Commmentary

rider5344

People (including family) gave me the side eye when I named my son Donald (btw it's perfect for him and has grown on everyone).  My point is, name your child what you love, or what moves you, or what moves your spouse (and listen to them, hell no, i didn't think Donald was a good name!).  Forget what is popular, present, trendy, name your child what means something to you and forget everything else!  My DD is Brook-Lynn spelled just like that.....which I'm sure would bring lots of criticism.  I got pregnant to an absent boy at 18 and my best friend was my support (Brook) along with my mother (Linda-Lynn) and surprisingly my grandmother (Mary).  So as much as this board would trash my daughters name, I love it and it means the world to me.  My point is, if you love it, use it.   Don't name on trends, name on love. 

Yamsam

Well Said!

schmucac

This is by far my most favorite and beloved post on the "Baby Names" page.  It bothers me so much when people criticize a name that a mother loves and cannot wait to give to her precious baby--especially when that mother is not asking others opinions on the name.  Everyone has the right to name the child that has formed inside of them for 40 weeks, and I don't think it's necessary for anyone else to try and ruin that special moment.

austenreader85

schmucac:

This is by far my most favorite and beloved post on the "Baby Names" page.  It bothers me so much when people criticize a name that a mother loves and cannot wait to give to her precious baby--especially when that mother is not asking others opinions on the name.  Everyone has the right to name the child that has formed inside of them for 40 weeks, and I don't think it's necessary for anyone else to try and ruin that special moment.

If you will notice most of the posts that say "I found the name!" and the like have very few hits and replies, even if the name is something most people would hate.  If the person has already made up their mind and tells us so then very few people even bother with offering advice.  This board is really about asking for advice, not announcing your choice.  I don't really care what a random internet stranger chooses, you'd have better luck on your local board or birth month board because they "know" you.  Now, if they ask for advice and then come back and tell us what they chose, that's great, but if they're just telling us because they have to tell someone, that post is not really what this forum is for.

OP, of course no one should choose a name they hate.  And if the name is "the one" and it happens to be popular or trendy then the love should trump it.  Naming after family is also usually respectable no matter what, unless the name is something offensive.

schmucac

austenreader85:

schmucac:

This is by far my most favorite and beloved post on the "Baby Names" page.  It bothers me so much when people criticize a name that a mother loves and cannot wait to give to her precious baby--especially when that mother is not asking others opinions on the name.  Everyone has the right to name the child that has formed inside of them for 40 weeks, and I don't think it's necessary for anyone else to try and ruin that special moment.

If you will notice most of the posts that say "I found the name!" and the like have very few hits and replies, even if the name is something most people would hate.  If the person has already made up their mind and tells us so then very few people even bother with offering advice.  This board is really about asking for advice, not announcing your choice.  I don't really care what a random internet stranger chooses, you'd have better luck on your local board or birth month board because they "know" you.  Now, if they ask for advice and then come back and tell us what they chose, that's great, but if they're just telling us because they have to tell someone, that post is not really what this forum is for.

OP, of course no one should choose a name they hate.  And if the name is "the one" and it happens to be popular or trendy then the love should trump it.  Naming after family is also usually respectable no matter what, unless the name is something offensive.

It's not necessarily to the people who have a full name chosen; it's to those who have a one name set and are asking for an opinion on the second name. I made a post like this, stating, "We are naming our daughter this, any opinions on the MIDDLE name?".  Many people gave great feedback, but then there were also very rude comments to the extent of "How dare you name your child that."  There was another post where a woman threw some hate on the writer because she didn't like the author's 5-year-old's name. This is what I don't like.  These are unnecessary comments that shouldn't be made.

elfchique

schmucac:

austenreader85:

schmucac:

This is by far my most favorite and beloved post on the "Baby Names" page.  It bothers me so much when people criticize a name that a mother loves and cannot wait to give to her precious baby--especially when that mother is not asking others opinions on the name.  Everyone has the right to name the child that has formed inside of them for 40 weeks, and I don't think it's necessary for anyone else to try and ruin that special moment.

If you will notice most of the posts that say "I found the name!" and the like have very few hits and replies, even if the name is something most people would hate.  If the person has already made up their mind and tells us so then very few people even bother with offering advice.  This board is really about asking for advice, not announcing your choice.  I don't really care what a random internet stranger chooses, you'd have better luck on your local board or birth month board because they "know" you.  Now, if they ask for advice and then come back and tell us what they chose, that's great, but if they're just telling us because they have to tell someone, that post is not really what this forum is for.

OP, of course no one should choose a name they hate.  And if the name is "the one" and it happens to be popular or trendy then the love should trump it.  Naming after family is also usually respectable no matter what, unless the name is something offensive.

It's not necessarily to the people who have a full name chosen; it's to those who have a one name set and are asking for an opinion on the second name. I made a post like this, stating, "We are naming our daughter this, any opinions on the MIDDLE name?".  Many people gave great feedback, but then there were also very rude comments to the extent of "How dare you name your child that."  There was another post where a woman threw some hate on the writer because she didn't like the author's 5-year-old's name. This is what I don't like.  These are unnecessary comments that shouldn't be made.

I think I remember the post you were talking about. Situations like this are the exception, not the rule. General etiquette on the BNB is that we don't share opinions on what a child is already named, but names for children not yet born are fair game. And generally people don't spout of hatred of a name unless they're being asked an opinion. 

Also trying to dictate what people say on internet message boards is pointless and its own version of rude.