If one more person says..

LadyNikon

"OMG I AM SO SORRY YOU ARE HAVING TWINS".. I am going to scream.  I am very happy to be a future MoM dammit.  I think one of my anxieties is that people keep saying " oh I am sorry" like its some sort of death sentence.  If people seemed happier when I tell them maybe I would stop going " well can I do this?!"  I wonder how they would feel if I was having triplets or quadruplets.. 

EDIT: and another thing.. yes I would like two boys.. NO I do think I can handle having two boys instead of two girls or a boy and a girl.  BABIES are usually a handful and I am ok with that.  YES two boys are going to be more of a hassle than one.. but good grief.. its ok.  OK! lol.. 

macchiatto

That's crazy! I didn't really get that comment. Maybe not as much since they were my first? I did get some people who were like, "Wow, I don't think I could handle twins!" but nothing that rude. Most people were more like "Squeee twins would be so much FUN! How SPECIAL! I've always wanted twins! What a blessing!"

BananaPancake

Two babies is nothing! You strike me as a totally rational and normal person. A rational and normal person can handle twins, easy peasy. They're just babies! :-) The trick is to laugh about it ahead of time and make peace with the fact that chaos is going to rule your house for several years. Armed with that knowledge, it'll be just fine. even the most difficult babies grow in the blink of an eye.

 

 I personally  like the, "OMG, you're hoping for boys, right???" 

Yeah...because the sweet little girls you're talking in front of would have been so much better had they been boys...fools. 

 

It's also fantastic when they ask, "Was this planned????" and then they refuse to believe me when I tell them I've never been on BC in my life and none of them were actually planned by US, but that each one was lovingly planned by Someone. I mean seriously, would anyone in today's culture lie about never having been on BC?? Sheesh. I think people like it when BC fails more than people who just like having babies. The train-wreck mentality applies to reproduction, too, I guess! I'm pretty sure that's why people are so weird about multiples. The opportunity to see anyone lose her mind is just too exciting! AND, a lot of people have wanted multiples at one point or another, so I think jealousy probably plays a big role in the crazy things they say. 

LadyNikon

DH was one of those people who wanted twins as our first set of children.  He said and I quote " I think it would be fun!"  We both come from large families.  The twins will make 8 and 9 of the grandchildren.  My dad is elated.  My family is excited.  DH's family is excited.  It is the strangers that are killing me lol.  I have come to terms with  having them. I look forward to having them now although it still freaks me out a little.  DD was a good baby. But of course I get the.. " I hope you don't think your BOTH of our twins will be as good as your first child!"  That never ever happens.  One will be that "problem child" you just watch!.  

AmyJoy728

I've gotten a lot of "double the trouble", which I reply with "double the smiles" and "twin boys will certainly keep you busy" "yup they will!" the first 2.5 months go by so quick and now they are cooing and smiling and sleeping better, it isn't so overwhelming.i keep a log of when they eat/poop as I could never remember.... and it's interesting to go back weeks and months to see how far we have come.

emilyec1

What an awful thing to say! Of all the annoying comments we've gotten, the "pity" comments are the worst--they're insulting. Yes, we recognize life is going to be hard, but we are recieving such a blessing, and for anyone to think otherwise has been very hurtful to us.

Breenie29

Tell me about it! My kids are 2 and a half and I STILL hear those stupid comments!

BananaPancake

Ladynikon:

DH was one of those people who wanted twins as our first set of children.  He said and I quote " I think it would be fun!"  We both come from large families.  The twins will make 8 and 9 of the grandchildren.  My dad is elated.  My family is excited.  DH's family is excited.  It is the strangers that are killing me lol.  I have come to terms with  having them. I look forward to having them now although it still freaks me out a little.  DD was a good baby. But of course I get the.. " I hope you don't think your BOTH of our twins will be as good as your first child!"  That never ever happens.  One will be that "problem child" you just watch!.  

 

People are so weird. I think that they just want others to have problem kids because they can't control their own. All of my kids have always been well-behaved, easy-going, great sleepers, super fun to be around. Our track record is good, our parenting is consistent and people STILL tell us that a hellian is on the way every time. Ugh.  

lmydogally

My sisters are twins and my mother always told me how awful it was going to be for me and how my sisters didn't sleep till they were 3 years old. Blah blah.  Now she is amazed that my girls sleep so well. It turns out, she had no schedule, never read any books, no sleep traing, just ran around like a chicken with her head pecked off.  She told how silly it's was that I bought and watched "happiest babyon the block" and read  "Healthy sleep habits, happy twins". She said there was no such thing as happy babies, and no books would help me teach my babies to sleep.  

Well, now she's eaten those words.  

You will find that those how tell you how horrible it will be are usually, totally unorganized, don't put their babies on a schedule and don't have a clear sleep plan. Babies that sleep well, was very important to me so I worked hard to get two very different babies with very different sleep needs on the same schedule, sleeping in the own cribs from the beginning.  Because they sleep so well, I'm happy and they are very happy.  I can truly say, it's really really fun.

Eriksgal

I know people are such a-holes!  Half the time when I tell someone I have triplets they always say "I'm sorry".  I always say "I'm not.  It is awesome having triplets."  And that always makes them feel like an azz for saying it

BananaPancake

BandEddie:

BananaPancake:

Yeah...because the sweet little girls you're talking in front of would have been so much better had they been boys...fools. 

 

Girls are tougher than boys later on I think. Boys will just punch it out and be done with it. That being said, I'm stoked we're having twin girls and a boy Henry is going to need some back-bone though, growing up with twin sisters (especially if they take after me. God help my little man!)

The only downside with girls is that they never. stop. talking. Never. And they want someone to interact with them 24/7. I mean, the pretend play is on hyperdrive ALL of the time. It's wonderful when they can finally play together, because the constant mind work is exhausting. People are shocked when I tell them that we do not want b/g twins. Safety in numbers! Would YOU really want to be the boy with three older sisters and a twin sister?? I hope we have two of the same...poor potential only boy...

kelandspence2012

BandEddie:

I want to get one of those Starbucks write-and-bake mugs that says:

Yes: Holy ***, Triplets!!!

No: Fertility Meds (Just good sex and great aim)

Yes: They will be a handful

No: There's no history in our family

Yes: We're financially screwed

YES: We are SO blessed and SO excited!

LMAO Hilarious !!!!!!!  I've had L&D doctors ask me if I did IVF !!!!! I say no Spontaneous ! I had a pharmacy tech tell me that when he marries his girlfriend he hopes that they have twins ..... I said She might hate you !lol he just looked at me ! I'm so lucky to be pregnant with my boys but this pregnancy is rough !

jquirke9881

i think sometimes people don't know what to say and it is annoying when they say something like having multiples is a negative in any way.  People always ask "OMG what are you going to do?".  Obviously I am going to let one of them sleep outside and be raised by my dog since everyone clearly thinks it is impossible toraise more than 1 child at a time.

MelleTX

The comment I get all the time is "I bet you hope it's one of each right? Or two girls. Just NOT two boys."

I always respond, "I would love two boys". Truthfully, I couldn't care less what their sexes are.

My sister in law has triplets, she was joking with a friend who was a new mom of a singleton and complaining about how hard it was. She told her "One, baby? That's like taking care of a dog". You have to know my SIL to know that it was all in fun. She doesn't have a mean bone in her body. I just thought it was hilarious.  

Eriksgal

BandEddie:

BananaPancake:

BandEddie:

BananaPancake:

Yeah...because the sweet little girls you're talking in front of would have been so much better had they been boys...fools. 

 

Girls are tougher than boys later on I think. Boys will just punch it out and be done with it. That being said, I'm stoked we're having twin girls and a boy Henry is going to need some back-bone though, growing up with twin sisters (especially if they take after me. God help my little man!)

The only downside with girls is that they never. stop. talking. Never. And they want someone to interact with them 24/7. I mean, the pretend play is on hyperdrive ALL of the time. It's wonderful when they can finally play together, because the constant mind work is exhausting. People are shocked when I tell them that we do not want b/g twins. Safety in numbers! Would YOU really want to be the boy with three older sisters and a twin sister?? I hope we have two of the same...poor potential only boy...

Yeah our boy has got his work cut out for him already and he's not even on the outside yet. He's probably glad he's got a separate placenta away from the girls, never mind when they're all outside and TALKING! Oh man. We're so excited, but you're right they're going to be my little dynamos. Maybe I'll get SUPER lucky and all three will take after DH. He's super chill and very self-sufficient, even as a little boy he was that way. If they all take after me, I don't know what we'll do :P

 My boy is soooo chill and just the best baby!  Always smiling and happy and always willing to let his sisters eat first.  He was also born last so I don't know if birth order plays into that.  Hopefully your little man will be the same!

BananaPancake

RWMomma:

I get the same thing! My favorite is, "OMG you are crazy for having twins!" As if I somehow ordered twins, or should have kept only one!! I get tons of "you poor thing!" My own Mother said, "why would you want twins!" AAhhh, seriously! We know that life is going to be a crazy ride for a long time and we are THRILLED!! Why can't people see that? 

However, no matter how crazy life gets...we have all been blessed and Someone trusts us with multiples! Go girls!! 

 

LOL - exactly. Like you picked from a menu??  

kiwi443

macchiatto:

That's crazy! I didn't really get that comment. Maybe not as much since they were my first? I did get some people who were like, "Wow, I don't think I could handle twins!" but nothing that rude. Most people were more like "Squeee twins would be so much FUN! How SPECIAL! I've always wanted twins! What a blessing!"

I largely received those kinds of responses as well. And sometimes that annoyed me .

cutebride73

I get this sometimes too.  Then when I say I am having two boys I get the negative comments.  "Poor you"; "you'll have your hands full"; "good luck with that".  That is what really upsets me.  Some people say boys are easier than girls.  I think both genders have different challenges.  But, as babies they are pretty much the same - aren't they?  I mean they will each have their own personality - so they will be different no matter what.   

Fancy3Face

Are these coming from singleton parents?  They're just jealous   <Mostly kidding.  Multiples are so fun!  They're definitely a lot of work, but double (or triple/quadruple) the joy.  Don't let the comments scare you, there are good and bad days-MOSTLY good though! 

I get those comments all.the.time and I usually just smile sarcastically and move on.  I used to be a lot more accommodating of things like that, but after 15 months of hearing that, I'm over it.  I do like the comments from other twin parents though.  They're usually "isn't it wonderful to have twins?!" or "I totally understand".  It helps to know you're not alone. 

MrsLnt

BananaPancake:

Ladynikon:

DH was one of those people who wanted twins as our first set of children.  He said and I quote " I think it would be fun!"  We both come from large families.  The twins will make 8 and 9 of the grandchildren.  My dad is elated.  My family is excited.  DH's family is excited.  It is the strangers that are killing me lol.  I have come to terms with  having them. I look forward to having them now although it still freaks me out a little.  DD was a good baby. But of course I get the.. " I hope you don't think your BOTH of our twins will be as good as your first child!"  That never ever happens.  One will be that "problem child" you just watch!.  

 

People are so weird. I think that they just want others to have problem kids because they can't control their own. All of my kids have always been well-behaved, easy-going, great sleepers, super fun to be around. Our track record is good, our parenting is consistent and people STILL tell us that a hellian is on the way every time. Ugh.  

I think it's the misery loves company thing. We're also really consistent with parenting (I'm a SAHM, meaning I've got all day for time outs, just try me,kids!) and strict about sleep. We don't drag our kids places if they are hungry or due for a nap. And the result is that they're fun to be around. Mine can be sitting in the stroller, content and pleasant and some jerk with hellion children will say "double trouble, eh?" I love to say "nope, no trouble at all, they're great kids!" 

Maybe it's just because I'm in the South where we prefer back-handed insults like "Bless your heart" but I don't get a lot of "OMG NO! NOT TWINS". The most I've gotten is "double trouble", fortunately. The people that are all "oh, I want twins!" are well-meaning, just clueless. I just smile and tell them that while it's a wonderful experience, it's really difficult, so don't wish it upon yourself. 

Parenting is nature and nurture. If your first DD is a well behaved, fun kid (which, from her picture, she looks really sweet), I bet your twins will be, too.  

Mrs. Alice

That's awful!  Why would someone think that's okay to say to you?  I mostly got the "aren't you excited?" and a billion do twins run in the family questions.  I think the pregnancy comments just get us prepared for what it's like when you have them, because it's about 100x worse.  Half the time I during my pregnancy I didn't tell strangers about twins to avoid the conversation.

mirnb

poor you...but the comments just keep coming...i had someone say to me while I was pregnant "sucks to be you"...a random stranger in a food court who overheard I was having twins....I was actually speechless...Now i'm much more vocal...you just get tired of people's constant comments...and even when they can see that you have happy healthy babies who are both content they just have to add..."you just wait till they're ......fill in the blank (crawling, walking, teenagers etc)

AmyJoy728

BandEddie:

RWMomma:

I get the same thing! My favorite is, "OMG you are crazy for having twins!" As if I somehow ordered twins, or should have kept only one!! I get tons of "you poor thing!" My own Mother said, "why would you want twins!" AAhhh, seriously! We know that life is going to be a crazy ride for a long time and we are THRILLED!! Why can't people see that? 

However, no matter how crazy life gets...we have all been blessed and Someone trusts us with multiples! Go girls!! 

I told my sister I was going to explain to people that I got impatient and clicked submit two extra times, but that one girl was on back order so they delivered a brother instead. :P 

I say I got them, buy one get one free

LadyNikon

I think I once said " well my husband has super sperm.." DH just grinned and made a little nod.  The woman was like what?!  LOL