Have Twins...when to try for another little one? :)

4everlove

Hi Ladies!

My identical twin boys just turned 2!!!  I cannot believe how fast the past two years have gone!  My husband and I LOVE kids and have always said we wanted 3-4 kids.  I am SO excited to start trying for another little one (I am thinking just one since Identicals  aren't supposed to be hereditary lol).

 Anyway, we keep debating about when we want to start trying again.  I think I want to wait before they are potty trained before I even start thinking about it BUT I keep going back and forth on when would be the best time.

 I know every family's situation is unique and obviously we will ultimately be making the decision (God willing) that is best for us BUT I would love your thoughts and opinions. 

My boys are so sweet and caring but also SO busy and all boy!   We live about 2 hours away from our families and I am a SAHM!  My husband is SUPER involved when he isn't at work.  I have a list of pros and cons in my head and am debating if it would be best to try to have another little one before they go to preschool or after they start preschool (4 years old)?   What do you think a good age range is between twins and their next sibling is?  THANKS!

Rynleigh

I think there are a lot of pros & cons to every different type of age gap. My twins are the end of the round-up, for us - we had our singletons first - so I can't give any opinion on what it's like to have more kids after twins at various ages. 

What I can say is that I'm the oldest of 5, and each of us were approximately 2 years apart  (give or take a few months). As siblings, we were very close. We shared a lot of experiences, grew very tight bonds - but we were also extremely competitive, we nearly NEVER got our own, individual attention from our parents, and no one got the kind of focus they really deserved for activities and academics, imo.

My girls are five years apart, and my twins will be 6yrs younger than my last daughter. The girls have their own friends, their own activities, their own interests - they are completely unique and we get the advantage of going to all of their school functions and watching them get to individually grow and help each other. But they also have such diversity that they don't enjoy spending a whole lot of time together.

I bet a 3-4 year age gap would do you just fine tho, if you feel like you'll be ready soon  

pea-kay

i'm obviously different from PP, because once my boys hit 2.5, there was no way i was going to start over again. i had major baby fever up until that point, and then it was like, "no way am i going through all of THAT again voluntarily." but that's just me.

jbrennan312

You have to do whatever works for your family! We decided to have our 3rd now because we always said we want our children close in age.

Kb103109

pea-kay:

i'm obviously different from PP, because once my boys hit 2.5, there was no way i was going to start over again. i had major baby fever up until that point, and then it was like, "no way am i going through all of THAT again voluntarily." but that's just me.

 

 

I am with you.  My girls are only 7 months old and I had really bad baby fever after they were born.  I kept telling DH I wanted to try for another one in like a year.  He thought I was crazy.  Now that they are getting to be mobile and I am sooo busy.  I started thinking I didn't want to do this again.  Plus we had to do fertility treatments so I do not want to go through all that again.  To the original poster more power to you if you want to have another baby.  I would say that 3 or 4 years apart is a good age gap imo.