Nanny WWYD

NicoleWI

We have had mixed feelings re: our current nanny.

 Pros:

Good with the kids, they like her, plays with them, appropriate discipline (no yelling, screaming, nothing physical), friendly, lives nearby, we have a decent relationship, I trust her in general, cares about the kids

Cons:

brings her 2 YO son--the kids like him, but this is not working out for me and DH; kind of flighty/not super responsible (forgets things--you feel like you really have to remind her); has missed a fair amount of days (sick) and doesn't always give us as much notice as she could, spends fair amount of time on Pinterest and FB, not a lot of organized activities going on--they just kind of play a lot. I'm nervous about her doing pre-school pick-up for our daughter in the fall with the two other kids in the car also, and I would have trusted our previous nanny 100%. Has ongoing situation with father of her DS and possible custody battle.

After some recent developments, DH is very frustrated and thinks we should look for someone new. We aren't sure WHAT we will do about my job once Baby 3 arrives, so this could possibly be only for a few months. However, I would like some help once baby arrives even while on leave, and current nanny is not set-up to do this b/c of the situation with her son. Someone new could possibly help me while on leave.  Would you try to find someone now to work for possibly just a few months (4 months or so?), and then on a very PT basis? We had decided earlier just to stick it out through the fall, but now aren't sure what to do. 

MammaBear81

If the help on ML is very important to you then I'd look for someone new, you've already stated that she can't do it.  If you don't mind going at it alone over leave I MIGHT stick it out for the 4 months, and then find someone new on leave (but interviewing with a newborn might be challenging).  If it was me I'd fire her and find someone new. GL

tosababy

It doesn't sound like this nanny fits your family's needs. I think you should start looking for someone new.  I'd think first, though, about the likelihood of you going back to work and be honest about it being a temporary position if you're leaning towards staying home.