I havent lurked at all so excuse me if I have bad manners and TIA for reading
My sister is 9 and my mom hasnt been with her dad for a long time and for the most part, its been just her and my mom since she was little. My mom has been with a great guy who is alot older- like a year or two younger than our grandparents. They recently got engaged, but none of us think that they are really getting married. We think they are just committing more seriously.
My little sister is mortified by this. She absolutely hates this guy. He asks her to do things here and there and gives alot of advice, but it very sweet about it. He is irritating at times, but nothing to be hated for (at least to me). My mom doesnt spend an extraordinary amount of time with him alone. A huge change was that my sister always went to sleep with my mom. Well when SO came into the picture, that obviously had to change (she was about 7). Shes also had a hard time adjusting in the past.
She gets really upset any time he comes over. She says she is so embarrassed that he is so old and if my mom wears her ring in front of her friends she wont invite them back over. She also informs my mom how she is going to move in with her dad (not an option) or how my mom is ruining her life. She sobbed and called everyone a liar because she thought my mom was giving the ring back when she got it re-sized.
My mom is blown away by this. My sis is a great kid, but ever since my mom got serious with this man, she all of a sudden is emotionally out of control. Its not as easy as just telling her to stop the attitude because the attitude is coming from sincerely being upset.
Shes talked to a therapist/counselor before, and my mom wouldnt mind getting her back to talk to someone, but she wants to try on her own first. Any words of wisdom?