I had my son's evaluation last Friday and he is eligible for speech - but BARELY. When the evaluators told him they were all done my son clapped and then said bye bye. They told me if they included that in the report, my son wouldn't qualify and that is how close he came. I am glad he's close and not that behind, but also glad of course that he is able to get some ST because I think it could be helpful.
Anyway, my fear was autism going into this. He doesn't seem to engage me a lot in his play. He plays with things but doesn't want me to participate and it is a total lack of engagement on his part. He also started to walk on his toes a few times a day and sometimes during dinner with cross his middle finger over his index finger. At the end of the evaluation when they said he was doing fine and only really a tad behind in speech. I brought up my autism fears and concerns and they looked extremely shocked and said autism is definitely not what they see. They think the toe walking is a typical thing that most toddlers do and doing it once in awhile is not a concern and the finger thing they also felt was normal. They obviously sat and played with him for the full hour of the evaluation and said that they think he is fine and while he may be very slightly behind socially it is only due to his speech delay and this is common. They also said since he always plays near me that this is parallel play. I get that, but he literally never engages me. I take him to the local childrens museum and all I do is follow him around from one exhibit to the next and it's not actually playing with him.
At his 18 month well baby visit, they did an autism screening as part of a routine thing they do now and he scored above average in social skills. The pedi at that time said she had zero concerns about autism and didn't even think he needed ST.
I can't really do anything else other than start this ST because I can't get into the DP without a referral from EI or my pedi. Is there anything else I should do?? Am I being a total lunatic and crazy person for still worrying despite all of these people saying he's fine?? I have heard so many stories of people who have tried telling their pedis something was wrong only to be dismissed and worry I will be one of those.
Just hoping for advice on whether or not you would accept this or if you think my son has some red flags. I've had such a tough year with so much going on and know I'm not thinking clearly. Thanks.