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One year post loss coming up

illinigalillinigal member
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Sorry I haven't been around here much lately.  I will try to do better.

Next month, we are coming up on one year post loss.  I'm obviously still sad about losing our boys, but don't cry nearly as much as I used to.  I was trying to decide how to remember them on the day of 8/16.  For those of you that have past the 1 year mark, did you do anything special?  We have their ashes in an urn that I keep on my nightstand.  Several friends raised funds and planted a tree at a local park in their name.  I was thinking about visiting the park on 8/16.  I was also thinking about planting a tree in our yard or getting a tattoo to remember them by.  What have you done?  Any other ideas?

TTC #1 since October 2008. Dealing with MFI.
IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
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Re: One year post loss coming up

  • dandywarholdandywarhol member

    I think a visit to the park would be nice. Maybe you can have a little picnic or write your boys a letter or recite a poem to them. Or just sit and reflect.  

    I haven't reached the one year mark for Sylvie but we've talked a little bit about how to "remember" her. We're thinking of planting an oak tree at my parents house and making a donation in her name to the SPCA. 

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    BFP #2 - Sylvie V. Q. born and died on 10.28.11 at 21w. Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

    BFP #3 - Evie V. Q. Fetal demise @ 16w. DC 7.8.12
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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    Big (((HUGS))).  For Eliott's 1-year, a dear friend brought us a small cake and DH and I sang happy birthday to him.  We took a trip during that time as well (our anniversary is the day after Eliott's birthday) and I wrote his name on the beach.  I'm not sure what we'll do this year yet, but I'd like to continue the cake tradition.
    Mom to Eliott Alexander, born sleeping at 37 weeks on 8/13/10. Most of us only dream of angels - I held one in my arms.
    BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
    BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
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    BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
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