need to vent

tubbsy32

I haven't vented in awhile and need to get one out to the ladies that I know will understand...

My husband is friends with 1 of our neighbors and he has said NOTHING about losing Jacob. We are friendly with all our neighbors and everyone else had said something or sent a card. This jerk actually went fishing with my husband, still says nothing about Jacob but announces that him and his wife are pregnant! So, me and the wife never really chat, just wave and be polite. But she could have at least sent her condolenses through her husband or a card. So, she is starting to show now and just the sight of her puts me in a bad mood! I want to shout across the street...."Do u feel how happy you are now? Don't you love how you can feel your precious baby moving? Well, how would you feel if that was instantly ripped away because your baby died?!?!?!" This is prob so immature but I can't help how I feel. They should have acknowledged our loss because you know they will want everyone to acknowledge their baby. Plus I hate that I will never have the pregnancy "bliss" anymore; ignorance is bliss I guess.

Thanks for listening.

AmyG2b

I hear you. I have no patience for people who don't acknowledge the loss. Like, I'm really sorry they're so uncomfortable or don't know what to say....they aren't the ones that had a baby die! Ugh. 

It also bothers me that I don't get to have the blissful ignorance ever again.  I don't wish what happened to us on other people, but I am envious of their easy, hassle-free pregnancies.

Ok, off my soapbox now.  Hugs  

jbranden12

I'm sorry, I get it.

Bayberry12

I know, it sucks, it's not fair. 

tubbsy32:

 Plus I hate that I will never have the pregnancy "bliss" anymore; ignorance is bliss I guess.

I'm right there with you. 

 

Roxycc55

the sight of her puts me in a bad mood! I want to shout across the street...."Do u feel how happy you are now? Don't you love how you can feel your precious baby moving? Well, how would you feel if that was instantly ripped away because your baby died?!?!?!" This is prob so immature but I can't help how I feel. They should have acknowledged our loss because you know they will want everyone to acknowledge their baby. Plus I hate that I will never have the pregnancy "bliss" anymore; ignorance is bliss I guess.

 

 This is exactly how I feel all the time when I see pregnant women. I am so sorry you are going through this and that you have to deal with someone so insensitive.

weddedwife

I remember when the fishing thing happened. This just pisses me off. My friend's sister (who I have spent time with, gone on trips w/, even coordinated with on my friend's baby shower) has said NOTHING to us even though we've seen her multiple times. Just completely ignored it.

So you know what I do now when we're in a group setting together? Ignore her. She got engaged a few months ago; I never congratulated her. It's not like I'm ever going to hang out w/ her solo, so there's usually enough other people around where it probably goes unnoticed that I don't talk to her. I know this isn't gracious, and it's immature- but so is she. I've since noticed what a spoiled brat she is and maybe that's why she's so clueless. I really hope we don't get invited to their wedding.

People suck.

foxxy1

I know the feeling. None of my siblings acknowledge the fact I lost a son (I'm the youngest of four and there's a bit of an age difference between me and the older ones). Like not a phone call, a text, nothing. Actually, no. I've spoken to one when Ethan first passed, but the other two haven't said anything, almost as if he never existed.

It really sucks. It's not like I was close with them anyways but it would've been nice to have some sort of acknowledgment. I actually got more support from them when I lost my job a few years ago. Go figure.