what are your plans for birth?

LiteraryFoodie

I think that criticizing and disparaging women's birth choices is incredibly unproductive.

In order to have healthy babies, women need to have the option to birth in the way that they feel safest and most comfortable. They need to have unbiased information about the benefits and risks of specific procedures, tests, and interventions (both medical and non).  Women need to be empowered by their care providers, family, and society to make informed decisions about what is best for them and their families.

Any one type of birth is not inherently "bad" or "worse" than another. Many women feel most comfortable and safest with a hospital birth with pain management, others feel safest with a scheduled c-section, others feel most comfortable and safest with a birth center or home birth. As long as these were educated, empowered decisions, they are all the "best" way for a baby to be born. The place and way in which the mother feels most safe and comfortable, is also the best way for her baby to be born.

LiteraryFoodie

L&R70707:

00jennifer00:

Putting on my fire retardant suit here.  I've had 3 unassisted births.  I'll have another God-willing.  Nothing I say will change any of your minds, and that's fine.  Nothing you say will change mine.  When I made the decision with my second baby, it was after months and months of research, soul-searching, and prayer.  Until you feel that small voice leading you, you can't understand.  Is it for everyone?  Absolutely not.  Is it for me?  On a case by case basis, yes.  My husband and I know that WE are responsible.  If circumstances were different, we might have other thoughts.  My first u/c was so picture perfect with every single tiny prayer I had answered in very specific ways.  No one can say it wasn't God's will for us.  I personally think it's irresponsible to be pregnant and not know what to do in case of an emergency.  Any baby could come at any time.  There could be a snow storm with phone lines down.  What are you going to do?  I think we should all know how to give birth alone, just in case.  People have been giving birth for a long time, and yes, it can be dangerous, but it's not always.  I'm not going to go eat my cheeseburger in the hospital just in case my heart is about to give up.  Between my close friends and I, we've had 6 u/c's.  Perfect, wonderful, blessed, healthy.  If we ever thought for a second that we needed assistance, we'd get it immediately.

I'm not going to come back to this thread to read all the blasting, so OP, if you want to talk or whatever, pm me.

Considering your siggy says you've had 4 losses...it is beyond me that you are willing to toss the lives of your surviving babies to the wind like that.  By the time people like you think they need assistance, it is too late.

Okay, I don't agree with 00jenifer00's choices, and it is certainly not what I would do, but really, how does throwing her dead children in her face accomplish anything. That's just really low. 

LnR70707

LiteraryFoodie:

L&R70707:

Considering your siggy says you've had 4 losses...it is beyond me that you are willing to toss the lives of your surviving babies to the wind like that.  By the time people like you think they need assistance, it is too late.

Okay, I don't agree with 00jenifer00's choices, and it is certainly not what I would do, but really, how does throwing her dead children in her face accomplish anything. That's just really low. 

Um, yeah...no.  I never said she deserved them or that they were somehow her fault.  I've been through loss myself.  I simply pointed out that, according to her siggy, she hasn't had an easy road, so why keep risk on your side?

MangomamaFL

dande2129:

Please.... please do not do that. That woman was incredibly lucky.

If you want to go the home birth route, check your state regulations and laws about midwife assisted home birth, or see if your area has birthing centers, which are usually less "hospital-ish" and have the birthing tubs and all of those kinds of things, but they are monitored by midwives/doctors.

I don't think that woman is inspiring--- I think she's an egotistical idiot. But, to each their own. 

Incredibly lucky?  I disagree. Childbirth, especially undisturbed birth, is low risk (though not risk free).