While waiting..did you ever question yourself?

potatohead

Now that we have approached the 9 month mark waiting, I am starting to question our profile, whether we presented ourselves accurately, whether our profile needs a facelift, why potential BM's haven't chosen us.  I know the perfect match will happen when it's supposed to happen, but..I can't help but wonder why we are being overlooked.  Because we have a bio DD?  Do we seem too complete already?  I don't know.  Please tell me I'm not alone in this feeling.  I wonder whether we will ever get "the call" or whether it will just be by default...one day we will be the longest waiting family and that's how it will happen.  ???

silliestbunny

Absolutely. 

We eventually ponied up and paid a professional ($500) to redo our profile.  It turned out great... was individualized nicely... but as Murphy would have it, it never was shown for our situations.  We matched without it

Two recommendations-

1- Have close friends take a look and see if they think it accurately portrays you.

2-  Have some adoption world friends take a look at it from an adoption prospective. 

Hang in there...

 PS-  We kept our profile active even when we'd just adopted our first baby girl because we assumed it would take forever.  A birth mom chose us when DD1 was just 3.5 months old.  So... sure the idea is that it could take you longer with a bio daughter (or any daughter) but believe me... the strangest things can hapen.

 

 

Dr.Loretta

Sure.

And our SW said after about 9 months it might be time to revisit our profile anyway.

hlsgrad

I was in same situation with a then 3 y/o DD. So I completely redid mine and changed the pictures as we approached the 9 month mark. Once it was perfect, I mailed 15 of them to our lawyer. We were picked in the meantime - using the old profile and brought DD2 a week later.

 

Honeydew1894

Absolutely. What DH and I feel is that when the right BM comes along, our profile WILL speak to her regardless of how fancy it is or is not. We did re-do our profile after 1.5 years, but only to make it larger. Good luck!

hway24

Yes, all the time. After 6 months, we redid it, then after 9 months we still had never been picked, and decided to pay someone to do it. They turned out awesome, and the month we started using the new profiles, our BM picked us.

IRR

Carson Ryan is adorable!

hway24

IRR:

Carson Ryan is adorable!

Thank you!

MarionB79

I was right where you are just a little more than a week ago and now I am holding my son. It all makes sense now, but believe me I know how hard it is to just wait. Hang in there and pray. Your child will find you!