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Re: Asking guests to write info on envelopes - Tacky or not?

  • BallSoxBallSox member
    imageLiz4444:

    imagemimikat22:
    I don't think it is tacky but many people do. I would only do it if it is a very large shower where there are so many that you couldn't possibly do it yourself.

    That is ridiculous!  If your shower is so big that you couldn't possibly write that many people's addresses on envelopes then you should have a smaller shower.  I'm guessing that that same person had no problem opening up that many gifts.

    Average time spent by a guest shopping/wrapping/delivering the present (not counting the time they worked to earn the money to buy the present) as well as the time at the shower oohing and ahhing over stuff she may or may not be interested in, all in the name of supporting her friend/family member:  3 hours.  

    Average time spent by the mom to be opening the present:  1 minute.  

    Don't be a lazy prat and make her address her own thank you.  If there are so many people you can't possibly write all of your own thank you notes, you're not having a shower, you're having a charity fundraiser.  

    I honestly judge the mom who prints out the address labels far less than I do the one that solicits her guests to do the work for her. 

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  • kacellekacelle member
    I'm shocked by the posters saying all showers they've been to do this.  I've been to a lot of bridal and baby showers, and NEVER been asked to address my own envelope.  I've also only been at one shower where there was a raffle, and I was the only non-family member there.  It was also the world's tackiest shower (guests told what to bring, MOB stepping out to smoke a couple of times, punch served from a huge Rubbermaid container, etc.).  
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  • littleredheadgurllittleredheadgurl

    Every baby shower I've ever been to has had this done, I don't think it's tacky at all. I guess it depend on where you are from. Most people would be glad to help out the mommy-to-be, but then some might be too uptight and want the mommy-to-be (with 100s of things on her mind other than thank-yous) to have one more thing on her mind.....

     

    Just my 2 cent...

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  • cutebride73cutebride73 member
    Tacky.  Thank goodness this is not common amongst my friends and family (although DH's cousins did it).  I plan on using the guest list that was typed up for the shower invites and printing out labels (labels were also used on the invites).  For my bridal shower I hand wrote all the addresses though.  I think either of those options is fine.  Or I like the idea of having YH address the envelopes.  Since you will most likely write all the thank yous, there is no reason he can't be involved and address envelopes.   
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
    imagelittleredheadgurl:

    Every baby shower I've ever been to has had this done, I don't think it's tacky at all. I guess it depend on where you are from. Most people would be glad to help out the mommy-to-be, but then some might be too uptight and want the mommy-to-be (with 100s of things on her mind other than thank-yous) to have one more thing on her mind.....

     

    Just my 2 cent...

    If I rolled my eyes any harder, they'd fall out of my damn head.  

    I've been a mommy to be and guess what---there's a lot of down time, even working 40 hours a week.  People act like it takes weeks to send out thank yous.  2 or 3 a night (literally <15 minutes) and you'll be done within a week.  ESP if the father to be helps too.  It's his kid as well.  

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  • dreammommadreammomma
    imagemyatala:

    Asking guests to address their own thank you card envelopes is both tacky AND lazy, IMO. 

    yup! well said

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  • kacellekacelle member
    imagelittleredheadgurl:

    Every baby shower I've ever been to has had this done, I don't think it's tacky at all. I guess it depend on where you are from. Most people would be glad to help out the mommy-to-be, but then some might be too uptight and want the mommy-to-be (with 100s of things on her mind other than thank-yous) to have one more thing on her mind.....

     

    Just my 2 cent...

    Could you please give me a detailed list of the "100s of things on her mind"?  When I was pregnant with DD, I was working and going to school full-time and I never had so much on my mind that I couldn't write addresses on a few envelopes. 

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