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CCL1-5-08

Do your husbands have a boys night?  My husband is a bit of a work addict. He is in the medical field so I understand he has longer hours. So, I guess I don't understand why you would want to have time away from the family when your work takes so much time. Anyone else have a similar situation? I go to MOPS, so I understand wanting time to relax.

Kaiterz

MH plays poker w/ friends every other Saturday.  He went this past weekend for the 1st time in at least 6 weeks

We've discussed that I would get a night out the alternating weekends, but I'm just not as good at getting myself out when I should.

ETA:  MH also works a lot of extra hours but luckily those hours are worked from home which helps.  Also, I ask that he doesn't go out for the night until our oldest is in bed.  Her bedtime is 7:30 so it really isn't that unreasonable.

jf198400

My DH was going to a Tuesday night bball league and often Friday night pickup games as well, until he recently got injured and now he can't play for awhile.  He works long hours and has a long commute so he's gone 6am-8pm M-F.  We discussed that its still important for both of us to be able to do things we enjoy.  On Friday nights he would at least help me get older DD to bed before he left.  He is also willing to watch the kids so I can get out by myself, but it rarely happens- I need to find some hobbies and friends.

JaysonandKristin

Nope.  DH doesn't have many friends.  He doesn't really like people all that much.

He always talks about starting a guys poker night or whatever, but never executes.

With running a company, finishing up college full-time and working out he never seems to be able to find the time.  I guess it's not a priority for him right now.   

Mom2Mack1

DH has lots of hobbies that give him plenty of boy time.  In fact he's out right now for the morning doing his guy time.  He needs time to relax too.  We've always been understanding of each other having me time.  He knows when I'm stressed to take DD so I can can relax, even if it's just playing on the internet.  He def gets more me time than I do but he's never said I can't do something. 

mayowife

DH doesn't have any regularly scheduled guys nights, but I don't have a problem with him getting together with friends. His time with friends is usually spent golfing or going to a baseball, hockey, or football games. Usually it's less than once a month.

We both have similar work schedule and see our kids close to the same amount of time. 

He does play hockey 1-2 times per week. At least one of those times is when the kids are sleeping.

celiabwatson

Yes, and he's normally pretty introverted so I love that he gets out there. He has a standing thing with his friends on Monday nights. He also plays softball on the company team. Two years ago it was Mondays, last year it was Tuesdays, this year it's back to Mondays. When softball is on Mondays he just does both things in the same night, which I prefer.

He was totally willing to let me have a girl's night as well, but then he switched to 2nd shift so he's not actually home in the evening to allow a girl's night to happen. We tried having me go to the farmer's market and for coffee on Saturday mornings but the toddler threw a fit because he wanted to go too. We're still working on coming up with something else, but in the meantime I love that my husband gets some time to be something other than husband/father. I know that I'm often too drained at the end of the day to give him any attention that isn't directly related to running our home.