Panicked..

MrsSonny24

I very rarely have posted here, since my son was born.  The last 4 going on 5 months have been a rollercoaster to say the least.   We lost our amazing son to SIDS at 5 months 13 days.  Hubby and I are holding together and doing amazingly well...  We decided to live it up this summer, I've spent the majority of the week on vacation with friends drinking.  Some nights were in a bit of excess...  when i got home today i decided to take a Pregnancy test, just because i was a day late.  Sure enough it's positive.  After loosing our first and only child to SIDS, the last thing i wanted was to do anything harmful to this pregnancy...  now i have.  I have so many emotions running through me at the current moment.    Any advice.  I'm in complete disbelief.

yosemitemom

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss.

I don't have any advice, but wanted to share my experience with our living-daughter, as it worked out ok in the end. I hope this is ok.

With her pregnancy I drank (in excess) the week/weekend before I found out I was pregnant. Similarly, we were out of town with friends. My OB told me not to worry as it was so early in the pregnancy. I had an uneventful pregnancy, she was born healthy and is now almost 3. 

Take care.

 

  

yosemitemom

yosemitemom:

Hi, I am so sorry for your loss.

I don't have any advice, but wanted to share my experience with our living-daughter, as it worked out ok in the end. I hope this is ok.

With her pregnancy I drank (in excess) the week/weekend before I found out I was pregnant. Similarly, we were out of town with friends. My OB told me not to worry as it was so early in the pregnancy. I had an uneventful pregnancy, she was born healthy and is now almost 3. 

Take care.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope that was ok to share. I can't imagine how you're feeling.

Auki13

I was on our honeymoon right before we found out we were pregnant with our first (no need to say more).  The nurse midwife told me that if it's that early the baby isn't affected by the alcohol in the bloodstream just yet.  As long as you stop drinking now, the baby won't be affected by it. Hope that helps...  And congrats on the pregnancy! It's definitely not an easy journey, but the women on Pgal or remarkable. 

MeggM1

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son, and I totally understand the post-loss rollercoaster.

 My advice - my first pregnancy was completely unexpected.  I had an MRI with contrast around the time of conception, went to an Oktoberfest party, went to a wedding where I drank heavily - and then got a BFP and all I could do was think about every glass of wine or medical procedure I'd during the two weeks post-conception.  

I talked to my doctor about it at my first appointment and he said something like the first two weeks of  pregnancy (weeks 2-4) are really only about implantation, and from there it is all about development and taking care of yourself.  

Pregnancy after a loss is scary and adds a whole new dimension of emotions, and I just think that there isn't anything you can do about the past couple of weeks and the odds are that your baby is hunkered down and growing now.  I try to worry about the things I can change and not the things I can't - easier said than done, but it's gotten me through this first trimester!

Congratulations on your new pregnancy and again, I'm so sorry about the loss of your son. 

Mrs Nice

Hi, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. He is beautiful! 

Last June, I suspected that I was Pg before going on a weekend trip to Niagra Falls. The Friday morning before we left I took a test and it was negative. I was disappointed but decided to have an amazing weekend. We had a good weekend and basically bar hopped the whole time. We were pretty much drinking from morning to night! It was a much needed time to unwind and let loose. By Monday I still had not got my period. I took another test and it was positive! OMG!!! I felt so guilty for drinking so much all weekend! When I talked to my OB about it she said not to worry. It was so early that implantation hadn't taken place yet so the baby could not be affected. I now have a perfectly healthy baby. 

Please take a deep breath and relax and congratulations on your new pregnancy!

weddedwife

I remember you posting after your son had passed. He's gorgeous! Again, I'm so sorry.

I have heard it takes awhile for implantation to occur, up to 10 days (?) I believe. Try not to worry, it's probably ok. (Easier said than done I know.)

Congrats on this new little life. Come visit us on PgAL, your anxiety will be in good company there!

nuttycoconut

 First I wanted to say that it's good to hear from you! I've thought of you often over the past few months.

 Now to answer your question: You are ok! Your baby isn't affected by alcohol in your bloodstream just yet. Many people don't even find out they are pregnant until a week or two after you. Give your ob a call and he or she will probably help ease your mind as well. Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm looking forward to getting to know you better on the PGAL board. 

pottermommy

Breathe sweety Just breathe!!!

There is no way you knew about this pregnancy and now that you know you are going to be so so protective and careful that it is crazy (believe me PGAL is rough)

A few indulgences will be alright, ALOT if not most of women that get KU have done at least one thing before they found out that could be dangerous. 

It is repeated consumtion and abuse that damages the baby.  You will both be alright.  Big hugs and lots of thoughts and prayers!