My sdd is jealous?

watertribeprincess

my step daughter is really jealous of my husband and i's twins that are soon to be born. she is 8 yrs old. I don't know what to say to her. we try to spend as much time with her as possible, and we have a good relationship with her mother, and we tell her that we still love her very very much, we really don't like that she feels this way towards her soon to be baby siblings! I have been apart of her life since she was just a toddler!

AmberMH08

Its the age i think. i swear my SD also 8 is going thru puberty. They are at an age they don't undrstand their emotions but are full of them. My SD isn't so much jealous but rather with this LO  which will be her 4th sibling half/step combo She has just acted like I'm not pregnant at all this time. I think it may be that she has been the only girl and now she won't be. Only advice I have is to just keep trying to make her feel special to you both i fear it will be a long road thru these teen yrs for us with these girls

CFjo2010

I think the jealousy and uncertainty of a newborn is common with all kids, not just kids in a blended family. My oldest sister was 7 when I was born, and she told me that she was less then thrilled at my arrival. Even at the age of 7 she knew that a newborn was going to disrupt her life. Newborns equal tired parents, crying, sometimes sleepless nights, less attention, etc. 

Your SD knows you love her. Sure, there will probably be some attitude and resentment when the babies first arrive, but as long as you and your husband keep her involved and make time for just her, she'll come out of this ok. 

Littlejen22

When you say jealous, what do you mean?  And what she she saying/doing to make you guys respond by telling her you will still love her?  I am not saying you are wrong but cannot offer suggestions without knowing.

Saran

As a mother of twins I can say that ALOT of attention is given to twins and it will be that way for a long time. The only reason we didn't have a big jealous problem when I had them is because my step children are twins as well. We did however have problems from time to time because my sk's are b/g twins and look nothing alike and my twins are g/g and are hard to tell apart so they get alot of attention when we are out.

All you can do is continue the way you have by giving her one on one attention and getting her involved with the care of the babies.