Can you say tacky?

chocopotamus

A girl I haven't talked to since high school sent me a fb event request. Basically it says that she can't afford to throw her 4 year old a party and anyone who wants to give her son a gift can either send money or gift cards to her...am I the only one who thinks this is extremely tacky?

Oh and the fact that she just got a new tattoo within the past couple weeks...it's dirt cheap to buy party supplies from the dollar store and you could have a pot luck dinner and make a cake from a box. All that together costs as much as a new tattoo...it's not like it's a surprise that your sons birthday is coming up, ya know?

AshasaurusRex

::picks jaw off floor::

isacdimi10

Yeah. Tacky

I spent maybe $80 on food, decorations, and cake for the kids' birthday. I wasn't even trying to be cheap. If I was trying to be cheap it would have been like $20...

quidditchcapn1120

Yeah, that is tacky.  But if it was someone I had talked to recently I probably would still send the kid a gift, simply because it's not his fault that his mom is good-for-nothing and he still deserves for his day to be special somehow.

I get really irritated when FB friends complain about their money problems except they post pictures of themselves living it up, drinks in hand, at clubs every weekend, or in their brand new cars, or with their brand new phones.  I know the items could have been gifts or they could be special splurges, but don't complain about your electricity being turned off if you have a special data plan on your phone and you're using it to post said FB status update. 

AshleyDG83

Wow....there's so much there that is tacky that I wouldn't even know where to begin. I feel for her little boy though

CoffeeBeen

Tacky - and sad.

chocopotamus

AshleyDG83:

Wow....there's so much there that is tacky that I wouldn't even know where to begin. I feel for her little boy though

I would send a gift but (1) I rarely talked to her in high school, we only played field hockey together. (2) we are pretty tight on money here right now and I have bills that need to be paid first.

I do feel bad for him though  

DreadLoc

Poor kid

melandjudd

I feel sorry for her kid that is crappy. I hope she isn't teaching her DS that this kind of this is ok.

FamilyOfThreeHopeToBeFour

chocopotamus:

A girl I haven't talked to since high school sent me a fb event request. Basically it says that she can't afford to throw her 4 year old a party and anyone who wants to give her son a gift can either send money or gift cards to her...am I the only one who thinks this is extremely tacky?

Oh and the fact that she just got a new tattoo within the past couple weeks...it's dirt cheap to buy party supplies from the dollar store and you could have a pot luck dinner and make a cake from a box. All that together costs as much as a new tattoo...it's not like it's a surprise that your sons birthday is coming up, ya know?

I think it sounds like the 4yo won't be getting much.  LIke she's going to take all the money and gift cards to use on herself. 

klondikebar

Obviously she has money for crack, b/c she's definitely on it. lol WTF?

Venus04d

That is soooo tacky. She could have made her son's day special with or without a party and with or without a bunch of gifts. There were several years that my mom had very little money, but she always made sure we had a small party or took us to do something special. I think it's sad she doesn't seem like she's going to put any effort into his day. 

IrishEyes0530

Venus04d:

That is soooo tacky. She could have made her son's day special with or without a party and with or without a bunch of gifts. There were several years that my mom had very little money, but she always made sure we had a small party or took us to do something special. I think it's sad she doesn't seem like she's going to put any effort into his day. 

This. I think a party is more important than gifts. I feel really sad for him.

NastyAnnie

Wow. Yes, that's incredibly tacky. 

 

If I lived nearby, I'd probably stop by at a time I knew the kid would be home to give him a gift. Something that couldn't easily be returned for store credit... 

penguingrrl

What a trashy b'itch. You can afford a f'ucking tattoo but can't make sure your 4 year old has a birthday? Ewww.

Kitiara5512

quidditchcapn1120:

Yeah, that is tacky.  But if it was someone I had talked to recently I probably would still send the kid a gift, simply because it's not his fault that his mom is good-for-nothing and he still deserves for his day to be special somehow.

kendra223

If I were in your shoes, it would be highly tempting to send her a private message stating what a PP said... I'd say something like "It doesn't cost much to buy party supplies from the dollar store, have a pot luck lunch and make cake from a box. Throw your LO a party, it's his special day! If you can afford that nice new tat, you can afford some things from the dollar store. If you can ask people to send gift cards, you can ask them to bring food for a pot luck."

What a piece of trash. I'm sure the gift cards will be used on herself. I would buy the LO something only he would like and I would "lose" the reciept and not say where I bought it from.

babygrl5507

chocopotamus:

A girl I haven't talked to since high school sent me a fb event request. Basically it says that she can't afford to throw her 4 year old a party and anyone who wants to give her son a gift can either send money or gift cards to her...am I the only one who thinks this is extremely tacky?

Oh and the fact that she just got a new tattoo within the past couple weeks...it's dirt cheap to buy party supplies from the dollar store and you could have a pot luck dinner and make a cake from a box. All that together costs as much as a new tattoo...it's not like it's a surprise that your sons birthday is coming up, ya know?

robinsokj

And since she's requesting monetary donations, not even gifts, none of it will probably go to him

scoutkate

I mean, yeah, it's tacky, but my first thought was, "Sad."

shortms6

Extremely tacky and quite rude.  I can't believe people actually do stuff like that.

ThePolishHammer

Wow. Poor kid. 

gnomemom

Stardust225:

I hate that.

I have an acquaintance who stiffs her kids on parties/ Christmas but can alway have the money to get new ink. I'm a big meanie and I would respond that party supplies and cake from the dollar store are probably as much or less than her new tat.

I would say exactly that, and on her wall, too. I love a good public shaming. I feel sorry for her son. My mom raised us on her own and we never had much money, but what she did have went towards taking care of her family. She always made sure our birthdays were special.

I would also de-friend her. I don't get adding high school acquanitances to FB, but I accept their requests when they send them. However, they get deleted if they irritate me. I don't get anything out of "friendships" like that.

missmuffin87

mom of the year!

Daniellekrista

I have a feeling that the money and gift cards would not be used on her kid.

DragonflyBelle

I probably would have planned and paid for that kid's party myself and just told old cray cray when to show up. You know she's not going to use that money and those gift cards on her kid if she's that selfish.

Luckie519

Yes, it is tacky.

This type of thing aggravates the heck out me!

judahsmommy1

Money has been really tight for us this month so we couldn't afford to do a big birthday party. We took my son out to a jungle gym and out for ice cream and I made a cake out of a box. We spent less than $10 because we really couldn't do more than that. (Our car was totaled this month and we had to buy a new one.) But we did SOMETHING for my son's birthday. We found a way to make it special. And we managed to do it without asking my on-line friends for donations!