SCARED to have another baby!!!

earthmama2011

Hi Moms, 

I had DD via c section nearly 10 months ago after a very long labor.  I was told by my MW, the OBGYN that performed the section as well as my Fam. Dr. (yes, I asked everyone;) that I would need to have c sections for any future children. The thought of this really scares me. It's so bad that I don't want to have any more babies. My c section went perfect, I healed up quickly and didn't have any complications (other then constipation, sorry TMI) so it's not like I've been "traumatized" I just don't want to go through it all again. Plus, a little part of me is scared to die on the operating table. 

A couple of my girlfriends have had multiple c sections and they have told me that the recovery is even quicker for a planned section since you don't labor first. But that doesn't reassure me.  

Does anyone else share these same feelings? I know it's still early to be thinking of another baby but DH has brought it up and it literally makes me feel sick thinking about it. 

Thank you ladies:) 

jllmb79

Same c section experience as u....I am scared about going under the knife again but I can't wait to have another little angel

MSUMamaof2

Don't be scared.  I delivered an almost 12 pound baby via repeat scheduled c-section and had an easier recovery than with my first baby.  You'll be fine. 

Soon2BMrsN

I had the same feelings for quite awhile after I had DS1.  They eventually went away, and I felt at peace with a RCS as soon as I found out I was pg with DS2.

nosoup4u

I would still ask around about VBAC vs. RCS. Maybe you're in an area that's hard to find a VBAC supportive provider. Look up your local ICAN group, and go to some meetings. Talking to other women who've had c/s can help you. Definitely give it some time...it took me a full year to process my c/s with DS1, and I didn't want anymore kids if it meant c/s. hth

denitab

I was completely devastated when I had to have an emergency c-section. I had made up in my mind that I wanted a vaginal birth. It was a good thing that I didn't go that route, b/c I had HELLP syndrome. I didn't experience labor as you did though.

Now that we're expecting twins at the first appointment I explain to my OB that I wanted another c-section b/c of possible complications as before.

 I think with a little time the trauma you expected will fade in your mind & you'll remember only the joyous experience! Don't rush & let your mind & body tell you.

kes77

What you're feeling is totally normal, I'll be having my 3rd (and final) c/s in October and I'm very nervous even though I've gone through this twice before (1st c/s I labored for 12 hours and pushed for 3+, 2nd c/s was planned and definitely an easier recovery).  I plan on talking with my OB about my concerns at my next appointment.  What helps me is thinking about how exciting it will be to meet my new baby.  Take care and try not to worry too much.

mlf625

Give yourself some time - your baby is still young, there's no hurry if you're not ready.  And if you truly don't want another c/s, try finding a VBAC friendly doctor.  We live in a pretty small town and the first OB I interviewed up here offered me (unprompted) the option of a VBA2C.

No matter how you have a baby, there are risks and you could die.  You could also die walking to your mailbox this afternoon or driving to the mall.  Try not to focus on miniscule risks that you're very, very, very unlikely to ever have to deal with! 

magdalina.h

I was scared to have another baby because my first passed away. He was a micro preemie. My rcs wasn't bad at all. It took a little longer to get the spinal in because I wasn't in shock like the first time. Other than that it was quick and recovery went really well.

greenMama79

yes i am nervous about postpartum recovery as well, but i am excited to meet my second LO more than the fear, so I will be fine and you will too.

jb2rn

I have similar fears. However, as others said, your first baby is so young - you have time to get there emotionally.

 

treble_clef

Planned c-sections are much easier.  

I don't enjoy being on the operating table, but it's more important for me to have kids, so I'm willing to take that risk.   

sokmonkee3517

What's the rush?  10 months is not that long ago, give it some time.  Surgery is so traumatic on the body, physically and mentally even if you don't feel traumatized, your body is anyway.  Just enjoy that little bundle you have now and to hell with the rest of it.  Next time DH brings it up, "Sure sweetie, but this time they get to slice YOU open, K?"  You might change your mind later, you might not.  A lot can happen in a year or two. 

 

KatFish2011

I have conflicting thoughts about another c-section.  I think the reason why I hesitate is because when DS was born via emergency c-section he didn't breath for 2 minutes and I didn't hear him cry.  Plus DH saw more than any man should see.  He forced his way back into the OR after they took DS to the NICU.  I would like to have a #2 LO but after that I don't know.

Natesmom05

I've had 3 c/s but the 3rd was the worst. After that one I said no more but after 2 years, I changed my mind & am having my 4th c/s soon. Give yourself time. You might change your mind. And planned c/s are much better than unplanned emotionally anyway. My recovery was really the same with unplanned & planned.