I have a question....

sebailey6

Just wondering how many of you posted pic of your angel on facebook. And wondering if I should or not. I want to post the pic I have as my avatar on here.

ally2011

I did not, but I am private about her pictures.  Only my husband and I, and our parents held her and have seen the pictures.

Do whatever feels right for you.  If you want to share pictures, but not on your FB page, we do have a FB loss group and several moms have shared pic there.  It is secret, but one of the admins can add you.  If you want to be added let us know and I will page them in the group to come check. 

sebailey6

thanks ally! I talked with my husband and he wants me to do what feels right and is on the same page. Thank you for letting me about the loss group.

sebailey6

good point mdharrison thank you

Heatherhah

**ticker warning**

 I shared Sydney's photos after 4 months. Mainly because someone close to my mother told my mother she couldn't have a picture of her on her desk because it was morbid and not appropriate so I posted because I didn't want anyone to feel like my baby was gross or distrubing. She looked like a sleeping baby and it made me so mad that anyone would think of her in any other way. So I posted only the pictures I felt were appropriate and I received nothing but sweet comments about her. It tooks 4 months though I was not willing to share her until then.

I think it is all in your time. If you feel like you want to share the pictures then you should.

Heather

Auki13

I had professional pics taken by NILMDTS and at first only shared a pic of Annabelle's sweet little feet.  At her 6 month angel-versary I did share one edited picture of her on facebook because at that point I was ready to share her with people and I am proud she's my daughter. I was very careful to chose a picture that I feel people wouldn't judge and that was a soft black and white.  It is a very personal decision to make and you need to do what feels best for you and your family.

JabberJay

I posted a picture of my son on FB on his due date. He looked just like a sleeping baby and if it bothered anyone they can bite me. They are also all over my blog. You should do whatever feels right to you.

Your LO is beautiful and if you want to share her - go for it. And if you want to keep her pictures private, that is ok too.
Here is the picture I posted...
https://i236.photobucket.com/albums/ff258/beccamarie82/9db5cd9f-1.jpg

sebailey6

lol...jabberjay...that is exactly what my husband said...if they don't want to see, then don't look. I just posted her sweet face. And expect no one to say anything out of the way. If they do, they should expect an ear full! lol I have been very open about talking about her (maybe not that she had trisomy 13 and we induced early, but they don't need to know that)...and encourage others not to be afraid to talk about her. She is our daughter...and it makes us feel better to talk about her.

dandywarhol

I think I only shared a picture of her toes which is my FB profile picture. The other pictures were just for family. 

amber7111

i havent posted pics yet. part of me wants to bc i think he is so beautiful and i want to share him but at the same time i dont want to force it on people to look if it pops up unexpectedly on their wall thing. his eyes were still sealed shut and i dont want to make people uncomfortable. i think he is perfect but i know some people might not feel the same. i have thought about posting his sweet little feet though. i want to put a pic of him on here but idk know how yet.

figgs0831

I did not share his pictures on facebook.  For us, they were too personal and we wanted them to be kept private.  Our own parents have not even seen them.

jbranden12

It took me a few weeks, but my profile picture is her adorable little feet.

cherrycobbler

I don't really use FB, but my dh did post a picture the day after he died.  If it wasn't the one in my sig, it was similar.  We had the "proud parent" approach, we wanted to show off our baby, we would have done the same if the outcome was different.  I don't see anything wrong with posting a picture (if that is what you want).  And not that this is why we did it, but it really was nice reading everyone's comments about how sorry they were, how beautiful he was, etc.  Nice to hear since most of those people wouldn't be the type to send sympathy cards anyway.  Again, not fishing for sympathy, but it was nice to hear.

sebailey6

cherrycobbler... feel exactly the same way. We would have posted pics if the outcome was different!!! And I felt that all my friends would embrace the chance to see her after posting that she was in heaven. The responses before posting her picture were pouring...again like you said...wasn't looking for  sympathy at all...only wanted to share our angel with everyone!

CEOwife

We handled our loss very privately.  We did not post on FB.  We talked to our family on the phone and spread the word to friends via phone, text or email.  We figured everyone that would ask on FB was notified and FB acquaintances would forget I was pregnant.  I would never want Isaac forgotten but I also did not want to blast our situation all over social media.  I am thinking by now people who were not told have either forgotten or speculate a loss because I have not posted a bump picture and current pictures I am skinnier than previous.

 

I think you should do what is best for you and your family.  If you are comfortable sharing your baby on FB, go for it. I would hope your family and friends would have nothing but support for you. 

weddedwife

We did not. Only a pic of his feet and his footprints. The rest of his body was severely discolored and while I could see past that and see how beautiful he was, I knew others would not. I didn't want to submit him to others' judgment.