Continuing on...(adoption mentioned)

dandywarhol

Last night I began to work on our autobiographical statement for adoption. I'm not sure that we are ready to adopt but I don't like being in limbo and having no control. Beginning this process, whether we end up using it or not, makes me feel like I am doing something towards starting my family. DH and I have always discussed adoption as a way of completing our family. I always thought that we'd have one or two biological children and adopt one. Now I'm thinking that we might need to be flexible with our family planning and start with an adopted child. 

My concern with adoption (and why I know we aren't ready to bring home a baby tomorrow) is that I'm not ready to stop trying to have a biological child. I'll be 36 next month and I'm concerned about the timing. A number of the adoption agencies I've looked at say that it can take 12-36 months to get a child. If we start the process now, and don't get a baby for another 12 months that will make me 37. If we then wait 9 mos to a year to try for another biological baby I may be 38 or 39 if we're lucky enough to have a bio-baby. I'm also concerned that I won't bond with the child, but I've had that same fear with each of my pregnancies.

We have our pp appointment this Wednesday. I hope to get some answers then.  

krysiahamaty

Good luck with everything and keep us posted. Only you can decide when you're ready and I hope you learn what you need to know at your appointment. Please let us know how it goes.

Hugs. 

Petunia844

I hope your appointment goes really well.  I know it's a difficult decision with lots to think about, but if you were to adopt and then find out you were pregnant, worst case scenario is your house would be full and it would be chaotic, but you make it work.  I'm glad to hear you are taking steps and I just hope it all goes well for you.

Heatherhah

Good luck in all that you are working on and I hope the doctor gives you the answers you need. Thinking of you always!!

Heather

Mrs Nice

Good luck on Wednesday, I hope you get the answers you deserve. Having a plan in place to try again or to adopt is a big step. I wish you the best. 

weddedwife

I'm glad you are taking these steps. I agree with Petunia. If you end up adopting AND getting pg then your house will be filled with chaos...and love! And I agree, it's a way of having some control over your family planning. Good luck at your appt and hope everything goes well in the adoption process.

jbranden12

I hope you can get some answers at your appointment tomorrow. If you get pg during the adoption process, I'm sure the ladies over on Two under 2 would love to have you!