"you're going to leave your DH alone with 2 babies all day?"

CMW

What the he!! is wrong with people?  I had lunch with a "friend" yesterday and she was asking our plans for after I go back to work.  I was telling her we were going to have a nanny/daycare a couple days a week and my DH (who is self-employed and works from home) was going to stay home the other three days a week with them.  She said "you are going to leave two babies at home with your DH?" and looked at me like I was from Mars!  Why do people think men can't "watch" their own children?  I don't get it?  My DH is a perfectly capable guy and will probably do better than me in some areas because he does not let things get to him.

Do you guys hear similar comments?  I just don't get it!

 

AmberJane

Grrrrrr....all the time and it drives me up the wall!  "Aww, your dh is babysitting the boys, how nice!", um, as far as I know they are his children too so the term would be PARENTING, not BABYSITTING!  It drives me batty!

mwilson44

That's such BS...I hear that kind of stuff all the time too.  Right now I'm at the hospital with my mom (dad's having surgery) and my DH has the boys for 1 day and a half by himself.  And like you said, in many situations he is better with the boys because he doesn't let things get to him. 

heathb21

That's so crazy!  Why are some people so old fashioned in their thinking?  DH is a parent too! 

MNheidi

Men are totally underestimated and often get off the hook for it.  However, us MoMs know that they CAN do it b/c when there's more than one baby they HAVE to do it.  I think having mulitples creates a situation where our dhs have to be better fathers.

ifoundhim

I haven't heard that one, but even I was chuckling a bit when my husband said he wanted to work from home one day a week and take care the babies.   My husband refuses to hold friends' newborns, and has changed ONE diaper in his life.  It's not that I think he's not capable, I just think it'll be fascinating to watch him experience caring for his children while trying to be a lawyer from the couch.

Also, as pp have said, it drives me NUTS when it's "baby-sitting" when a dad cares for his children.  They're HIS children!!

AkinaMaluki

I used to get those comments too and sometimes people are still amazed that DH watched both of them by himself 3x a wks while he worked from home. Honestly, he does an amazing job and is probably more organized than I am.  He will also be watching all 3 soon too.