:-/

ButtonsPepper

I posted this in the FB, but I'm going to post here too. All of this is crazy, and I don't agree with either side being rude/disrespectful to either side. I have been staying out of all the FB/TB drama for this whole thing, I just wanted to let you girls know, there are a lot of us that don't want to involve ourselves with this stuff. 

I don't frequent this board much, because FB is just easier to access on my phone, and I mostly FB/TB while I'm nursing, but I do use TB for other boards (TTC, TTC after a loss at times, babies 9-12, and nursing while TTC support groups), and to be honest, without this board, I wouldn't have made connections with some really great girls.

FB/TB girls, this is all quite silly. Lets use the boards we like to frequent for what it's meant to be here for. :-/ I'll shut up now.  

[Deleted User]

I was just thinking that I'm sure there are plenty of non-crazy posters on the FB group who don't appreciate being lumped in with these dumbasses.

UGADawg8

I agree with Buttons.  I was a regular bumper until I had C and then it was just easier to post on FB from my phone.  I have no desire to cause or participate in drama between the two groups.  

EloiseWeenieSkipperdee

We accept your olive branch.

[Deleted User]

And here's some food for thought for the non-crazy FB ladies too:

Does it make you feel safe knowing that there are women who know your full names and where you live who get their kicks by trolling?

I appreciate that you're speaking up, but I would seriously reconsider my participation in a FB group that knowingly included trolls.

You're welcome to post here, though.

Chunstad

Buttons, that is a very classy thing for you to say.  I've always stayed out of this whole mess, but the posts today are really annoying.  Thank you for saying what you did :-)

LoveBabies1207

I love me my fb girls, I know them well, and I know it's just all in good fun. I also was a part of a tk board that got bombed with random stuff for months, and it was a pain, so I feel ya. 

Tbh there is one girl here that really rubbed me the wrong way, bc support groups for people going through cancer and life threatening children's diagnosis that we are involved in have NOTHING to do with self indulgent ladies, I took great offense to that as did a lot of us, most of the girls here weren't involved in the rude comments made by one.  

LoveBabies1207

LoveBabies1207:

 Lie me my fb girls, I know them well, and I know it's just all in good fun. I also was a part of a tk board that got bombed with random stuff for months, and it was a pain, so I feel ya. 

Tbh there is one girl here that really rubbed me the wrong way, bc support groups for people going through cancer and life threatening children's diagnosis that we are involved in have NOTHING to do with self indulgent ladies, I took great offense to that as did a lot of us, most of the girls here weren't involved in the rude comments made by one.  

This is buttons pepper, this was my ae when I was secretly ttc... Posting from phone oops 

pearblossom

LoveBabies1207:

I love me my fb girls, I know them well, and I know it's just all in good fun. I also was a part of a tk board that got bombed with random stuff for months, and it was a pain, so I feel ya. 

Tbh there is one girl here that really rubbed me the wrong way, bc support groups for people going through cancer and life threatening children's diagnosis that we are involved in have NOTHING to do with self indulgent ladies, I took great offense to that as did a lot of us, most of the girls here weren't involved in the rude comments made by one.  

Not that I should have to explain myself, but...

Those groups were NOT support groups for the women affected. They were formed behind those women's backs so that everyone could discuss THEIR feelings and what THEY were going to do about it. TBH, if you had formed that kind of group about MY breast cancer, I would be uncomfortable to say the least.

I know you all have good intentions by forming those groups, but I am not comfortable being a part of them, so I left. I don't see how there is anything wrong with that. 

LoveBabies1207

There's nothing wrong with leaving them, there is something wrong in judging the intentions of why they were created. Raising money and creating them to purchase things for these women going through these awful things to help them out and brighten their spirits, is anything but self indulging. Personally, what you said really rubbe me the wrong way, not that you left them/de friended me. I don't care who wants to be a part of what

pearblossom

Also, how is posting my real name, using my child's birthday to create an account referencing a vaginal disease and posting about corpses all in good fun?

I know who you are, buttons, and I feel bad that you think I have any bad intentions here. I quit the group quietly and gave the TB girls the dish, which I would expect of any of them. I tried to be as non-personal or smack talking as possible. I only talked about my own feelings and experiences. What I really don't understand is why all these people are here, when we were not even in the same FB group.

What these girls are doing is disgusting bullying, it is not in good fun. I accused them of being bullies the first time around, when they decided to split up the FB groups. I still don't see myself being proven wrong.

pearblossom

LoveBabies1207:

There's nothing wrong with leaving them, there is something wrong in judging the intentions of why they were created. Raising money and creating them to purchase things for these women going through these awful things to help them out and brighten their spirits, is anything but self indulging. Personally, what you said really rubbe me the wrong way, not that you left them/de friended me. I don't care who wants to be a part of what

Okay, so we can agree to disagree on the groups. I feel the way I feel. I defriended everybody because I don't know who is doing all this creepy stuff targeting me.

haleyjane9

I'm with Buttons here. I don't even know who you are, Pear, but the group thing also rubbed me the wrong way. Those groups were created as a way to come up with ideas to support and brighten the days of our friends who were/are suffering an illness. Had they been in the group and known about sending cards daily, I don't think it would have been nearly as special. I can't speak for them, but I know that knowing I'm getting flowers or cards or that people are raising money or whatever would take the fun out of it. 

 

Anyway! Like it has already been said, you could have just left without judging our intentions. I'm backing out slowly now. Be nice! Haha! 

akabillups

I hate all the FB/TB drama as well.....I love my facebook girls and have met a handful of them in person. I personally choose not to get involved in the drama because that is just not my thing (although it is quite entertaining!)

 I think it is awesome that these mommas can come together when another momma is in need....maybe one day this "feud" will be laid to rest.

 

 On another note....look at my cute baby below!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!