Positive Discipline...

stdldb29

Can someone give me some links? I'd like to read up on this---or some examples of how you do it? 

 

Thanks! 

ougrad1

Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood.  It's a great philosophy that emphasizes natural consequence.  You can purchase the book online.  : )

CoffeeBeen

I haven't used it myself, but I've seen this site recommended:  https://www.ahaparenting.com/

MandaPanda518

eddy321:

Can someone define positive discipline for me?  I'm not sure I understand it completely.

With DD, we try distraction/redirection first, and then if that doesn't work, we give her a consequence that fits the behavior.  She's currently into standing on her books (she makes piles and uses them to reach things she's not supposed to touch).  When she stands on a book, I ask her a question or direct her attention to another toy.  If that doesn't work, I get down to her level and explain that it's not okay to stand on books because it hurts the book and could be dangerous.  I tell her she needs to get off the book.  I give her a few seconds to respond, and if she still isn't listening, I warn her that she's going to lose her books if she keeps doing it.  Then, I count to three.  If she is still standing on her book, I collect all the books in the room and remove them.  I explain to her again why I've removed them, and then we go back to playing with something else.  Later in the day, I put the books back without comment.

I have no idea whether or not this is considered positive discipline, but it works for us for now.  A lot of the time, the behavior stops at the redirection because she was just looking to get my attention.  I rarely get to the point where I actually have to give a consequence.

ETA: I should also add that there have been several times that I have lost my cool and either shouted or immediately given a consequence because DD was really pushing limits when I was trying to attend to DS.  I'm not proud of it, but everything above takes a lot of work, and after sleep deprivation and a screaming baby, it's not always easy to do.  I'm trying to be consistent with it, though, since it does work when I stick to it.

I don't know if this is positive discipline either, but this is the approach we take too. A lot of redirection and communication. 

We also do a lot of positive reinforcement. Lots of praise when he makes the right choice like not throwing a toy, or not touching the entertainment center if it looks like he's getting close. 

MandaPanda518

Thanks Fredalina! One of the many reasons I love TB, I learn a ton. These sound like methods I would work into my parenting.