SIL is a B1TCH (vent)

Kitiara5512

I posted about H's grandmother passing away. I have previously biitched about SIL and the crap she had been saying about H (long story, not repeating it).

After C was born, we took him to visit H's parents and grandparents, who all live in different cities around 6 hours away from us but within a couple of hours of each other. We found out that SIL was pissed at FIL a couple of years or so before for not being willing to falsify some documents for her H, so she and her new H packed up and left to move to the city MIL lives in, and FIL hadn't seen her girls since, and never met her son, I dont think. She had also told her kids that H is evil.

She couldn't get the time off to go to the funeral, but all three of her daughters were there. H refused to go talk to them, so I went up and said hi. I have only seen them once since we got married, and they were all under 7 at the time. The oldest will graduate highschool in a couple of years. First they said they had no clue who we were, then flat out said they weren't allowed to talk to any of us (H or I). I think I may have stood there for a couple of seconds like I got slapped or something, then told them that once they were 18, if they wanted to look us up, we would always welcome them with open arms. Then I went off and cried. And they looked like they felt so bad telling me that. After the funeral, I found from FILs parents that they would not talk to them either, and have not been allowed to ever since biitchassfuckingcuntwhore got mad at FIL.

MIL had been going on about how they were so excited about C when he was born, and they wanted to meet him, etc. We let her take C over to meet them. They wouldn't even say hi, saying that he was included in the people they could not talk to. Their biitch mother has them under orders to not talk to a toddler. Their great grandmother only went to the funeral because she knew they would be there, and they could not say hi. SIL is such a total cuntface. I really and truly hate her. I wish she was on this board so she could see this, and the hopefully angry comments her bitchness illicits.

Or you could remind me how I should let go and be the better person. I am so angry, just on H and C's behalfs, that this stupid, small minded, twatface has put her family in this position of kiss her ass or be denied her children.

nanabanana06

I got no advice. However, she sounds like a complete biitch. If you need an extra pitchfork in the SIL mob, you got it.

[Deleted User]

Dude, that beyond sucks.  However, it does sound like they don't necessarily agree with their mom, more like they're afraid of her biitchyness.  I'm glad you told them they could look you up later & you'd welcome them.  They needed to hear that.  Sorry this is so rough on you, esp. during this sh'it time.  ((hugs))

Kitiara5512

Thanks all. I do get to suck it up; H doesn't like them being put in the position where they have to choose between listening to their mom and their cousin, and he accepted her shiit a long time ago.

ThePolishHammer

What a b!tch! I'm sorry you guys are going through this. No one should act like that, even more so towards family. 

kllrbnny

I'm sorry you're having to deal with family being shitty on top of everything else. There is somewhat similar nonsense happening with my mom's side of the family, we are totally being shunned for made up reasons.

I know how frustrating & infuriating it can be. Have as many bitchfests as you need here with us so that you can minimize the amount of time you think about her shitz IRL.

lildevil968

We must have the same SIL. Iam going to say be the bigger person, and just let it go. With any luck the kids will grow up and find out what a crazy b*tch their mother is.