Tantrums, Hitting, Fall-on-the-floor-and-scream: Fits

MsAng02

I must have blocked this experience with my oldest (7). LO has entered the Wonderful World of I'm Not Getting My Wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.  For the tantrums I just walk away and that seems to stop it very quickly. But the hitting is out of control and I say- No Hitting! (and she laughs) or I say No Hitting and walk away. And she laughs! . The more I say No Hitting- the harder she laughs!  Eye, yie, yie. Anyone have any other methods that are working? Suggestions? Thoughts?

2u2wow

other than hitting back?! ha just kidding!!! i'm finding it very hard keeping my cool when he stares at me and throws his toy or looks up at me and hits me with his fist! 

the tantrums have started in our house too - i just let him lay on the floor and walk away or around a corner so he can't see me. seems to stop them right away too.

DS is being  bratty lately! it's annoying - the little glare he gives me and does things anyway - i don't think i can say NO any more or any more serious....he just doesn't get it.

we take it as just a phase and try distracting him with something else which usually works as well - or changing scenery by moving to another part of the house or going outside...it's usually cause he's bored.

good luck!!!! they won't be 1.5 for long! 

MsAng02

Thank you ladies! This 'parenting thing' ain't for sissies!  LOL

stephanie_shoe

Our household is dealing with this behavior also, and I completely ignore it.  Not only do I not acknowledge the hitting, but I also don't acknowledge HER for a few moments after--totally ignore her.  She hates it, and since then I have noticed the tantrums have been few and far between.

Also, I have noticed they get worse when I am really busy and not really paying attention to her.  So when she starts hitting a lot, I sit down on the floor and play with her, as I can only assume she is upset at not getting attention.

azzyberry

MsAng02:

I must have blocked this experience with my oldest (7). LO has entered the Wonderful World of I'm Not Getting My Wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.  For the tantrums I just walk away and that seems to stop it very quickly. But the hitting is out of control and I say- No Hitting! (and she laughs) or I say No Hitting and walk away. And she laughs! . The more I say No Hitting- the harder she laughs!  Eye, yie, yie. Anyone have any other methods that are working? Suggestions? Thoughts?

This tells me that she is doing it for attention and to get a reaction from you.  It doesn't matter if the reaction she is getting is a bad reaction - she just wants you to react.  In this situation, ignore, ignore, ignore - don't even make eye contact and don't say anything to her or acknowledge her in anyway and keep calm.  Walk away if you need to.  When she realizes it's not getting you to react, she'll stop.  On the reverse, it also helps if you positively reinforce her good behavior and teach her how to get your attention in an appropriate manner.  

2u2wow

azzyberry:

MsAng02:

I must have blocked this experience with my oldest (7). LO has entered the Wonderful World of I'm Not Getting My Wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.  For the tantrums I just walk away and that seems to stop it very quickly. But the hitting is out of control and I say- No Hitting! (and she laughs) or I say No Hitting and walk away. And she laughs! . The more I say No Hitting- the harder she laughs!  Eye, yie, yie. Anyone have any other methods that are working? Suggestions? Thoughts?

This tells me that she is doing it for attention and to get a reaction from you.  It doesn't matter if the reaction she is getting is a bad reaction - she just wants you to react.  In this situation, ignore, ignore, ignore - don't even make eye contact and don't say anything to her or acknowledge her in anyway and keep calm.  Walk away if you need to.  When she realizes it's not getting you to react, she'll stop.  On the reverse, it also helps if you positively reinforce her good behavior and teach her how to get your attention in an appropriate manner.  

makes sense to me 

ITGurl0626

2u2wow:

other than hitting back?! ha just kidding!!! i'm finding it very hard keeping my cool when he stares at me and throws his toy or looks up at me and hits me with his fist! 

the tantrums have started in our house too - i just let him lay on the floor and walk away or around a corner so he can't see me. seems to stop them right away too.

DS is being  bratty lately! it's annoying - the little glare he gives me and does things anyway - i don't think i can say NO any more or any more serious....he just doesn't get it.

we take it as just a phase and try distracting him with something else which usually works as well - or changing scenery by moving to another part of the house or going outside...it's usually cause he's bored.

good luck!!!! they won't be 1.5 for long! 

 

OMG, Giselle is doing this too.  I have been teaching her "gentle" too & we celebrate when she touches my face gently.  However, within seconds she reverts to bitchslapping me.

Tantrums have begun & I ignore her.  I mainly get them when I am getting her dressed or changing her diaper.  So I usually give her something like the lotion bottle to play with to keep her distracted.

It certainly is tough.  I swear I am a battered mom... 

 

 

MrsCarroll.6-10-07

We're having this issue big time in our house. It is really hard right now to control. She isn't listening. I'm going to try the ignore and positive reinforcement route now. She hit me so hard earlier I saw starts and my eye hurt for hours. =(

vilaro

ITGurl0626:

2u2wow:

other than hitting back?! ha just kidding!!! i'm finding it very hard keeping my cool when he stares at me and throws his toy or looks up at me and hits me with his fist! 

the tantrums have started in our house too - i just let him lay on the floor and walk away or around a corner so he can't see me. seems to stop them right away too.

DS is being  bratty lately! it's annoying - the little glare he gives me and does things anyway - i don't think i can say NO any more or any more serious....he just doesn't get it.

we take it as just a phase and try distracting him with something else which usually works as well - or changing scenery by moving to another part of the house or going outside...it's usually cause he's bored.

good luck!!!! they won't be 1.5 for long! 

 

OMG, Giselle is doing this too.  I have been teaching her "gentle" too & we celebrate when she touches my face gently.  However, within seconds she reverts to bitchslapping me.

Tantrums have begun & I ignore her.  I mainly get them when I am getting her dressed or changing her diaper.  So I usually give her something like the lotion bottle to play with to keep her distracted.

It certainly is tough.  I swear I am a battered mom...

HAHA! Exact same here.

mrswagoner

So glad I'm not the only one being abused by my LO! Love the tips and I'm going to work on "gentle" touches and ignoring im. He thinks hitting is funny, but he also does it when he's mad.