Advice

blueriley01

My Aunt graciously offered to host my baby shower along with a couple other family members and friends. I actually didn't think I was having a shower so this was a very unexpected but pleasant surprise.

 I told MIL about the shower, so she could save the date and knew to expect an invitation in the future. She then asked if we could invite her sisters and a few other family members from DH's side. Around 10 people total, which brings the guest list to around 25-30.

Here is where I need advice. My aunt was fine with the additional guests. However her house is quite small, a tight fit even for the original guest list- but doable. Because of the added guests, I offered that we could use my house for the shower. My house is larger and more party friendly. I also thought that showing off the nursery might be fun. I will not be involved in planning or anything and plan to leave while they set up- maybe get a mani/pedi.

My aunt seemed to like the idea. I know this does not follow traditional etiquette and some may find it tacky. Now I find myself hoping I did not offend her. Should I have just told MIL no and kept party as planned?

Opinions? 

persephonerose

My mom and sister came in from out of town to host my baby shower and they wanted to use my house. No one seemed to find it tacky. Not sure why it would be tacky, as long as you aren't throwing or planning the shower there is no reason not to offer your home as a venue. It is a place you are comfortable in and you wont have to lug home lots of gifts.

blueriley01

persephonerose:

My mom and sister came in from out of town to host my baby shower and they wanted to use my house. No one seemed to find it tacky. Not sure why it would be tacky, as long as you aren't throwing or planning the shower there is no reason not to offer your home as a venue. It is a place you are comfortable in and you wont have to lug home lots of gifts.

Didn't even think about not having to tote home gifts!

morethancottoncandy

As long as its clear you are not hosting, I think its fine to have it in your house.  

PunkyBooster

I don't find that tacky at all. In fact, it will be so much easier on you since you won't have to lug gifts back to your house afterward! And everyone can ooohh and ahhhh all over the nursery, however done it may or may not be.

bklynbmp

As long as you aren't hosting the party and the invitation comes from someone else, I dont see any reason why using your house would be a problem.

bluestarbaby

I think it's totally fine to have it at your house.  I wouldn't worry about it.

rhubarb123

bklynbmp:

As long as you aren't hosting the party and the invitation comes from someone else, I dont see any reason why using your house would be a problem.

I agree.

I've hosted a couple of showers at the MTB's homes because that is where they wanted it.  My house is plenty big enough but sometimes location is important too.

blueriley01

Thanks for all the replies. I am by no means hosting it and I will make sure the invitations reflect that!

Ladiebug710

I think it is fine.

SunAndRain

My shower was hosted by two friends but held at my house.  I did help with set up and then while my friends did most of the clean up the deeper clean was left to me... It was convenient as I didn't have to transport gifts when all was said and done and it was fun to show the nursery.  But I was up hours beforehand getting the house in order and getting things set up.  A lot more work than I bargained for.

As for tacky?  No.  The invite clearly stated who the hosts were.

MelleTX

Totally fine. I hosted my sister's shower at her house. My name was listed on the invitation as the hostess and I did all the work. No one thought anything strange about it as I live an hour away.