chores again- just fyi

Valeriam

First- some where concerned with my ss doing pointless chores like blinds weekly- actually that is every two weeks, and only the ones in the living room.  They are dark wood and show dust easily.  Everyone else is responsible for there own blinds in there rooms. 

Second- the resentment issue.  I totally hear you on that one.  I am afterall the one that came in to his life and gave him a rude awakenning as far as holding him up to some sort of standards and expectations. But- what am I going to do? 

BTW-- my husband didn't say "Step mommy is going to yank your tv" in those words but it is sadly an unspoken law that if he doesn't listen then things could go bad.  He's not dumbe- he obviously knows all this comes from me since nobody else ever made him do anything.  HOWEVER- my husband has been more stern with him and has taken responsibility over making him do his chores and he being the one to ask him to do them. I DON"T ASK HIM TO DO ANYTHING much more than take out the trash please and pick up his underwear in the bathroom after he showers. The other stuff is my husbands battle because of the resentment issue and because it is his battle since he made him that way.

Also--- I am trying to avoid him being one of those entitled, irresponsible selfish people who expect everything to be handed to them on a silver platter. Trust me, we have made progress. Things were much worse 3 yrs ago when we all moved in together.  Aside from other issues the kid has with me- I just want him to learn to be responsible and be more caring and aware of others besides himself. 

Thanks all for your comments. They help very much:)

 

Littlejen22

How often do you have SS? Please tell me he does not need to do that much in a weekend, meaning he lives there 2 out of 14 days and expected to do his share of chores the same as if he is there everyday. 

Phantomgirl

If his parents are happy with him being lazy and irresponsible then that is their prerogative as his patents.  Butt out. 

angela090303

If you both spoke about this 3 years ago and your daughter has to live by those rules everyday than SS has to live by those rules as well.

IDK why parents these days (yes I said these day's I am 28 and I said these day's) look at chores as a punishment its NOT you sleep here, you eat here, you play here, well then guess what you clean here!