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ktshafra
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XP: RCS soon after 1st C/S?
ktshafra
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Anyone have a RCS relatively soon after a first c/s? DD1 was breech and I had a scheduled c/s. It ended up being a easier recovery than I expected. We got pregnant more quickly than planned and now this baby's breech, too. I haven't felt her flipping around at all. It's like she's firmly planted head-up. So now I'm preparing myself for another c/s, but I'm brokenhearted (for many reasons). I'm mostly concerned with how it will be taking care of my 13 month old. DH will take some time off to be with us and my mom will help a lot. I'm just worried that DD1 won't understand why I can't pick her up or hold her as easily as I currently am (and it's already starting to be a struggle).
Anyone BTDT in a similar situation and have it turn out okay?
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Re: XP: RCS soon after 1st C/S?
I can't answer your question really because I never had a CS, but I was told that after my second was born, I should not lift my 12mo for 4-6 weeks. It was heartbreaking for me because he he was such a baby to me still. I did have a lot of help from my H and my mom. I did find though that I could still cuddle and hold him as long as someone picked him up and put him next to me or in my lap.
Don't know if this answers your question, but hope it helps.
I had a scheduled cs with DD1 and attempted a VBAC with DD2 that ended up a cs. They're 14.5 months apart. I'm not going to lie...it was heartbreaking not being able to take care of DD1 like I was used to. I started picking up DD1 to put her in her highchair, onto her changing table, etc. at about 2 weeks PP. By three weeks, I was carrying her around like normal. My recovery the first time was easy, but the second time was SO much better. The moments when you can't pick up your older LO are tough, but those first few weeks go by so quickly!
I've had C/S with both of my children and the recovery was a lot harder with the second. It really took 8 weeks to feel normal again. My DS was 15 months old when my DD was born. Not only can you not lift anything heavier than the baby, but even giving your older child a bath is hard. You would be surprised at the abdominal muscles you use even doing that.
My DS did seem bothered that I couldn't lift him at the time. But it was only 8 weeks and he was too little to remember.
Make sure you have help for 8 weeks until you are cleared to lift things heavier than the baby. Good luck!
Call me selfish, but I took the time off of taking care of DS1 with no guilt whatsoever. I didn't care. I was worried about myself and my healing process.
My boys are 19 months apart, and both born by c/s. Both of my recoveries were a breeze because of my plan to do absolutely nothing for the first 3 weeks.
DH and I set out with a divide and conquer attitude. DH took care of all of DS1's needs for the first 3 weeks, and I took care of all of DS2's needs. It worked beautifully. DEFINITELY, make sure you have support.
The last thing you need is to guilt yourself into doing something you shouldn't be doing and injure yourself. You'll set yourself back even further, and you risk splitting yourself open. Is that really worth the few weeks? Not in my book.