not finding out, shower before or after??
sfochler
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So I am only 9 weeks preggo but my best friend and mother are already talking about a baby shower. My husband and I have decided that we do not want to find out if its a boy or girl. I am totally ok with with not have a ton of blue and pink stuff and would really be happy with yellow, green, etc. but everyone keeps telling me that they need to know for buying purposes. So my question is how do you feel about having a shower after the baby is born?? My mother is totally for this (but I am due in March and she always travels during that time, so I think that she has different motives) and my bf wants to have it in January.
My concern about this is that we wont have any of the things that we will need prior to the baby coming or that we will need to buy everything ourselves, which is fine but will be a big price tag.
Thoughts??
Re: not finding out, shower before or after??
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This.
We are Team Green and are having the shower before having the baby.
THIS.
If you plan on having more kids, have your shower before the baby arrives and make sure you register for all gender neutral gear. It would be silly to load up on pink and then find out #2 is a boy.
Clothes are different. In my experience, you will get more gear and less clothes by being team green, but people will buy/bring clothes after the baby is born. Just make sure to register for a pack of white onesies and you will be set until you have time to really shop. And people will still give neutral clothing.
Have a shower before. You might be too exhausted to even think about a shower afterwards. And I don't really like the idea of having the baby at the shower - too many people touching the baby.
PSA: Your baby, your bill. Don't expect everyone to buy anything and you will never be disappointed. Odds are all you are going to get is clothing or generic stuff like blankets, even with being team green.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
We were team green and the shower before the baby. I have hosted a couple of showers after the babies were born and the MTB's obviously had to purchase some items before the baby arrived (carseat, bassinet or crib, diapers, few onesies or sleepers, bottles or breast pump, etc). Newborns don't need a lot of stuff.
Keep in mind that just because you've registerd for things guests don't always purchase off your registry so you might end up having to purchase a lot of the stuff yourself. People want to know the gender so they can buy CLOTHES and trust me on this - you will get a TON of them whether they know the gender or not...but you will most likely get less if they don't know.
Honestly, it strikes me as more gift-grabby to do it after the baby is born.
"Oh WE don't want to find out the sex until it's born, but we also don't want YOU to buy us crap until we know."
It's really only clothes and nursery decoration that this is an issue for. I knew DD #1 was a girl before she was born, but I still registered for all gender neutral things (esp big things like high chair, pnp, swing) because a) I thought they would go with the decor of our house better and b) I knew we wanted to have more kids. Looking back, I'm super happy I don't have all pink or blue things! I've done al of the kid's nurseries really gender specific but most other things are not.