I would read carefully the specifics of any study regarding the effects of CIO, as they tend to include instances of obviously neglected children left to cry all day and night, not what most people consider CIO- short periods of time for a few nights for an older baby with the purpose of sleep training.
Feeling like it is not a right choice for your family is a perfectly valid reason not to do CIO, kwim? You don't have to prove anything to anyone.
I would read carefully the specifics of any study regarding the effects of CIO, as they tend to include instances of obviously neglected children left to cry all day and night, not what most people consider CIO- short periods of time for a few nights for an older baby with the purpose of sleep training.
Feeling like it is not a right choice for your family is a perfectly valid reason not to do CIO, kwim? You don't have to prove anything to anyone.
This.. Although I swore I would never CIO, I tried this when lo was 8 months old and he went from waking 10 or more times a night to three or less. He learned to put himself to sleep when he woke up during the night and I can tell his quality of sleep is so much better now. It wasn't even that hard for us- the first night he cried for 20 minutes with me soothing every few... The next night I tried leaving him alone and he was out in minutes. Bedtime is so much easier now; I still nurse and rock him - he slips right off rather than screaming and fighting it for hours.
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I would read carefully the specifics of any study regarding the effects of CIO, as they tend to include instances of obviously neglected children left to cry all day and night, not what most people consider CIO- short periods of time for a few nights for an older baby with the purpose of sleep training.
Feeling like it is not a right choice for your family is a perfectly valid reason not to do CIO, kwim? You don't have to prove anything to anyone.
I am just trying to figure out what we should do about DD. I am supposed to be working the 6:15 shift at work in the fall, which means I will need to wake up at 5:30 am, and I cannot handle her waking up to nurse all night in that context. We probably won't CIO, we'd night-wean a la the Jay Gordon method (which we used with DS, albeit when he was around 15 months), but I just want to make sure I won't be harming her.
I really believe that a child that is well cared for and loved is resilient enough to weather a stormy week or two of sleep training, if that is what is best for the family. You can't permanently damage a child so easily. Be extra available and cuddly during the period of change, and find a method that you are comfortable with. Look at the Sleep Lady Shuffle for some sort of middle ground between CIO and nothing (but it didn't work for my kid... sigh).
Re: Research about CIO
https://www.drmomma.org/2009/12/sleep-training-review-of-research.html
This site has links to a bunch of different research.
There's really no *true* research of a large sample size of kids involving CIO.
There's this, but I would take it with a HUGE grain of salt--
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201112/dangers-crying-it-out
There is a lot of interesting research on sleep in general on the kellymom website.
https://kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/sleepstudies/
I would read carefully the specifics of any study regarding the effects of CIO, as they tend to include instances of obviously neglected children left to cry all day and night, not what most people consider CIO- short periods of time for a few nights for an older baby with the purpose of sleep training.
Feeling like it is not a right choice for your family is a perfectly valid reason not to do CIO, kwim? You don't have to prove anything to anyone.
I am just trying to figure out what we should do about DD. I am supposed to be working the 6:15 shift at work in the fall, which means I will need to wake up at 5:30 am, and I cannot handle her waking up to nurse all night in that context. We probably won't CIO, we'd night-wean a la the Jay Gordon method (which we used with DS, albeit when he was around 15 months), but I just want to make sure I won't be harming her.
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