Since we're venting

Chunstad

This is a stupid pity party thing to say, especially since there are so many working Moms out there, and so many other things to be sad about.  I feel guilty just writing it down.  I hope that I don't hurt anyone's feelings.

 Last night, DH asked me to start looking to see if there were any part time teaching jobs out there.  We've talked about the possibility of me working part-time, but I just assumed that it wouldn't happen, since we are kinda trying for #2.  I got sad and teary eyed after he said that, especially while watching C squirm on the floor, trying so hard to crawl. 

Us teachers know that there really isn't a 'part time' job.  Yes, I can work kindergarten, but there is the room set up, meeting with parents, staff meetings and such.  I do miss teaching, but I'd much rather give up vacations and other things in order to stay home a couple of years.  Also, I don't want to 'half-ass' my job as a teacher because I'm so concerned about getting home to C.  Life just isn't fair, sniff sniff.

cantalopes24

Can you get a part time job doing something else or work as a tutor in the evenings while YH stays with C?

Fianschneid

There are no stupid feelings. If you're upset, you're upset. It is valid. Being asked to change your lifestyle in anyway is never easy.

I'm sure you'd prefer to teach but what about other part time jobs? Maybe you could find something that has real hours, when you leave work, you leave work and don't have to be invested in planning outside of school, etc.

Scramblersmom

cantalopes24:

Can you get a part time job doing something else or work as a tutor in the evenings while YH stays with C?

Tutoring is a great idea! Sometimes colleges/universities have tutoring departments and will pay for tutors to work PT. It is hard to leave your baby and I completely understand that. Have you discussed it with YH like you just did with us? Is there a specific reason he wants you to go back sooner? Hugs to you and I wish you the best! 

Chunstad

I probably wouldn't want a different job, since I've invested so much time in obtaining my BA, MA, and Professional Cert.  It already is my second career, I used to work at a dental office beforehand.  Also with the economy being what it is, I don't see any other jobs with the same benefits and pay as what I could get.  Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know.  I could always sub, too.

Thanks for the suggestions, though.

cantalopes24

smit5009:

cantalopes24:

Can you get a part time job doing something else or work as a tutor in the evenings while YH stays with C?

Tutoring is a great idea! Sometimes colleges/universities have tutoring departments and will pay for tutors to work PT. It is hard to leave your baby and I completely understand that. Have you discussed it with YH like you just did with us? Is there a specific reason he wants you to go back sooner? Hugs to you and I wish you the best! 

The college I work for also has excellent day care and I think they are usually less expensive than regular day care so if you work during the day that might be an option so C would be right by you and you could see him during breaks.

 

Chunstad

Yes, I've discussed it with him.  I asked if we could make sacrifices to have me stay at home, and he said that we could swing it, but we'd be more comfortable if I were back at work.  The big expense right now is insurance.  C and I have to get private insurance, and that costs $564 a month. 

The only colleges around us closeby are community colleges.  UW is about an hour away, however there are extensions closer.  I guess I've never thought about this...my degree is only K-8, though.  I don't know if it would transfer.  Hmmm...

LCass

Chunstad:

I could always sub, too.

If you have an option for flexible child care, I'd do this. In fact, I am going to be doing this. I have been on the sub list for our school board for a couple of years now (but only worked 1.5 days last year before Lily was born). I decided that for the time being I'm not going to even try applying for long term jobs, because subbing gives me the flexibility to be with Lily when necessary/i want and it avoids the problem of taking your work home with you, having extra commitments, etc. I'll probably only work once a week, just to keep my foot in the door and earn a bit of extra money.

joolz17

Chunner, I know you wanted to stay at home longer, so I can see how tough this conversation must have been for you. Sad face. 

I think (as usual) you're getting good advice from everyone! 

Chunstad

joolz17:

Chunner, I know you wanted to stay at home longer, so I can see how tough this conversation must have been for you. Sad face. 

I think (as usual) you're getting good advice from everyone! 

Thanks Joolz