Baby Name Woes

Outdoorlovinmama4

We are struggling with baby names for our 4th baby due in December. We lost our 13 year old son last summer in an accident, Evan John. We'd like to incorporate his name into the new baby's name. We were very surprised to find out we were expecting - we'd been trying for a while before his accident and after, decided that we were done trying. It has been a wonderful blessing, giving us something to look forward to. Our other children's names are Annalise and Aiden.

We don't know yet if it is a boy or girl, so we're searching for both names right now. For a girl, I like the name Evelyn, but my cousin's daughter is named that and I don't want to cause issues. I also like Everly, but my mom's co-worker named her daughter that and seems a bit sensitive when others she knows names their daughter it (even though we don't really know each other well, again, I don't want to cause any issues - I try to keep pretty low-key these days and don't want any drama). Any ideas on a name?

KatieKim0815

First off, I'm so sorry for your loss!

How about Evangeline? I do really like Everly and a mom's coworker is a pretty distant connection unless you know her personally. 

ames71

So sorry for your loss.

For a boy, maybe Everett with the nn Rhett? 

For a girl, I love Eva. 

MelissaRae1525

KatieKim0815:

First off, I'm so sorry for your loss!

How about Evangeline? I do really like Everly and a mom's coworker is a pretty distant connection unless you know her personally. 

Ditto this! 

strawberrytree

I'm so sorry for your loss. 

Others had good ideas for Ev- names. If it is a boy, what about using another  form of John either as a first or middle name? Something like Ian, Sean, Shane, or Jonas that means John in another language (incidentally, Evan is the Welsh form of John for twice the significance). Or maybe use Joanne or Joanna for a girl?

Or you could combine the two ideas, something like: 

Ian Everett 

Eva Joanne

etc 

victoria+james

I'm so sorry for your loss...

I love the idea of honoring your son in the new baby's name. Perhaps its best if you keep it as a middle name though. The new baby needs to have an identity all their own also. 

Alder Evan

Avery Evalyn/Evan

Ariana Evalyn

I LOVE the name Everly, but I feel like Evalyn is closer to Evan's name. And yes I spelled it with an 'a' instead of an 'e'... same reasoning, but whichever you prefer will work wonderfully.

this decaf life

You could definitely use Everly. If you want a different FN you could absolutely use Evan as a MN for either gender. With the history it works & Rachel Evan Wood is a great actress.

TeamHayes

sorry for your loss. everleigh would have been my dd mname.

LorMor

Hav=Fath:

Gosh, I am so sorry for your loss... 

Congratulations on your surprise blessing! I LOVE Everly and would not care what your mom's coworker thought. 

This. 

Even if the coworker gets a bit silly about it, how often are the two Everlys going to be in the same room together? 

Helenahhandbasket

What a terrible thing to have to go through.  And what a wonderful blessing to be expecting again.  I hope it helps to heal your heart a bit.

 

I know many members of this board do not like boy names on girls, but what if you straight up used Evan as a middle name for a baby girl?  Like (and I am just going on the A name theme of your other son and daughter)

Alison Evan Lastname

Aurora Evan Lastname

Or, what if you simply picked two names with the same initials

Elizabeth Johanna

Elise Jocelyn

For a baby boy I really like the PPs suggestion of Everett.

Everett Ian Lastname (Ian is the Scottish version of John)

Good Luck-- if anyone deserves a speedy and easy delivery it is you.

Jaytee501

So very sorry to hear of your devastating loss.

I'm sure this is a blessing that your son Evan is well aware of  

I love, as previously mentioned, Evangeline (if you use a nickname, Evie is cute).

I also like the very simple Eve or Eva (pronounced "Eee-vah.")

For a boy, I like the suggestion of Everett, though if you called your son "Ev" sometimes it may feel a bit sad to do the same with a new baby??

I think using Evan as a middle name is a lovely idea.

 

Outdoorlovinmama4

Thanks for the ideas. This has all been bitter-sweet for us, but then again, everything is anymore. It's amazing how you can feel such joy and sadness all at the same time. I have no doubts that even with a name that honors his/her brother, this new baby will have their own personality. We've known quite a few other parents who have gone through this as well and honored their angel in the new babies name and we love the though. Some examples: Andrew's new brother is Aaron Drew, Chelsy's brother is Chet Lee, and so on.

 Boys names are a struggle. We had been thinking about maybe doing Jonathon  Evan (call him John), but we'd stuck with vowels at the beginning of our other children's names, so I'm not too sure on it. I do like Everette - although I did call Evan "Ev" quite a bit.

Maybe something will suddenly come to me when we hopefully find out what we're having. Any other ideas are appreciated.