Nicu mommies w/ multiples?

mamatotwins0812

So to follow up on my post from earlier, they are releasing my little baby b tomorrow from the nicu after 12 days. This is the most wonderful news, with the exception that his brother has to stay behind because he still wont exclusively bottle feed. To say I am devastated. Is an under statement. Emotionally I don't know how I am going to walk out of that hospital without one of my babies. Physically I have NO idea how I am going to be in 2 places at once and spend the much needed time with baby a, and also at home with baby b. I am just beside myself tonight and feel like a disaster. Has anyone gone through this and have any words of wisdom on how they made it work?? 

Missa_g

I can understand your concern but congrats on one baby coming home!  My boys came home at the same time but we saw many twin families where this was not the case.  Our nicu allowed the discharged twin to be brought back in so I would ask about that.  I hope you're able to bring both home soon!

ijustcantthinkrightnow

First off congrats and happy homecoming for baby b.

My baby B (DS) actually came home first, thankfully the NICU allowed me to bring DS to visit his twin (DD). The first 24 hours home we didn't visit the NICU, we spent that time with DS... Then I usually got up and got DS ready and we'd head to the NICU, I could usually stay about 4 hours and I just visited twice a day when I could.

 I know a lot of other MoM's have split the visits with their H and alternated.

Good luck and best wishes that baby A is home soon. 

mamatotwins0812

henglish85:

I can't give you too much advice as my girls came home within one day of eachother. The good news is that the twin who took the extra day to come home seemed to really kick things into gear when the other twin went home. It was as if she knew her sister left and by the end of the day we got the call that she could leave too! Hopefully your LO will get this eating thing down pat and come home soon!

Thats funny because this isnt the first time I've heard this happening. This would be a DREAM if that happened.

 The real dilemma is our nicu doesn't allow you to bring them back. If I could. It would make it so much easier. I just want both my boys home, together and thriving. My heart breaks when I think of leaving him behind.  

2bunnbunns

This happened to us as well. Baby B (DD) came home first and we were not allowed to bring her with us to visit DS. It was very tough! She came home on Tuesday and he stayed in until Sunday, plus I wasn't cleared to drive yet from my c-section. As DH was still working from home while the babies were in the NICU we would only go there from whenever he was done working through 9:30 pm every night. When DD came home, we didn't know what to do. The first day I drove myself to go see him in the early afternoon and then when I got back DH went but I really shouldn't have driven. The next two nights a friend of mine came up and watched DD so we could see DS which helped a lot. I felt very guilty leaving him there and also guilty leaving her at home to go see him. What I did find was that once she came home, he stepped up his game with his feedings. I still feel guilty leaving him there while she was home with us however it did give us time to adjust to having one baby home before he came home. I am sorry that I have no words of wisdom just that you will make it through and it is tough.

DoingItRight

It is extemely difficult. I had to go back to work before either baby made it out of the NICU. Baby B made it out 6 days after I returned to work and then Baby A made it out 16 days later. We could not bring Baby B back because once they leave the NICU they are considered dirty. We had to miss a couple days visiting Baby A because my husband and I worked different shifts so that they would not have to go to daycare. Several days a friend or my mom would watch Baby B so that we could visit.  It pretty much sucks. 

crystaleyes39

One of our girls got to go home at 3 weeks and the other had to stay behind another 2 weeks longer due to feeding issues as well.  It was very hard, especially finding time to still go see her w/ one baby already home. The only thing that was good was getting used to having just one baby before both were at home, but still I would have prefered both at the same time as course!  Just hang in there and your other LO will be home before you knew it and you will have your hands full!

kelkel09

it is definitely not easy. DD came home after 70 days in the NICU. The day we were bringing her home should have been a great day, but instead it was sad because we had to leave DS behind. DS ended up being in the hospital for 250 days So for almost 6 months, I had to have one baby home and one baby in the hospital. It was extremely difficult. I always felt guilty when I was with one that I wasn't with the other one. Luckily, we had help from my mom and MIL who would take turns during the week watching DD in the afternoons so I could go to see DS in the hospital. That way I got to spend the morning with DD and afternoons with DS. Weekends we had someone watch DD so my DH and I could spend the day at the hospital. It was so exhausting and stressful. My mom kept telling me that I needed to take days off from the hospital, but I felt too guilty. I definitely didn't take care of myself at all. My suggestion is to do whatever feels right to you. If you can't make it to the NICU every day don't beat yourself up. Get rest and take care of yourself. Both babies know you love them!