What would you do?!

cgr8979

My dd and I are leaving(flying) on Wednesday for a family vacation with my parents and sister. Since my dh just took last week off for our family vacation he has to stay and work.
Here is the problem. We got back in town last night only to discover his grandpa is on his death bed. They have hospice there and it could be hours,days or weeks. No one really knows. We went over there today and he doesn't look like he will make it thru the night. I asked everyone there if i should stay and they were all very adament about me going ahead with my trip.
We are on a very, very tight budget and really couldn't afford to alter my flight if something were to happen. So, that is really an option right now. I've asked my dh what to do and he's all for me going and taking this time to spend with my family (that I don't get to see very often b/c they live 8hrs away.
What would yall do? I'm at a loss. I'm emotional and just torn.

smerka

I would go on the trip.  If DH was an emotional wreck, I'd stay, but it sounds like he's fine with it all.  My grandma recently died after a long illness and when the end finally came, I was just happy for her to be free from the pain.  If my DH had been in your situation, I would have made him go on his trip.

cgr8979

Thank yall! I'm just praying he can make it thru the week or at least thru the next few days so I won't miss the funeral.

judahsmommy1

We just sent my DH on a trip to his hometown to see his grandfather for what we assume will be the last time. If his grandfather passes in the next two months there's no way we can get there because I'm having a baby pretty much any day now. I would go based off of what your DH says. If he's comfortable navigating the emotions alone, then I would let him and keep your trip and don't feel guilty. 

The exception to this is if you think it will cause serious drama in his family later. If there are people who are very passive aggressive and will hold it against you (and possibly your dd) that you weren't there I might consider staying back to stave off that drama. But if the family is emotionally healthy, I'd say go. 

cgr8979

judahsmommy1:

We just sent my DH on a trip to his hometown to see his grandfather for what we assume will be the last time. If his grandfather passes in the next two months there's no way we can get there because I'm having a baby pretty much any day now. I would go based off of what your DH says. If he's comfortable navigating the emotions alone, then I would let him and keep your trip and don't feel guilty. 

The exception to this is if you think it will cause serious drama in his family later. If there are people who are very passive aggressive and will hold it against you (and possibly your dd) that you weren't there I might consider staying back to stave off that drama. But if the family is emotionally healthy, I'd say go. 

They all felt so bad that I am going thru this. They were all VERY sincere when they told me to go. They know my heart, so I know without a shadow of dobt they would NEVER make me feel bad. Thank you for bring this up though, b/c I know a lot of people that this might be the case, thankfully not me!

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judahsmommy1:

We just sent my DH on a trip to his hometown to see his grandfather for what we assume will be the last time. If his grandfather passes in the next two months there's no way we can get there because I'm having a baby pretty much any day now. I would go based off of what your DH says. If he's comfortable navigating the emotions alone, then I would let him and keep your trip and don't feel guilty. 

The exception to this is if you think it will cause serious drama in his family later. If there are people who are very passive aggressive and will hold it against you (and possibly your dd) that you weren't there I might consider staying back to stave off that drama. But if the family is emotionally healthy, I'd say go. 

This is very sage advice.