s/o KTFU

Fianschneid

No, I'm not joining the club nor am I planning to any time soon. Just trying to keep the board lively.

Assuming you aren't already, what would you do if you found out you were KTFU today? Celebrate? Bury your head and cry? Eat a Big Mac and figure out the detail later?

If you are KTFU again, what was your reaction when you found out?

Fianschneid

Another LO certainly isn't in our plans anytime soon. I would probably have a bit of a crying fit if I found out I was expecting at this point.

We aren't financially ready and another LO right now would mean taking a lot of opportunities that we had planned away from DD (we wouldn't be able to save for a home or college as easily).

That being said, we would make it work. I would probably have to quit my job because DC would be too expensive for two. I would love to be a SAHM, though, so maybe it would be a blessing in disguise.

I would have to cross my fingers that baby surprise was a girl so that we could stay in our current two bedroom place for awhile longer.

CMonkey515

Well, we always planned to try again as soon as AF returned. I just got my first one PP last week, and I'm actually planning to hold off on TTC for now. My health insurance ran out last month, and the temporary policy I have now isn't the best. I should have my good insurance again in maybe 6 months. Also due to the market we are stuck in our very tiny house for probably another year. So, if I did have a surprise BFP I would be happy, because I definitely want another baby, but I'd be very nervous about it too.

DoctorWorm222

I feel the same way, Fianschneid. If we got KU, we'd figure out a way to make it work, but it wouldn't be optimal financially. We're planning to hold at one child until we get better jobs. We'll talk about having another if our situation improves. Right now, we don't even discuss it because its a moot point. 

cantalopes24

Cry and probably try to sell a kidney on the black market. I still have 4 sets of hospital bills from last year we're trying to pay off and I don't think my dad or SIL could handle 2u2 and E so I'd have to pay for daycare at least part time which is crazy expensive here and more than I make.

jwls84

I would be over the moon excited!! I would love another baby, but we are not trying yet. Maybe after he turns 1 we will give it shot! That and I want another house before we have a second. 

Mrs. Mo

This would be me.

We have been trying on our own (hahaha) since we got the "go-ahead" at 8 weeks pp. Besides just the fact that I would be KTFU, it would mean that I wouldn't have to take all the drugs/injections & go through the procedures I needed to get pregnant with DD.

 

blu-eyedwife

There would definitely be crying in this corner.  And a lot of anxiety.

KrisM86

I'd be a little overwhelmed but very excited! While we're not actively TTC (charting and such) we aren't TTA.  We decided after the wedding to stop using condoms and let nature run its course.

EloiseWeenieSkipperdee

My reaction: Oh shrit, I don't have a maternity rider on my insurance!

colliebabe

I would be mad I can't have have a cocktail. Ok, not really, but emotionally and financially I would be fine with another child. I am just not ready for another pregnancy just yet. I had a great, easy pregnancy with DD, but we have a lot of events in the next year and I don't want to be pregnant for them. I also just got my running speed back up to where it was before DD, so I am looking forward to doing some half marathons, triathalons and maybe even another full marathon before I get KU'd again.

[Deleted User]

Cry.  It would not be a happy day.

jaeleigh25

We would be bummed I think.  I mean, we can handle another one, but definitely NOT in the plans.  We want to wait until DD is about 3 or so.  The thought of 2 in diapers makes me want to cry.  I wouldn't mind being pregnant again, I had a very smooth pregnancy, and honestly feel that was the last time I felt pretty.  It's the baby I don't know if I could handle.

morsey2011

I would feel overwhelmed, but would be happy. DH says if we have another, he wants them close in age, so he would be happy too. I went through all of my sick days so would stressed about that.

aliciaroset

I'd freak out. We might be one and done, but are reserving that decision for later. E has been a seriously tough baby. (Last night my longest stretch of sleep was 2 hours. That happened once.) The thought of dealing with her during a pregnancy is enough alone to make me just cry.  But we really really really don't want to be pregnant right now. We'd figure something out if it happened, but it'd really suck. I was so thankful that we didn't get pregnant until we tried to this time around, so I'd be pretty devastated. 
I loved being pregnant and would be fine with that again, and who knows, maybe baby #2 would be totally different? But I just can't wrap my brain around that right now.

shediva1

I would be freaking out, I was so ready to have another one at three months PP, but looking back, I what was I thinking?

I am on BC pills, and skipped the 'placebo' pills three weeks ago since I didn't want my period on my vacation.  I am paying for it now, since I am spotting, and PMS-ing, I am supposed to have my period this Saturday, so yay, probably two weeks of period for me   Sorry for the vent, I am is a sh*tty mood right now.

mrs.lizzieb

I'm not sure if I would cry, but I'd definitely be stressed.  We're on the fence about having a third, and lately, I've been feeling like 2 kids is definitely enough for me.  I'd be most worried about how I'd be able to handle 3 kids on my own with DH working such long hours. 

Gipper0809

We had always wanted at least 3 kids but my recovery from DS was so complicated and I almost bled to death, so we figured that we needed to be done at 2.  I had come to terms with this and we were about to make a consultation for DH to be snipped. 

Welp--turns out that we weren't quite done and Lincoln was only 5ish months when I peed on a stick. I had a gut feeling and sure enough; positive.

My initial reaction, "Oh SH*T!"  And then I was scared to tell DH because I know he'd freak out--about the finances part.  It took a couple of weeks for the shock to wear off and now we're all excited about having a 3rd.  DD is crazy excited and tells everyone we meet that "we're having another baby!".  Most people just look at her like she's nuts and then look at me--I nod--they look shocked--and then I shrug my shoulders.  LOL 

nabum

I would be a little sad since I have two vacations coming up and I want to be able to drink, darnit!

 

Otherwise, I would be ok with it. We want to have another one relatively soon.

Shannon526

DH and I were sort of TTC this month... by "sort of" I mean we weren't TTA by any means haha. I have to wait a few more days to POAS, so if it turns out to be a BFP, then I will probably be wicked excited, but nervous.

We aren't in the greatest financial situation right now, but I know both of our families would be thrilled and more than willing to help out if we needed them.

I had a relatively easy pregnancy with L. L&D was also pretty smooth, even though I had to be induced... so I wouldn't mind that whole part. The newborn stage was rough for me and my relationship with DH, so I'd be a little nervous about that again. DH wanted be to be KU like 3 months ago so I know he'd be excited, too.

MrsTBird

I was a little surprised. We had just started TTC last month and apparently that's all the time we needed! I was really surprised it only took us one cycle. But we're excited. I'm just kinda bummed because we had/have a lot of fun things planned this summer that I couldn't do while KU last summer. Oh well, it's all worth it in the end!

LCass

I'd be over the moon.  I'm not sure about DH.  I know he'd rather wait a little bit longer, and so we're TTA until 2013.  Plus it'd be better for us financially, and our original plan was to space them out 2-3 years.  But I LOVED being pregnant and miss it, and I've got baby fever (always have, probably always will) and Lily is already so big and I miss having an itty bitty one.

BeesMomma00

I'd be ecstatic AND nervous at the same time.  While I want to have baby #2 soon, I think teh reality of it will be far worse than the idea of it. 

vitan

I would just go with it. I'd really like to wait until next year but I'm not doing anything to completely avoid it either. I do admit, I get a wee bit jealous when I hear BFPs or see positive tests cuz that's the cool part. Then thinking of the newborn stage all over again...freaks me back into reality!

alison2379

I'd be happy! And selfishly a little irritated I couldn't drink any more this summer or on vacation in October. Emphasis on the selfish.

Jazzym12

I would cry and probably try to cut mh's balls off. It would not be a welcome surprise.

Liz4444

Cry and take a knife to dh's testicles.

pennysuedog

Celebrate until I started puking.  My DH would cry.

karinothing

WineBaby22:

blu-eyedwife:

There would definitely be crying in this corner.  And a lot of anxiety.

This.

Pretty much this. Then I would try to see if it is at all possible to afford 4K in daycare a month. Which I am guessing it would not be, so I would attempt to find a nanny and be depressed becuase I love our current daycare situation.

ebp913

We were both really excited to find out.  I am still excited but I'm starting to stress out a bit. Financially, we are lucky to be fine but I am just worried about handling working, 2 kids, the laundry, the house, being a good wife, etc.  I am really hoping that I can scale back my work hours when #2 comes.  I am already feeling like no one is getting my best - not Olivia, not work, not DH and that feeling sucks.  I feel like I am half-as*ing everything.

Olivia was an easy newborn so I'm not worried about that.  I am more worried about having a 26 month old and a 9 month old.  Then I am going to freak out - and have baby play pens all over my house that I can stick them in while I go hide in the bathroom.   

peelester429

alison2379:

I'd be happy! And selfishly a little irritated I couldn't drink any more this summer or on vacation in October. Emphasis on the selfish.

This, verbatim. Except our last vacation trip for the summer is this weekend. 

lkm2006

We were trying so we were excited of course. It was our first month so I didn't expec it right away and kind of freaked a little just because there was no going back. 

We always planned on having #1 and #2 close but I won't lie, I'm nervous to go back to the newborn because DS is so easy now! 

babes12

i think i'd cry and be scared sh*tless.  My two LO's keep me so busy i don't know how peeps w/ 3 or more do it.  I feel like all i do is tell my oldest NO and stop it and why don't you listen non stop like a broken record.  And DD never stops!  she's on the go at all times.  it's tiring. 

diego299

Mrs. Mo:

This would be me.

We have been trying on our own (hahaha) since we got the "go-ahead" at 8 weeks pp. Besides just the fact that I would be KTFU, it would mean that I wouldn't have to take all the drugs/injections & go through the procedures I needed to get pregnant with DD.

 

Me exactly!

Nita2603

We were both happy. And surprised that it happened so fast. I guess I at least am most fertile right after I gave birth.

 

There is also anxiety. A lot of it. 

karinothing

Woodsie:

karinothing:

Pretty much this. Then I would try to see if it is at all possible to afford 4K in daycare a month. Which I am guessing it would not be, so I would attempt to find a nanny and be depressed becuase I love our current daycare situation.

HOLYSHIT really? Is that pretty standard in your area for 2 kids in daycare or is there something special/different about your daycare that makes it cost that much? I can't imagine.

Well, I am exaggerating a bit. We pay 1820 for infant care and it doesn't really go down THAT much until 2 (and then even then not really until 3). So I think if I got pregnant now DS' care ould be 1790 + 1820 for infant so $3610.  And yeah, that is pretty standard for center care. Although, you can sometimes find center infant care for 1600 or so. In home daycare is less (1200).

It is just high cost of living and there is a shortage of convenient centers  in more urban areas (vs. out in the far our burbs).

Hence why we will be waiting to have number 2 until DS is at least 3 (and care is only $1325!). 

Mcheza

Strangely, now would be a very good time financially. MH may not be working for the next few years so we wouldn't have to worry about daycare, which is pretty pricy in our area. I'd be nervous and dread the idea of being pregnant, but I lived the birthing experience and want a second, so I'd also be very happy too. MH probably would be shell shocked. 

jwls84

Woodsie:

karinothing:

Woodsie:

karinothing:

Pretty much this. Then I would try to see if it is at all possible to afford 4K in daycare a month. Which I am guessing it would not be, so I would attempt to find a nanny and be depressed becuase I love our current daycare situation.

HOLYSHIT really? Is that pretty standard in your area for 2 kids in daycare or is there something special/different about your daycare that makes it cost that much? I can't imagine.

Well, I am exaggerating a bit. We pay 1820 for infant care and it doesn't really go down THAT much until 2 (and then even then not really until 3). So I think if I got pregnant now DS' care ould be 1790 + 1820 for infant so $3610.  And yeah, that is pretty standard for center care. Although, you can sometimes find center infant care for 1600 or so. In home daycare is less (1200).

It is just high cost of living and there is a shortage of convenient centers  in more urban areas (vs. out in the far our burbs).

Hence why we will be waiting to have number 2 until DS is at least 3 (and care is only $1325!). 

That's nuts! I will be paying about $625/month until T is 18 months, and then it drops to like $500 or so (I can't remember exactly). I guess there is an upside to small-town living!

Woodsie you are in Canada right? I think it is pretty standard in Canada because I am pretty sure we pay into it with our taxes and it is federally subsidized, or maybe I am wrong and it is provincial. Either way it is about $625 here too.

mrsgabus

I was over the moon when it happened and now im coping with my loss at this time but im pretty sure we will be ttcing again in just a few months.

Liz4444

mrsgabus:

I was over the moon when it happened and now im coping with my loss at this time but im pretty sure we will be ttcing again in just a few months.

Hottie MrG will be jumping your bones again in no time.

karinothing

jwls84:

Woodsie:

karinothing:

Woodsie:

karinothing:

Pretty much this. Then I would try to see if it is at all possible to afford 4K in daycare a month. Which I am guessing it would not be, so I would attempt to find a nanny and be depressed becuase I love our current daycare situation.

HOLYSHIT really? Is that pretty standard in your area for 2 kids in daycare or is there something special/different about your daycare that makes it cost that much? I can't imagine.

Well, I am exaggerating a bit. We pay 1820 for infant care and it doesn't really go down THAT much until 2 (and then even then not really until 3). So I think if I got pregnant now DS' care ould be 1790 + 1820 for infant so $3610.  And yeah, that is pretty standard for center care. Although, you can sometimes find center infant care for 1600 or so. In home daycare is less (1200).

It is just high cost of living and there is a shortage of convenient centers  in more urban areas (vs. out in the far our burbs).

Hence why we will be waiting to have number 2 until DS is at least 3 (and care is only $1325!). 

That's nuts! I will be paying about $625/month until T is 18 months, and then it drops to like $500 or so (I can't remember exactly). I guess there is an upside to small-town living!

Woodsie you are in Canada right? I think it is pretty standard in Canada because I am pretty sure we pay into it with our taxes and it is federally subsidized, or maybe I am wrong and it is provincial. Either way it is about $625 here too.

Yeah, not subsidized here at all. That being said, this area is home to some of the richest zipcodes in the nation....so that helps?