only first and zippers/footies aren't usually wanted in NICU, so hope those tips help. I loved that my friends got me outfits! Shopping wasn't on my mind for the first time ever. 

urbanflowerpot

Oh, you know what else I did? I have a lot of sites that update a lot (photography, design, and other stuff) - just mostly pictures and such like notcot.com. I put together a list of online nonsense to pass time (and here, duh ).

ErinDarryl

Thanks ladies! I've got another friend who had preemie twins and she is going to look through her stuff and see what she can find and I'm going to pick up some outfits on my own as well. I'm also going to email her mom and see if I can drop off some freezer meals to her for her to pass along. I never thought of freezer meals, and I know she probably had a plan of making a bunch and now can't.