I am in the biitchiest mood EVER. I was up vomiting from acid reflux twice last night, my kids were up an hour before they usually wake up, my husband forgot to put out the garbage AGAIN, and I need to talk to my OB at my appt today about the possibility that I won't be delivering with him after all (we may be moving sooner). I'm crabby, I'm tired, I'm stressed out, and I feel like a$s. I fully intend to let my kids watch the Sprout channel all morning long, because that's the only way I'm getting a shower and/or not losing my mind.
the bug & bee blog
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
Oh, and I saw Magic Mike last night and thought it SUCKED. I actually think a little less of anyone who thought that was a good movie or left even remotely turned on. It was just dumb, and ick, and dumb.
the bug & bee blog
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I don't plan on being a very active poster once baby is born.
1 - I'll be very busy
2 - It already feels like mompetition on here at times, and I'm sure it's only going to get worse. I think my parenting style is going to differ a lot from the majority of people on this board. It's easy to brush off comments about TTC or being pregnant, but as a FTM, I think I'll be sensitive when it comes to my decisions on how to raise my child. My options will be to either keep quiet on here, or speak my mind and constantly get flamed. Neither seems beneficial.
It's a dead horse that has beaten a million times, but I continue to judge people who come on to ask for medical advice. NOTHING replaces the advice of your doctor. I think sharing your experience with xx situation is 100% different and I appreciate those kind of posts, but the questions that are really best left for a doctor drive me mad.
Teeheehee....
I understand what you're saying, but I take the medical advice posts as people wanting to hear what others have experienced. If someone actually thinks that we are more capable of giving them medical advice than their doctor, then yes, there is a problem. I just don't think that's the real intent or thought of the OP in most cases.
I don't plan on being a very active poster once baby is born.
1 - I'll be very busy
2 - It already feels like mompetition on here at times, and I'm sure it's only going to get worse. I think my parenting style is going to differ a lot from the majority of people on this board. It's easy to brush off comments about TTC or being pregnant, but as a FTM, I think I'll be sensitive when it comes to my decisions on how to raise my child. My options will be to either keep quiet on here, or speak my mind and constantly get flamed. Neither seems beneficial.
regarding #2... I see what you are saying, but honestly I hate that you feel that way. I started bumping when I was pregnant with Ashton & I met a lot of awesome ladies that way. Most of them I still talk to daily & have even had the pleasure of meeting a few of them. It really is nice to have others going through the same stages with you. Everyone is going to have different ideas on things, if you feel something is a "hot topic" avoid it. It's YOUR choice how you raise your baby, and people will never all agree on the same things, but it's nice to have a sounding board when you are covered in vomit, havent showered in 3 days & want to curl up in a ball & cry.
I don't plan on being a very active poster once baby is born.
1 - I'll be very busy
2 - It already feels like mompetition on here at times, and I'm sure it's only going to get worse. I think my parenting style is going to differ a lot from the majority of people on this board. It's easy to brush off comments about TTC or being pregnant, but as a FTM, I think I'll be sensitive when it comes to my decisions on how to raise my child. My options will be to either keep quiet on here, or speak my mind and constantly get flamed. Neither seems beneficial.
That is understandable. I chose to do a delayed vaccination schedule with DD and a lot of people on TB get really up in arms about that stuff. Most of my relatives have done this with their kids and not one of them has ever been sick with more than a cold. Even the 27 week preemie. Anywho, on TB you can always expect to get 80% criticism and 20% support.
My confession is that I just drank a 24 oz iced coffee from dunkin donuts. Excuse me while I go pee.
This is probably very flameful. I will probably have to be induced because I am having some liver issues. Dh is unable to attend my doctors appointment today and my plan is set up my induction date during the week that I know his parents are out of town. I just do not want to deal with them coming to the hospital especially MIL. I know that they will not cancel the trip to be in town.
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1) I think (thought?) expectant mother parking was pretty silly because I'm not disabled; I don't need a close parking space... Until the other day when I had to pee SO RIDICULOUSLY BADLY that I was not going to make it to the store's bathroom in the far corner unless I got a close spot and the only one was expectant mother parking. So I did it and felt embarrassed the whole waddling way to the bathroom.
2) The guy who pulled in next to me in expectant mother parking was a middle aged man with no woman in his truck. I gave him the side-eye quite literally, especially because his door hit mine when he flung it open. I wanted to be like, "What are you expecting? Puppies?"
3) I am so ridiculously emotional this week. I suck at initiating sex or even cuddling or quality time. I can't tell if DH is ignoring my initiations on purpose or if I'm just doing a really bad job, but it's been an epic fail. So I did the totally logical thing, and just sat and cried about it because I want to feel close to him and instead I just feel clingy and pathetic.
This is probably very flameful. I will probably have to be induced because I am having some liver issues. Dh is unable to attend my doctors appointment today and my plan is set up my induction date during the week that I know his parents are out of town. I just do not want to deal with them coming to the hospital especially MIL. I know that they will not cancel the trip to be in town.
I failed my 1-hour glucose test on Tuesday and have to do the 3-hour one next week. I'm looking forward to spending three hours watching movies on my iPad and reading on a weekday instead of being at work [and, if I feel like crap after the test like I did after the 1-hour test, I'm probably just going to go home and sleep for a few hours instead of going back to work].
And, no one's really talking about how they're going to handle things while I'm out, which makes me nervous. It's like people at work are avoiding talking about the fact that I'll be out for 7-8 weeks this fall, and it almost makes me wonder if they're considering replacing me while I'm gone. I know FMLA is supposed to protect me, but I'm still paranoid.
My MIL and SIL are supposed to be coming to town when H gets back from his deployment. Joy. Not.
There are two posters on TB that I instantly want to side-eye, without even reading their posts. The subject is enough to know it's going to be ridiculous...again.
This is probably very flameful. I will probably have to be induced because I am having some liver issues. Dh is unable to attend my doctors appointment today and my plan is set up my induction date during the week that I know his parents are out of town. I just do not want to deal with them coming to the hospital especially MIL. I know that they will not cancel the trip to be in town.
flameful? Hell, I think it's smart ha-ha
Haha DITTO! I set my RCS date for the exact.same.reason. (I also set it for the awful time of 5:45AM, what was I thinking?!?!)
Married ~ DD 2004 ~ 2 2nd tri losses ~ DS 2011 5 weeks 1 day early ~ DD2 2012
There are two posters on TB that I instantly want to side-eye, without even reading their posts. The subject is enough to know it's going to be ridiculous...again.
Oh, and I saw Magic Mike last night and thought it SUCKED. I actually think a little less of anyone who thought that was a good movie or left even remotely turned on. It was just dumb, and ick, and dumb.
Agreed. The eye candy was nice but in no way turned me on and the plot was horrible! I wanted to get up a few times but never did...good thing I saw the matinee otherwise I would have been ticked I spent the full price! And how many times can you say the word f*ck? Ugh!
I am in the biitchiest mood EVER. I was up vomiting from acid reflux twice last night, my kids were up an hour before they usually wake up, my husband forgot to put out the garbage AGAIN, and I need to talk to my OB at my appt today about the possibility that I won't be delivering with him after all (we may be moving sooner). I'm crabby, I'm tired, I'm stressed out, and I feel like a$s. I fully intend to let my kids watch the Sprout channel all morning long, because that's the only way I'm getting a shower and/or not losing my mind.
There are two posters on TB that I instantly want to side-eye, without even reading their posts. The subject is enough to know it's going to be ridiculous...again.
I am jealous at times of women who have C sections scheduled. They know exactly when their baby is coming. Plus, they can plan and have a babysitter ready to go if this is not their 1st.
I refuse to leave my house when it is 98 outside. I feel bad for my dd because she has been stuck in the house.
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I judge when women say "My husband is totally turned off by my body because I'm pregnant." Um, he does realize that you wouldn't be that way without his involvement, right? (Presumably, at least.) It just makes me think your husband is a selfish jerk who only liked you because you were thin and sexy to begin with. (Yes, I know that's not a logical assumption, but that's totally what my mind goes to when I see comments like that.)
That being said, I'm starting to have a really hard time even getting interested in sex. DH has been looking particularly attractive lately, and my brain goes, "Hm, we should jump him," but body goes, "um, with this baby kicking around, you want to start bumping uglies? That's creepy. You should feel bad." I'm having such a hard time overcoming the psychological issues that I physically can't get turned on because my brain is all over the place.
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I went to McDonalds for breaskfast yesterday on my way to a dr`s appointment, hid the garbage under the seat of my car, and told my husband I had fruit and a bagel at the hospital cafeteria. He wouldn`t have cared, but I didn`t want him to know I had fast food for some weird reason.
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I am in the biitchiest mood EVER. I was up vomiting from acid reflux twice last night, my kids were up an hour before they usually wake up, my husband forgot to put out the garbage AGAIN, and I need to talk to my OB at my appt today about the possibility that I won't be delivering with him after all (we may be moving sooner). I'm crabby, I'm tired, I'm stressed out, and I feel like a$s. I fully intend to let my kids watch the Sprout channel all morning long, because that's the only way I'm getting a shower and/or not losing my mind.
just wanted to offer that.
Thank you. That just made me cry. I'M A FREAKING MESS!
the bug & bee blog
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I judge when women say "My husband is totally turned off by my body because I'm pregnant." Um, he does realize that you wouldn't be that way without his involvement, right? (Presumably, at least.) It just makes me think your husband is a selfish jerk who only liked you because you were thin and sexy to begin with. (Yes, I know that's not a logical assumption, but that's totally what my mind goes to when I see comments like that.)
That being said, I'm starting to have a really hard time even getting interested in sex. DH has been looking particularly attractive lately, and my brain goes, "Hm, we should jump him," but body goes, "um, with this baby kicking around, you want to start bumping uglies? That's creepy. You should feel bad." I'm having such a hard time overcoming the psychological issues that I physically can't get turned on because my brain is all over the place.
TBH, I think your post is kind of hypocritical. I don't think any woman who says that their husband is turned off by their pregnant bodies literally means because they are getting bigger. I think they mean (whether they know it or not) that their husband is 'creeped out' by the idea of the baby being there during sex. So you're saying essentially the same thing.
I don't understand either side of it, honestly. The baby is not aware of what's going on, and husbands should be turned on as hell that their wives are carrying their child and creating life. And women should be comfortable with that part of pregnancy.
ETA: Not trying to be a biitch. I just don't get it.
That being said, I'm starting to have a really hard time even getting interested in sex. DH has been looking particularly attractive lately, and my brain goes, "Hm, we should jump him," but body goes, "um, with this baby kicking around, you want to start bumping uglies? That's creepy. You should feel bad." I'm having such a hard time overcoming the psychological issues that I physically can't get turned on because my brain is all over the place.
I'm having a similar mental/emotional struggle, but more so thinking about after the baby comes. I worry about still being able to tap into sexy wife mode while also being a mommy. The two things feel so separate to me (ironic--since one can't happen without the other...).
In other FFFCs, I am totally watching Wimbledon at work today. Yay for live streaming! And my excuse is that even with the a/c, I NEED to put my feet up b/c I can already feel them swelling with this heat!
I judge when women say "My husband is totally turned off by my body because I'm pregnant." Um, he does realize that you wouldn't be that way without his involvement, right? (Presumably, at least.) It just makes me think your husband is a selfish jerk who only liked you because you were thin and sexy to begin with. (Yes, I know that's not a logical assumption, but that's totally what my mind goes to when I see comments like that.)
That being said, I'm starting to have a really hard time even getting interested in sex. DH has been looking particularly attractive lately, and my brain goes, "Hm, we should jump him," but body goes, "um, with this baby kicking around, you want to start bumping uglies? That's creepy. You should feel bad." I'm having such a hard time overcoming the psychological issues that I physically can't get turned on because my brain is all over the place.
TBH, I think your post is kind of hypocritical. I don't think any woman who says that their husband is turned off by their pregnant bodies literally means because they are getting bigger. I think they mean (whether they know it or not) that their husband is 'creeped out' by the idea of the baby being there during sex. So you're saying essentially the same thing.
I don't understand either side of it, honestly. The baby is not aware of what's going on, and husbands should be turned on as hell that their wives are carrying their child and creating life. And women should be comfortable with that part of pregnancy.
Eh, I already said it wasn't logical.
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DD's first birthday is next month. DH and I are not the type to want to entertain very often under normal circumstances, but especially when I'm feeling huge and lazy and am trying to get ready for a new baby. So I'm seriously considering doing nothing except giving her a cake to dive into after dinner. I'm having some serious mom guilt over it though. I feel like she'll only have one first birthday and I'm a terrible mom for not making a big deal over it. I'm not sure if it's more flameful that I'm not celebrating my kid's first birthday or that I'm letting it stress me out so much when she's too little to even care.
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I don't plan on being a very active poster once baby is born.
1 - I'll be very busy
2 - It already feels like mompetition on here at times, and I'm sure it's only going to get worse. I think my parenting style is going to differ a lot from the majority of people on this board. It's easy to brush off comments about TTC or being pregnant, but as a FTM, I think I'll be sensitive when it comes to my decisions on how to raise my child. My options will be to either keep quiet on here, or speak my mind and constantly get flamed. Neither seems beneficial.
I feel the exact opposite. I don't post much right now because I feel like I have very little to say. My pregnancies are uneventful, I have no interesting stories to share or pregnancy-related questions. But I hang around, because after DD2 is born, I love the idea of having moms with kids the same age as mine to bounce stuff off of. I didn't find the birth month boards until DD1 was a few months old, and it was tough to get involved at that point. Those women knew each other pretty well already. So I make a point of getting on here from time to time now so I can get more involved after she arrives.
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I am jealous at times of women who have C sections scheduled. They know exactly when their baby is coming. Plus, they can plan and have a babysitter ready to go if this is not their 1st.
I feel this way, too. And then I feel so guilty over it.
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I am in the biitchiest mood EVER. I was up vomiting from acid reflux twice last night, my kids were up an hour before they usually wake up, my husband forgot to put out the garbage AGAIN, and I need to talk to my OB at my appt today about the possibility that I won't be delivering with him after all (we may be moving sooner). I'm crabby, I'm tired, I'm stressed out, and I feel like a$s. I fully intend to let my kids watch the Sprout channel all morning long, because that's the only way I'm getting a shower and/or not losing my mind.
just wanted to offer that.
Thank you. That just made me cry. I'M A FREAKING MESS!
if i could put in that hug icon, i would. (for some reason, TB hates my computer and never lets me put in smilies, etc.).
i am starting to get scared to death of L&D. flame away, but i'm so afraid that i'm going to a point where i can't do it and just give up. i had a horrible nightmare about this last night, and i woke up sobbing into DH's chest. the poor guy had no idea why i was crying. i am so afraid of it being too much...and yes, i KNOW it's ridiculous because women have been doing this since the beginning of time, etc. etc. i feel plenty dumb about this, but still...i'm irrationally scared.
Marian Abigail :: born 9-16-2012 via emergency C/S
I went to McDonalds for breaskfast yesterday on my way to a dr`s appointment, hid the garbage under the seat of my car, and told my husband I had fruit and a bagel at the hospital cafeteria. He wouldn`t have cared, but I didn`t want him to know I had fast food for some weird reason.
I did this the other day with a large chocolate shake I bought from McDonalds. My doctor told me to lay off the ice cream and I've been pretty good but every once in awhile I give in to my cravings and DH is always there to say, I thought your Dr. said....Yeah Yeah Yeah, I know what the Dr. said but it was so damn good!!
I still feel nothing - in terms of emotions - towards this baby. I assume that when he or she is born, I will fall immensely in love. But I'm not in love yet and I don't love all of the movements, being pregnant with my first child, etc. I'm just fascinated from a scientific standpoint and I'm freaked out because it is alien like. I also keep feeling like now I'm second guessing our decision to have a child at this time. Are we completely ready? As ready as one can really be, yes. Did we think, talk, prepare long and hard for this? Yes, absolutely. But now the concept of taking care of another person is scaring the crap out of me, and I'm kind of an emotional wreck about all of that.
FTR, I don't regret the pregnancy. I'm sure that everything will change when he or she is born, but for right now, this is how I feel and I don't like it.
I get that I am FTM, so I really don't know how life will be after baby comes, but we love our dogs like children. We are very particular about the way they are cared for, about the food they are fed, we give them vitamins, we would consider chemo if our boy dog J gets another cancerous tumor... I won't stop caring about our dogs after baby comes, and I won't feel less passionate about rescue. I will just have to adjust my time and abilities due to the baby.
I don't post much, but I just wanted to say that I feel the same way about my dog. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only FTM who feels this way.
I have done little to nothing at work the last two days. I'm either Bumping, adding last minute things to my baby shower registry, or shopping on craigslist for deals. I feel a little bit guilty but I rationalize that since it's Friday and I have to leave early for my Dr. appointment anyway, the things on my desk can wait until next week.
And the crumbs are starting to pile up in my keyboard because I am constantly snacking at my desk while I'm bumping.
I don't plan on being a very active poster once baby is born.
1 - I'll be very busy
2 - It already feels like mompetition on here at times, and I'm sure it's only going to get worse. I think my parenting style is going to differ a lot from the majority of people on this board. It's easy to brush off comments about TTC or being pregnant, but as a FTM, I think I'll be sensitive when it comes to my decisions on how to raise my child. My options will be to either keep quiet on here, or speak my mind and constantly get flamed. Neither seems beneficial.
I feel the exact opposite. I don't post much right now because I feel like I have very little to say. My pregnancies are uneventful, I have no interesting stories to share or pregnancy-related questions. But I hang around, because after DD2 is born, I love the idea of having moms with kids the same age as mine to bounce stuff off of. I didn't find the birth month boards until DD1 was a few months old, and it was tough to get involved at that point. Those women knew each other pretty well already. So I make a point of getting on here from time to time now so I can get more involved after she arrives.
This is me exactly. I didn't start bumping until DS was born and it was too hard to jump into the birth month board at that point. But I loved the babies board (0-3....) and still enjoy hanging out with those that have kids my sons age. I have learned so much from them and it is a great way to get real recommendations on products. Sure there is drama and people get flamed but I take it stride and don't let that stuff get to me. That just makes for an interesting day and pretty much it is forgotten the next.
Every one parents differently and that is what makes these boards interesting. If we were all the same, it would be so boring.
if i could put in that hug icon, i would. (for some reason, TB hates my computer and never lets me put in smilies, etc.).
i am starting to get scared to death of L&D. flame away, but i'm so afraid that i'm going to a point where i can't do it and just give up. i had a horrible nightmare about this last night, and i woke up sobbing into DH's chest. the poor guy had no idea why i was crying. i am so afraid of it being too much...and yes, i KNOW it's ridiculous because women have been doing this since the beginning of time, etc. etc. i feel plenty dumb about this, but still...i'm irrationally scared.
Are you using Google Chrome? If so, that's why. Firefox likes TB better.
I'm not going to flame you for being scared about L&D. Yes, women have been doing it forever, but YOU haven't.
It's also scary when people always tell you the horror stories about L&D. As a FTM, I don't know what to expect, and it makes me a little nervous.
I am jealous at times of women who have C sections scheduled. They know exactly when their baby is coming. Plus, they can plan and have a babysitter ready to go if this is not their 1st.
I feel this way, too. And then I feel so guilty over it.
I feel the same way as well. My H and I both have our birthdays in September, we also have about 8 friends/family who have birthdays in September. I want my kid to have his own birthday!!
DH and I have already discussed that the next baby comes in a non-popular month so this doesn't happen again.
if i could put in that hug icon, i would. (for some reason, TB hates my computer and never lets me put in smilies, etc.).
i am starting to get scared to death of L&D. flame away, but i'm so afraid that i'm going to a point where i can't do it and just give up. i had a horrible nightmare about this last night, and i woke up sobbing into DH's chest. the poor guy had no idea why i was crying. i am so afraid of it being too much...and yes, i KNOW it's ridiculous because women have been doing this since the beginning of time, etc. etc. i feel plenty dumb about this, but still...i'm irrationally scared.
Are you using Google Chrome? If so, that's why. Firefox likes TB better.
I'm not going to flame you for being scared about L&D. Yes, women have been doing it forever, but YOU haven't.
It's also scary when people always tell you the horror stories about L&D. As a FTM, I don't know what to expect, and it makes me a little nervous.
yeah, i'm on Google Chrome, so i guess that explains that.
and i feel so stupid for being so emotional about this. i'm not normally one to fall apart about things that are natural like this, but this just seems so foreign and new. and all anyone wants to tell me are these horror stories about the pain and the complications and how i'll never be able to do it with an epidural because i'm so tiny and not strong enough and.....it's dam overwhelming and effing scary.
Marian Abigail :: born 9-16-2012 via emergency C/S
i am starting to get scared to death of L&D. flame away, but I'm so afraid that I'm going to a point where i can't do it and just give up. i had a horrible nightmare about this last night, and i woke up sobbing into DH's chest. the poor guy had no idea why i was crying. i am so afraid of it being too much...and yes, i KNOW it's ridiculous because women have been doing this since the beginning of time, etc. etc. i feel plenty dumb about this, but still...i'm irrationally scared.
You have every reason to be scared. Giving birth is huge. It is so normal! BUT - the beauty is, at this point, you don't have a choice. Baby is coming out if you give up or not.
With my first we were walking in to the hospital for my c/s and I froze, turned to DH and told him I changed my mind, we didn't really *need* a baby. Maybe we should just get a gerbil instead.
In the middle of (a med-free) delivery with my 2nd, I was pushing and I looked up at the OB and told her that there was no way he was coming out. I said I didn't care how may births she had seen, there was no freaking way that head was coming out, it just wasn't possible. As funny as it is, some little part of me really did believe I would never get his head out and I would be stuck like that forever. (and for the record I pushed for only like 18 minutes and he was born.)
You can do it! (and I promise you will!) As far as an epidural free delivery (if I'm reading that right and that is what you are after) you can do that too!
I did go med free with my second. No one thought I would really do it. (and I do see why they thought that way, I cut tags out of clothes as I don't like them scratching me ) But I did do it, and you know what, the pain really wasn't as bad as I had feared. Don't get me wrong, it hurt, a lot. But I never got to the point where I thought *I can't do this anymore*, I don't want to - yes, but never I can't. The pain also gains in intensity as you go on so you have time to learn to cope with the pain, it is not like a broken bone that slams into you all at once, yk? I plan to go med free again with this one.
And honestly, if you decide you do want an epidural you still get the prize at the end!
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My doctor said, "no news is good news" regarding my glucose test, and it's been a week, so I feel like it's safe to say I passed---so to celebrate I've been eating crap all week.
I feel like I'm going to give myself GD because I'm so happy that I don't have GD.
I get that I am FTM, so I really don't know how life will be after baby comes, but we love our dogs like children. We are very particular about the way they are cared for, about the food they are fed, we give them vitamins, we would consider chemo if our boy dog J gets another cancerous tumor... I won't stop caring about our dogs after baby comes, and I won't feel less passionate about rescue. I will just have to adjust my time and abilities due to the baby.
This has possibly been my #1 pet peeve of this pregnancy, being constantly told "oh, your poor dog" (no one seems concerned about Mr. Kitty).
I love the crap out of my pets and I'm well aware that things will be changing but I'm hardly going to toss them out the door just because the baby is here. It may take some time, but they're a big part of our family and we'll all have to adjust together.
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I am in the biitchiest mood EVER. I was up vomiting from acid reflux twice last night, my kids were up an hour before they usually wake up, my husband forgot to put out the garbage AGAIN, and I need to talk to my OB at my appt today about the possibility that I won't be delivering with him after all (we may be moving sooner). I'm crabby, I'm tired, I'm stressed out, and I feel like a$s. I fully intend to let my kids watch the Sprout channel all morning long, because that's the only way I'm getting a shower and/or not losing my mind.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I don't plan on being a very active poster once baby is born.
1 - I'll be very busy
2 - It already feels like mompetition on here at times, and I'm sure it's only going to get worse. I think my parenting style is going to differ a lot from the majority of people on this board. It's easy to brush off comments about TTC or being pregnant, but as a FTM, I think I'll be sensitive when it comes to my decisions on how to raise my child. My options will be to either keep quiet on here, or speak my mind and constantly get flamed. Neither seems beneficial.
Emilia Antoinette
10.03.12 at 41w5d
Teeheehee....
I understand what you're saying, but I take the medical advice posts as people wanting to hear what others have experienced. If someone actually thinks that we are more capable of giving them medical advice than their doctor, then yes, there is a problem. I just don't think that's the real intent or thought of the OP in most cases.
ETA: there/their typo
Emilia Antoinette
10.03.12 at 41w5d
Haha love it! I made commission this month and I am debating on telling him or not.
That is understandable. I chose to do a delayed vaccination schedule with DD and a lot of people on TB get really up in arms about that stuff. Most of my relatives have done this with their kids and not one of them has ever been sick with more than a cold. Even the 27 week preemie. Anywho, on TB you can always expect to get 80% criticism and 20% support.
My confession is that I just drank a 24 oz iced coffee from dunkin donuts. Excuse me while I go pee.
1) I think (thought?) expectant mother parking was pretty silly because I'm not disabled; I don't need a close parking space... Until the other day when I had to pee SO RIDICULOUSLY BADLY that I was not going to make it to the store's bathroom in the far corner unless I got a close spot and the only one was expectant mother parking. So I did it and felt embarrassed the whole waddling way to the bathroom.
2) The guy who pulled in next to me in expectant mother parking was a middle aged man with no woman in his truck. I gave him the side-eye quite literally, especially because his door hit mine when he flung it open. I wanted to be like, "What are you expecting? Puppies?"
3) I am so ridiculously emotional this week. I suck at initiating sex or even cuddling or quality time. I can't tell if DH is ignoring my initiations on purpose or if I'm just doing a really bad job, but it's been an epic fail. So I did the totally logical thing, and just sat and cried about it because I want to feel close to him and instead I just feel clingy and pathetic.
I failed my 1-hour glucose test on Tuesday and have to do the 3-hour one next week. I'm looking forward to spending three hours watching movies on my iPad and reading on a weekday instead of being at work [and, if I feel like crap after the test like I did after the 1-hour test, I'm probably just going to go home and sleep for a few hours instead of going back to work].
And, no one's really talking about how they're going to handle things while I'm out, which makes me nervous. It's like people at work are avoiding talking about the fact that I'll be out for 7-8 weeks this fall, and it almost makes me wonder if they're considering replacing me while I'm gone. I know FMLA is supposed to protect me, but I'm still paranoid.
My MIL and SIL are supposed to be coming to town when H gets back from his deployment. Joy. Not.
Haha
DITTO! I set my RCS date for the exact.same.reason. (I also set it for the awful time of 5:45AM, what was I thinking?!?!)
Agreed. The eye candy was nice but in no way turned me on and the plot was horrible! I wanted to get up a few times but never did...good thing I saw the matinee otherwise I would have been ticked I spent the full price! And how many times can you say the word f*ck? Ugh!
DS-9/2012
DD-7/2015
She beat me to it. NAMES.
I am jealous at times of women who have C sections scheduled. They know exactly when their baby is coming. Plus, they can plan and have a babysitter ready to go if this is not their 1st.
I refuse to leave my house when it is 98 outside. I feel bad for my dd because she has been stuck in the house.
I judge when women say "My husband is totally turned off by my body because I'm pregnant." Um, he does realize that you wouldn't be that way without his involvement, right? (Presumably, at least.) It just makes me think your husband is a selfish jerk who only liked you because you were thin and sexy to begin with. (Yes, I know that's not a logical assumption, but that's totally what my mind goes to when I see comments like that.)
That being said, I'm starting to have a really hard time even getting interested in sex. DH has been looking particularly attractive lately, and my brain goes, "Hm, we should jump him," but body goes, "um, with this baby kicking around, you want to start bumping uglies? That's creepy. You should feel bad." I'm having such a hard time overcoming the psychological issues that I physically can't get turned on because my brain is all over the place.
Thank you. That just made me cry. I'M A FREAKING MESS!
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
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mabel . august 2012
TBH, I think your post is kind of hypocritical. I don't think any woman who says that their husband is turned off by their pregnant bodies literally means because they are getting bigger. I think they mean (whether they know it or not) that their husband is 'creeped out' by the idea of the baby being there during sex. So you're saying essentially the same thing.
I don't understand either side of it, honestly. The baby is not aware of what's going on, and husbands should be turned on as hell that their wives are carrying their child and creating life. And women should be comfortable with that part of pregnancy.
ETA: Not trying to be a biitch. I just don't get it.
I'm having a similar mental/emotional struggle, but more so thinking about after the baby comes. I worry about still being able to tap into sexy wife mode while also being a mommy. The two things feel so separate to me (ironic--since one can't happen without the other...).
In other FFFCs, I am totally watching Wimbledon at work today. Yay for live streaming! And my excuse is that even with the a/c, I NEED to put my feet up b/c I can already feel them swelling with this heat!
Eh, I already said it wasn't logical.
I feel the exact opposite. I don't post much right now because I feel like I have very little to say. My pregnancies are uneventful, I have no interesting stories to share or pregnancy-related questions. But I hang around, because after DD2 is born, I love the idea of having moms with kids the same age as mine to bounce stuff off of. I didn't find the birth month boards until DD1 was a few months old, and it was tough to get involved at that point. Those women knew each other pretty well already. So I make a point of getting on here from time to time now so I can get more involved after she arrives.
I feel this way, too. And then I feel so guilty over it.
if i could put in that hug icon, i would. (for some reason, TB hates my computer and never lets me put in smilies, etc.).
i am starting to get scared to death of L&D. flame away, but i'm so afraid that i'm going to a point where i can't do it and just give up. i had a horrible nightmare about this last night, and i woke up sobbing into DH's chest. the poor guy had no idea why i was crying. i am so afraid of it being too much...and yes, i KNOW it's ridiculous because women have been doing this since the beginning of time, etc. etc. i feel plenty dumb about this, but still...i'm irrationally scared.
I did this the other day with a large chocolate shake I bought from McDonalds. My doctor told me to lay off the ice cream and I've been pretty good but every once in awhile I give in to my cravings and DH is always there to say, I thought your Dr. said....Yeah Yeah Yeah, I know what the Dr. said but it was so damn good!!
OK, I've got one.
I still feel nothing - in terms of emotions - towards this baby. I assume that when he or she is born, I will fall immensely in love. But I'm not in love yet and I don't love all of the movements, being pregnant with my first child, etc. I'm just fascinated from a scientific standpoint and I'm freaked out because it is alien like. I also keep feeling like now I'm second guessing our decision to have a child at this time. Are we completely ready? As ready as one can really be, yes. Did we think, talk, prepare long and hard for this? Yes, absolutely. But now the concept of taking care of another person is scaring the crap out of me, and I'm kind of an emotional wreck about all of that.
FTR, I don't regret the pregnancy. I'm sure that everything will change when he or she is born, but for right now, this is how I feel and I don't like it.
I don't post much, but I just wanted to say that I feel the same way about my dog. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only FTM who feels this way.
I have done little to nothing at work the last two days. I'm either Bumping, adding last minute things to my baby shower registry, or shopping on craigslist for deals. I feel a little bit guilty but I rationalize that since it's Friday and I have to leave early for my Dr. appointment anyway, the things on my desk can wait until next week.
And the crumbs are starting to pile up in my keyboard because I am constantly snacking at my desk while I'm bumping.
This is me exactly. I didn't start bumping until DS was born and it was too hard to jump into the birth month board at that point. But I loved the babies board (0-3....) and still enjoy hanging out with those that have kids my sons age. I have learned so much from them and it is a great way to get real recommendations on products. Sure there is drama and people get flamed but I take it stride and don't let that stuff get to me. That just makes for an interesting day and pretty much it is forgotten the next.
Every one parents differently and that is what makes these boards interesting. If we were all the same, it would be so boring.
Vroom, vroom.
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I feel the same way as well. My H and I both have our birthdays in September, we also have about 8 friends/family who have birthdays in September. I want my kid to have his own birthday!!
DH and I have already discussed that the next baby comes in a non-popular month so this doesn't happen again.
yeah, i'm on Google Chrome, so i guess that explains that.
and i feel so stupid for being so emotional about this. i'm not normally one to fall apart about things that are natural like this, but this just seems so foreign and new. and all anyone wants to tell me are these horror stories about the pain and the complications and how i'll never be able to do it with an epidural because i'm so tiny and not strong enough and.....it's dam overwhelming and effing scary.
You have every reason to be scared. Giving birth is huge. It is so normal! BUT - the beauty is, at this point, you don't have a choice.
Baby is coming out if you give up or not.
With my first we were walking in to the hospital for my c/s and I froze, turned to DH and told him I changed my mind, we didn't really *need* a baby. Maybe we should just get a gerbil instead.
In the middle of (a med-free) delivery with my 2nd, I was pushing and I looked up at the OB and told her that there was no way he was coming out.
I said I didn't care how may births she had seen, there was no freaking way that head was coming out, it just wasn't possible. As funny as it is, some little part of me really did believe I would never get his head out and I would be stuck like that forever. (and for the record I pushed for only like 18 minutes and he was born.)
You can do it! (and I promise you will!) As far as an epidural free delivery (if I'm reading that right and that is what you are after) you can do that too!
I did go med free with my second. No one thought I would really do it. (and I do see why they thought that way, I cut tags out of clothes as I don't like them scratching me
) But I did do it, and you know what, the pain really wasn't as bad as I had feared. Don't get me wrong, it hurt, a lot. But I never got to the point where I thought *I can't do this anymore*, I don't want to - yes, but never I can't. The pain also gains in intensity as you go on so you have time to learn to cope with the pain, it is not like a broken bone that slams into you all at once, yk? I plan to go med free again with this one.
And honestly, if you decide you do want an epidural you still get the prize at the end!
My FFFC isn't really juicy. Sorry to disappoint.
My doctor said, "no news is good news" regarding my glucose test, and it's been a week, so I feel like it's safe to say I passed---so to celebrate I've been eating crap all week.
I feel like I'm going to give myself GD because I'm so happy that I don't have GD.
Vroom, vroom.
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This has possibly been my #1 pet peeve of this pregnancy, being constantly told "oh, your poor dog" (no one seems concerned about Mr. Kitty).
I love the crap out of my pets and I'm well aware that things will be changing but I'm hardly going to toss them out the door just because the baby is here. It may take some time, but they're a big part of our family and we'll all have to adjust together.