i guess i will introduce myself...

sebailey6

In two days we will be inducing early (July 18th) as my baby girl Kalani has been diagnosed with Trisomy 13. We made this decision because we don't want our daughter to have to suffer unnecessarily if we were to go full term. It is comforting to know that my mom and her aunt will be waiting on her in heaven with open arms.

I have made as many preparations for her arrival as possible in the hopes of having no regrets when it comes to Kalani. We will be able to hold her, take pictures, get hand and footprints, invited family and a close friend or two, have a ceremony in her honor in the room after delivery, bought an outfit and blanket for her, and bought an urn to keep her close to us. We also have a bear that will record her heartbeat for us to listen to whenever we want.

This is the hardest decision we have ever had to make...and I am so scared of the next few days. Please send thoughts and prayers our way...as the hardest day is yet to come.

 

foxxy1

I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Kalani. Please know you're welcomed here and there's no judgment. I think there are a few Angel Mommies who had similar/same situations as yours.

Recently, a thread was created for new Mommies such as you. It will help you through the next few weeks.

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/66361040.aspx

You can be yourself here - cry, vent, do a happy dance, even share good news whenever you want. The ladies on here are absolutely amazing and just a wonderful support. *HUGS*

sebailey6

Thank you so much ladies. I just received her outfit in the mail...it's so teeny tiny...but perfect for her. It reads: Thank heaven for little girls.

Her name actually means The Heaven:)

Mrs Nice

I am so sorry you have had to make this difficult decision. It is good that you have had the time to prepare but it doesn't make it any easier or less painful. She is your baby girl and always will be. Love her and hold her as long as you can.

I am glad that you have found us. I know that there are others here who have had to make that same painful decision. I hope we can bring you comfort and support during this difficult time. We are here to listen to anything you need to say.

Big hugs to you!

P.S. I love her name. So beautiful! 

lrichmond86

I am so sorry that you're dealing with this.  What a beautiful name you chose for your little girl!  I love that you've made so many preparations to make your time with her as special as possible.  You'll be in my T&P in the coming days. 

sloannmark

I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I will be thinking about you over the next few days.

cmenasco

I'm new here too and so far this board has really helped.  I'm so sorry you had to make that decision....it has to be even harder.  I was very thankful that I got to hold my little girl, 1 lb 8 oz....so tinny.  Sending you hugs and strength.

cherrycobbler

I am so sorry about all of this.  I am glad that you have been able to make so many arrangement for when you meet little Kalani, I wish we would have known to prepare for the same.  I will be thinking about you and your family on Wednesday and hoping for peaceful moments with your little girl.

Williamandshawnna

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Thoughts and Prayers with you now and throughout this difficult time. ~~~HUGS~~~

-Shawnna

dandywarhol

I'm so sorry that you had to make such a difficult but ultimately compassionate decision. My thoughts will be with you and little Kalani.

lmielocl1

I wish I had the words to express how sorry I am.  My thoughts & prayers are with you and your sweet Kalani.  (((hugs))).

- Leslie

~ Mommy to Aaron, almost 21 months and to our sweet angel, Ethan James, born sleeping at 18w on 6/15/12. 

jbranden12

I am so sorry you have to go on this journey with your precious Kalani. What a beautiful name! I completely understand wanting to be prepared. We waited two days to deliver Patricia after we found out she passed and I spent most of them researching how I wanted her birth to be.

We will be thinking of you tomorrow. You are welcome here always. 

Bayberry12

Hi,

I just want you to know that I am so sorry you are going through this.  It's not fair.  I hope you can take comfort in all preparations you have made.  I think maybe it's helpful that you have had some time to think about what is going to happen, and you know how you want to handle everything.  

I know you don't know me, but I'll be thinking of you and your family. 

tuscanbride2007

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Kalani. There are no words to express how sorry I am that you have to go through this. Thoughts and prayers to you.

((HUGS))