the show '16 and pregnant'

lrichmond86

I used to watch 16 and Pregnant as well as Teen Mom prior to our loss.  Occasionally I still watch Teen Mom (for some strange reason I feel a weird connection to Kaitlyn, a mom who placed her daughter for adoption but still sees her occasionally).  Last night I watched an episode of 16 because the description caught my eye.  The girls fiance died shortly after she got pregnant in a freak boating accident.  Then at 30 weeks she went into ptl and was placed on hospital bed rest.  I was holding my breath the whole show, silently hoping that her baby didn't die.  Then they showed a part where she was allowed to have a baby shower at the hospital.  She was walking around and laughing and acting like everything was just fine.  I actually yelled at the TV (don't think I'm crazy... I don't make a habit of doing this lol), "Get back in bed you stupid b****!  Don't you know you're baby could die!?"  It made me so angry!  All of her friends and family are sitting there telling her, "It will be alright... he'll be fine."  But I know better.  I was on hospital bed rest.  I did everything the doctors told me to do.  I didn't go to my baby shower because I knew it was too dangerous.  And my baby STILL died!  I watched up until she delivered at 33 weeks and the baby was alive and then I turned it off.  I was so conflicted.  Part of me was thinking "Thank GOD that baby is alright!"  and another was thinking, "why does this stupid girl get to keep her baby when she can't even be bothered to take care of it, and I had to let mine go?"  Did anyone else see this episode?  Did you have a different reaction?  I'm just curious to know how other people interpret issues like this. 

On the plus side, I didn't let it ruin my mood and I went on to have a lovely evening with DH, so that's a step in the right direction

Bayberry12

I don't watch those shows since my loss, mostly because I'm incredibly jealous, and they are always dealing with drama that almost always has nothing to do with their baby/pregnancy.

We did everything right, were so careful, listened to the Dr. and believed the Dr. every time she said things were ok.  These girls act irresponsible and basically have no means to raise a child, yet they still have their babies.  Of course I wouldn't wish what I went through on anyone, but I do wish it didn't happen to me.  To watch those teenagers would just be another reminder about how unfair things are.   

Heatherhah

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I saw that episode and it was very sad and you are right she seeemed to what ever about her pregnancy but that just reminds me that all other non loss moms are so naive and they have no idea their babies can die. Especially young moms. It is kind of an ignorance thing.

Hugs that show tends to pull my heart in crazy directions but I still wath it.

Heather

lrichmond86

Just to be clear, I have nothing against teen mothers.  My sister was pregnant at 17 and is a WONDERFUL mother, and I know there are plenty like her out there.  It was just this one in particular. 

Guess I just wish I could be naive to the realities of pregnancy again...

StephK86

 

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This actually just happened to me in real life a few weeks aso (and yes I saw the episode too). A girl  I know (I won't say how just because you never know who reads these boards) was starting to have real contractions from about 28 weeks on. She's not a teen and acted like the whole things was a joke when they put her on bed rest. She still went out and about walking, shopping, etc. Finally at 30 weeks they admitted her to the hospital as an attempt to keep her in bed. She still constantly had friends in and out which I am sure she didn't follow instructions even in the hospital. She made it to 34 weeks, which is when I had Gavin. Her baby was small but otherwise perfect. Both her baby and mine were delivered at the same hospital which played a huge part in my child dying. She got to take her baby home only a few days past a normal stay. My son laid in the NICU for almost 2 agonizing weeks where he got diseases that caused him to die at home in my arms. I didn't ever want anything to happen to her baby. In fact I prayed God every night he take care of the baby since she clearly wasn't. I just wish her happy ending was mine also. Oh God writing this made me cry.