Feeling down...

kellybug80

I mentioned in last week's FFFC that my IRL best friend and his partner were moving to Puerto Rico.  Well, they left on Wednesday and I am just sad.  I have been irritable and on the verge of tears for the past couple of days.  We don't have any family here and I really only have casual friends in the area. Also, I am a SAHM, so I don't have a ton of interaction with other adults. 

There is really no point to this post other than to wallow.  I am feeling lonely and a bit trapped at the moment, and when I try to talk to SO he just doesn't get it.

sharksfan

I'm so sorry you're feeling down.  I totally get being in an area with no family, and it's difficult to make friends.  Maybe you could join a book club or something to try and meet new people?  Feel better!

Stewartandmaura

Have you tried joining in some mommy groups during the day?

Taking LO to classes (kindermusik/gymboree) will help you meet some people in your area.

Check your church bulletin (if you are a member of a church). They usually have mommy groups.

dlast09

I'm sorry. That does suck! We are in a similar boat. I now live in a state 2,000+ miles away from all of my family and friends. And until recently have had very little adult interaction. Not sure where you live, but have you tried finding a group on Meetup.com? That is the site that my Mommy group uses, and we have lots of during the week events. Sorry your best friend moved away :[ 

kellybug80

Thanks ladies.

I live in the Boston area, so I am sure there are groups.  I have been procrastinating in joining one because I am super shy and awkward.  While my BF lived here I sort of borrowed his circle of friends and I never made much of an effort beyond that.  I know I have to be proactive now (for my daughter's sake as well as my own), but it is hard for me.  I hate my social anxiety.

iverske9

That sucks :-/ I hope you meet another fabulous lady around you and soon :-)

lissfriedrice

Hey.  I am in your boat.  We go to Gymboree class once a week.  I like how I can contribute or be as quiet as I like without any pressure.  We also go to the library.  Story time is free and gets us out.  I haven't joined any other groups yet and we have been here going on 5 months. 

Sorry your lonely...I have the same moments and my husband has no sympathy for me either...I understand its part my own fault.  Funny, I just don't want ANY friend to just have a friend...

kellybug80

Mackalien13:

Kel, I am sorry you are feeling down. We can't be your IRL friends, but we make great Internet buddies! Also, I will play the crap out of some SWF with you! 

I think a Boston bumpie GTG is a great idea!  

Thanks, Mack!  I miss seeing you on here now that you are off contributing to the downfall of society and sh!t.

pearblossom

I'm sorry Kelly! My best friend is leaving for the police academy in a few weeks and after that for a couple rookie years in another city. I'm a mess over it. While she is not a mom, we are very close. Probably to the point of codependence. Other friends are great, but not the same. Hugs!

kellybug80

pearblossom:

I'm sorry Kelly! My best friend is leaving for the police academy in a few weeks and after that for a couple rookie years in another city. I'm a mess over it. While she is not a mom, we are very close. Probably to the point of codependence. Other friends are great, but not the same. Hugs!

Thanks, Pear.  I'm sorry that your friend is leaving; hugs for you, too.  We definitely have the codependency thing going on as well (to the irritation of our SOs).  I think I was in denial about them leaving until I dropped them at the airport, and maybe not even then.  I haven't even cried yet (I have mostly been a huge bush to SO), so I should probably just go ahead with an ugly, snotty cry and get it over with.