which is harder....being 3rd tri pg with a toddler or having a newborn and a toddler?

MoRoseT

It is getting really tough these days....all I have to do is move and I get constant BH contractions and DD is a whiny mess most of the time ( and I swear this all started 10.24 - the day she turned 2).

I have heard that it is easier having a newborn and a toddler than having a toddler and being pg in your 3rd tri (especially the last month...great!)....is it really?
Any experiences you want to share to give me hope that this will get easier or better?

It is just so tough to get around and handle DD with this huge belly and being so miserable for the most part. : (

marrymemylove

Sorry I can't answer as I only have 1 but I would suspect it varies wildly by whether you have daycare or not for the toddler. DS is pretty easy in the mornings and most of the evening (until actual bedtime) but during the day he can be very physically demanding. I imagine it would be much easier to be very pregnant if he was at school during the day.

KeML

Just wanted to say I feel your pain.  Jack has been a total PITA the past couple days and I have NO patience.  I'm just tired and uncomfortable and can't deal.

JuneBride0605

Hmm that's a hard one! I'm going to say 3rd tri and toddler is harder but not by much.

 At least you can put the newborn down to chase the toddler, and you regain your breath! ; )

Marchmamma

Both are hard.  Once the new baby comes, the toddler wants you more.

luckiestwife

In my experience, newborn and toddler is harder. ?3rd trimester was hard keeping up with her, but once the baby was born, the 2-year-old got much more difficult to deal with. ?She started acting out for attention and in general being much more bratty than she was before the baby (she's really a very sweet kid, but the baby was an adjustment). ?If she was still being my sweet, helpful, obedient baby then it probably would have been a draw. ?I still don't think 3rd tri would have been harder, simply because as exhausted and tired as you are while PG, it's more exhausting and tiring to have the newborn sleep deprivation, trying to coordinate 2 nap schedules, feeding schedules, etc - not to mention what an ordeal it is to leave the house! ?We're settling into a routine now, but it took a while, and the toddler is still having some adjustment issues. ?But, you deal and adapt and it's still great.

KoriBrett

My personal hell was post c-section, nursing, with a toddler and newborn who mostly refuses a bottle and hates/is allergic to formula. ?

Couldn't lift DD into her bed, carseat, highchair, she kept shoving DS off my lap while nursing.... ?I put DD in daycare a few days a week just so I wouldn't lose it.

However - 7.5 months later, DD cuddles him, gives him a pacifier or toys if he's upset, hugs him and says she loves BabyBryan.... ?it does get better, I promise.

mrsterry

3rd tri and toddler seemed harder for me.

Newborns sleep a lot so in the beginning there isn't that much work to do there.

jennrg1019

My daughter was a horrible sleeper when she was a newborn.  There were nights that she just cried all.night.long.  So to answer your question, for me it was harder to have a newborn and a toddler.  I was a zombie during the day with an active 2.5 year old. 

 

zacook

mrsterry:

3rd tri and toddler seemed harder for me.

Newborns sleep a lot so in the beginning there isn't that much work to do there.

ask me again in 3 mon.

shopgirl78

3rd trimester!

sarahgcapecod

For me - newborn and toddler.  I had a horrible 3rd trimester but now have a colicky newborn, a 2 year old who decided to start waking up at 5:30am a week ago, and a husband who travels for work.  Going on 4-5 hours of broken sleep is killing me.

CTFandme

i'm going to hope 3rd tri and toddler is harder.  As of tomorrow I'll have the newborn scenario and I'm so very, very scared.  I'm going to rely heavily on DH since i'm having a section, but I don't think he can cover the 'mommy' phase ds is in.  But, as I sit here being kicked (hard) and poked from the inside out and I believe this child is currently sitting on my bladder...and who the heck gave it a needle to poke me with?...I'm seriuosly looking forward to the newborn/toddler stage. Either way, I'm sure it'll be really hard.