Where do you keep...

nuttycoconut

All of your memorial items for your baby/babies when you leave the house or travel for the weekend? Like most of you, we have a lot of irreplaceable items like their urns, pictures, footprints, clothes from the hospital, etc. When I'm home I like to keep it in their cribs to look at them anytime but lately I've been thinking what if there's a fire? I would lose everything. Do you all have fireproof safes? If so, do you keep everything in there at all times or just when you travel? If it's only when you travel, what's your plan for a middle of the night fire? Will you go in the nursery and grab as much as you can? What about urns for those of you who have them? Thanks. 

asglover514

Right not everything is in a small box in my closet. His urn, a picture, and a snow globe are sitting out with my mom's stuff on a shelf in the corner. Honestly I have thought about fires and such but it's all close to a window so it's easy to get out. The only other worry I have is a break in or something. His urn is black with a "gold" trim. The thought of someone breaking in and taking it or something scares me. Mom mom's urn is glass so the thought of it falling and breaking scares me too. As for traveling we haven't gone anywhere yet but I don't know what I'm gonna do with all of that if we do. I would honestly be worrying about it the whole time.

karebear57

I've got all the paper stuff and her footprints on my headboard still but I have been thinking about a fireproof safe for a while. How much do those go for? I have Brianna's urn next to my bed but I don't think I could put it away so I could't see it. We haven't traveled anywhere but when and if we do I plan on taking her with us.

doodlescaboodles

For right now our urn (the girls were placed togeather) and the casting the hospital did of their feet is in our living room. The keepsake box with their hats and blankets are in their would-be nursery. We don't have a fire-proof safe..but having one isnt a bad idea. I am terrified that the casting will break. It's something that is so special to me. I have thought of bringing it to Micheals or a frame shope to see if I could get it in a box of some sort where it woule be safer. I really need to get on that.

pottermommy

Her birthcertificate and SS card are in my wallet they go everywhere with me. 

Her handprints, hospital papers, important outfits, they are all in a fireproof safe inside a cedar chest in my closet.  All her other things that I wanted to keep (besides the crib) is in the cedar chest. 

Her pics are all over the house so there would be no saving those but I have to sets of disks 17 with pics and 12 with videos and one set is in the safe and one set is at my aunts.

foxxy1

I honestly haven't thought about it! I will look into getting a fire-safe, though. There are some things we can't replicate like his footprints, and pictures from the hospital. 

Bayberry12

We were given a memory box by the hospital, I haven't been able to open it yet, so I'm not sure what's in there.  We keep it in what would have been her room.  I haven't ordered the "birth certificate" yet, but hope to be ready to do that soon, and I'm sure I'll keep it in the memory box.  

weddedwife

We have his memory box from the hospital as all as the death cert., hospital bracelets, footprints & photos in the fire safe. His urn, a framed copy of the footprints, a framed 3d ultrasound pic & all the cards we received are on the mantle. We've got copies of some of the pics on the computer. Honestly, I've never worried about a fire. If there was one I'd try to grab the urn but it's metal so it might be okay?

Mrs Nice

We keep all of Ian's things in a fire proof safe. I keep it in our bedroom beside my bed. I love having him close to me while I sleep at night.

asglover514

We have a fireproof safe. It was $50 at WalMart, it's small but big enough for documents and such. Probably about the length and width of a standard laptop, and about 3 inches deep. I have all his pics printed, in a memory book, and backed up on my computer, CDs, and a flashdrive. Right now his prints and such are not in the safe because when our car keys went missing so did the safe keys but we may get another one probably bigger because now we have a lot that we don't want to lose.

If you want a bigger safe, you can search online for some cheap ones that are fireproof, waterproof, or both. 

MeggM1

The first time we were all out of the house on vacation was Thanksgiving, about six months after our loss. I had a freak out before about irreplaceable things like footprints, hospital momento, and of course, Madelyn's ashes. I thought about asking a friend to watch them but I'd kind of isolated myself so I felt weird asking someone close by that I'd only seen once or twice since the twins birth to essentially babysit our daughters ashes. I bought a pink fireproof safe and felt better about the things being safe, although my husband kept suggesting we bring everything with us since we were driving. Then I wouldn't want to leave the things in the hotel room so it felt best to keep them at home. Everything is in her twin brother's closet right now - I felt better about keeping them in the nursery.

 I worry about burgers breaking in, finding the safe (it's heavy but could be carried out by one person), and taking it, but I can't imagine keeping our daughter's remains and possessions in a bank safe or outside our home. These feelings are so complicated and personal - it may take awhile to figure out. Thanks for adding this question, I love knowing what other people do in these situations. 

cherrycobbler

I know I should get a safe, just haven't done it yet.  Just like I haven't done a lot of stuff lately.  We have his urn (bamboo box) in the china cabinet right now, just don't have a better place for it at the moment.  We went on vacation, and we just left it there.  I felt a little weird about it, but I couldn't take it either.  What if someone broke into our hotel room, or stole our bag-I figured it was safer at home.  I have all of the photos backed up online and pretty much everyone in our families have copies of the disks too.  I scanned his prints and he really didn't have much of anything else, never had a coming home outfit or favorite toy.  I bought one outfit special for him and a dear friend crocheted a blanket (that he finished after the fact) and that is with all of the cards we received.  (I bought other clothes, but the one outfit was special) There were things in the memory box from the hospital, and while the thought was nice and we kept it all, I just don't have that big of an attachment to that stuff.

MrsMS2008

I feel like a horrible, horrible mother. I NEVER even thought about a fire or theft.    I just recieved their ashes so right now I keep each box together in a bigger box that I cuddle with each night and keep next to my bed at night and in the living room during the day.  Their pictures are backed up, but everything else is just sitting in their room, unprotected.  We rarely go out, but now you really got me thinking that I should get a fireproof safe. Like RIGHT NOW!  But then again, I don't want to put it all away....Hm...maybe I could just put it away when I go out.