Religious circumcision question

ChristyML

If you AP and are Jewish, do you circumcise? There was a huge big debate on the facebook AP page, and I was wondering about the religious issue of circumcision. I am not Jewish (I'm Catholic), and have not studied the religion of Judaism.

AquaFlowers

It all depends on your beliefs. 

kcisthebombdotcom

I'm not religious, but I am AP and circumcise. For me, I did much research and felt that the medical benefits of the procedure outweighed the risks. I believe you can be AP and circ. I've never felt that to be AP you *have* to do things one particular way or you aren't an attachment parent anymore.

webMistress0609

I'm Jewish but not Orthodox & not very observant. However, there are certain cultural & traditional aspects of Judaism that are very important to me. 

Ari is circ'd. DH was against it, I was on the fence until the very last minute. I gave in the family pressure. I decided almost immediately once it was done that I would never do it to any future sons.  

boogerbearoriginal

AP is not a rigid set of rules. If you circ/don't, or bf/ff, etc. it doesn't make you AP or not. Things like babywearing, BFing, etc are tools for AP but just like using a hammer/saw doesn't make you a carpenter, those tools aren't about defining a parenting style.

There are certainly religious reasons why a person would choose circumcision that are perfectly valid. I cannot fathom how this was even a debate, do they debate about whether getting a child baptized makes someone AP/not? And just because the latest "spokesperson" for AP does do something, why does that matter? 

boogerbearoriginal

MandJS:

Booger+Bear:

AP is not a rigid set of rules. If you circ/don't, or bf/ff, etc. it doesn't make you AP or not. Things like babywearing, BFing, etc are tools for AP but just like using a hammer/saw doesn't make you a carpenter, those tools aren't about defining a parenting style.

There are certainly religious reasons why a person would choose circumcision that are perfectly valid. I cannot fathom how this was even a debate, do they debate about whether getting a child baptized makes someone AP/not? And just because the latest "spokesperson" for AP does do something, why does that matter? 

I don't think it does matter. I was just confirming something another poster thought might be true. But yes - I agree with you. AP is not a set of rules, IMO, but rather a philosophy to parent in a way that works best for you and your family. 

Sorry that question wasn't directed at you, or anyone in particular. More rhetorical than anything else.

blu-eyedwife

We circumsized our son at his bris.  The Jewish traditions are really important to me because of my background (growing up in a very intolerant area) and that pretty much trumps everything else.   I never really thought of it as being "the AP thing to do" or "the AP thing not to do."  For me, and many other posters, the attractiveness of AP is that most aspects are natural and instinctual.  For me, this decision falls in that category.

ChristyML

Thanks everyone! I had the Attachment Parenting page on Facebook "liked" and they said it is against AP to circumcise. I had thought otherwise, that it was your own choice. It always is anyway obviously, but there was something posted on their wall that made me feel like a bad person because I plan to circumcise. I have since unliked them, and I was going to report them, but wasn't exactly sure what to report them for exactly.

Getting your ladies' feedback though, I feel a lot better about circumcising, thank you!  

terri_doula2010

fredalina:

Justsummie:

Some do. Some don't.  I have read that Mayim Bialik's boys are circed if that means anything to anyone.

 

I don't mean this as an attack on you, but I think it's sad that people care enough about the state of someone else's children's private parts for there to be rumors about this.

It isn't a rumor. Mayim has talked about it freely.

lady_tytah

I am Pentecostal...or at least I was raised to be. We strongly believe in circ'ing for many of the same reasons as Judaism. I also liked the AP fb page and personally get tired of reading about how circ'ing is so devastating. But that's my own view. All parent styles seem to have their own set of rules. Just religions have their own. It's a matter of finding what works for your family.

webMistress0609

ChristyML:

Thanks everyone! I had the Attachment Parenting page on Facebook "liked" and they said it is against AP to circumcise. I had thought otherwise, that it was your own choice. It always is anyway obviously, but there was something posted on their wall that made me feel like a bad person because I plan to circumcise. I have since unliked them, and I was going to report them, but wasn't exactly sure what to report them for exactly.

Getting your ladies' feedback though, I feel a lot better about circumcising, thank you!  

Which AP page on FB are you referring to? There are several different ones, some of which are very anti-circ. I unliked one b/c that was all that was ever posted it seemed, & it was really annoying. There are others that either don't discuss it or at least don't discuss it often. 

 Unfortunately, you really can't report them b/c it is free speech, no matter how annoying. 

ChristyML

webMistress0609:

ChristyML:

Thanks everyone! I had the Attachment Parenting page on Facebook "liked" and they said it is against AP to circumcise. I had thought otherwise, that it was your own choice. It always is anyway obviously, but there was something posted on their wall that made me feel like a bad person because I plan to circumcise. I have since unliked them, and I was going to report them, but wasn't exactly sure what to report them for exactly.

Getting your ladies' feedback though, I feel a lot better about circumcising, thank you!  

Which AP page on FB are you referring to? There are several different ones, some of which are very anti-circ. I unliked one b/c that was all that was ever posted it seemed, & it was really annoying. There are others that either don't discuss it or at least don't discuss it often. 

 Unfortunately, you really can't report them b/c it is free speech, no matter how annoying. 

I was going to report it as "hate speech" towards a religious group, as some of the comments were bashing the Jewish faith just because of the circumcision issue, and the page itself was pushing what they were saying. I said nothing wrong, and my comment got deleted, yet the ones that were actually bashing Jewish people weren't deleted. 

boogerbearoriginal

Wow. That's really sad that they would be so disrespectful to a religious belief. Not cool.

ChristyML

Booger+Bear:

Wow. That's really sad that they would be so disrespectful to a religious belief. Not cool.

I know right? Made me very angry. 

CalinsBride

lady_tytah:

I am Pentecostal...or at least I was raised to be. We strongly believe in circ'ing for many of the same reasons as Judaism. I also liked the AP fb page and personally get tired of reading about how circ'ing is so devastating. But that's my own view. All parent styles seem to have their own set of rules. Just religions have their own. It's a matter of finding what works for your family.

I was raised pentecostal (as in, went to church multiple times a week) and have never heard circumcision discussed in any capacity.