Any moms with an EX in the Air Force?

sammyk0688

I filed for CS in January in Delaware (if anyone is from DE on here, can we be friends??? lol) and have been calling periodically to try and figure things out.  I recently had to block ex's number and facebook because he was asking me on a date and asking me to have sex with him (umm, no?) and I was sick of it.  I called DCSE last week and was told that they are having trouble locating him because of a change of address.  I informed them that he was in the AF and she laughed and said "oh this is gonna take forever..."  Well thanks.  Definitely a confidence booster.  I can't contact him to find out his address because I'd prefer not getting into an argument.

Anyway, I'm just trying to figure out if this is worth it anymore.  I don't want to give him a reason to harass me and I really don't want to give up the quality time that I have with my little man every day.  Ex doesn't deserve him and didn't want him from the time I told him I was pregnant.  Any advice would be welcome.  

Sorry I sound like a nutcase.  I'm exhausted.  Thanks ladies!   

FyreFlyeRush

My sister had a child with a Marine. It took 13 mos to get to court. That's a decent amount of time here. Someone in the military is easier to find than anyone else. But, it does take time to located and get to court. Sadly, you aren't you aren't the only single parent they're helping.  

ashlin242000

Hi

My ex is in the Airforce, feel free to contact me anytime if you have any questions.

 

KyleTrigger

I don't have any advice on the military issue but I did want to comment on the custody thing.

Does your Ex want to be involved or see him now? If he does as much as you don't want to give up your time, you need to do as much as you can to let him be involved. ONLY for your son. It will hurt him almost guaranteed when he is older to never have his dad around. And some children even blame mom if dad says oh but i tried and mom never let me around.

I know it is hard. For me it has eventually come down to the fact that Ex does see the kids but doesn't do it as much as he threatened at the start of this whole thing. He talks and talks but doesn't walk the walk. I worried myself sick and lost SOOOO many nights of sleep over the thought of losing even partial custody of my babies to him. In the end the amount of time is hard to give up but its very small.

sammyk0688

He has said that if DS is his, he wants to be involved.  I haven't heard from him in weeks now and when I first told him I was pregnant he said he didn't want to be involved.  Granted, I blocked his number and blocked him on facebook, BUT I provided him with my e-mail address and told him that if he wanted to contact me concerning anything with DS, he could.  Otherwise I didn't want to hear from him.  He harassed me for two weeks about dating again and hooking up before I finally told him that I was sick of it and blocked him.  I don't know if he wants to be involved, but I don't want to send him a message or unblock his number and ask.  This is so irritating.