Not excited...yet

Mshaw1123

I'm a complete worry wort and refuse to get excited about being pregnant until I go to the OB, which is in a week. My family seems so much more excited about this than I am, but it's just because I am terrified and nervous that something will go wrong. It's so early, and we've only told our parents, but even telling them felt like a jinx Am I going crazy?

onlymeggan

No you're not crazy.  I totally understand! I was super excited then we chose to tell our parents, grandparents, and siblings and wait for everyone else after the U/S in 3.5 more weeks.  I now feel like telling them jinxed us and panic at every little thing.   It's normal and natural to be anxious and you'll be excited when you see that little heart flutter.

MRSVELA07

I felt the same way! My pregnancy became real after I spoke with the doula I want to hire. She pretty much told me you only have 9 months to prep for your new baby...9 months! You should plan and be happy and excited until something does happen. I know that sounds a little cruel but it's true. You can spend a lot of time doubting your pregnancy but if you don't have any complications, no bleeding and your dr. does not consider you high risk, enjoy being pregnant! Embrace every minute of morning sickness, nausea, sore boobs, rhitis of pregnancy, etc. If something happens chances are you won't have any control over it unless you drink alcohol, smoke or do drugs. Be excited that you are able to do what some women dream of doing...having a baby of their own! Happy & Healthy 9 months to you!

daniella2727

i 100% understand. i will say with my 1st pregnancy i never worried, i found out i was pregnant and i never really thought anything bad could happen. then i had a miscarriage the second time around, and had several friends who had things go wrong so this time being pregnant again i am not 100% celebrating until i go to the drs which isn't for 3 more weeks 

jterpbride

I hear you. I didn't want to get excited at first either. But after hearing the heartbeat at about 10 weeks I felt much better. How about trying to be at least 70% excited? 

And pp had a good point about only having 9 months to prepare. So don't be in denial until you only have a couple months left! I think that's a smart way of thinking about it.

NechamaChayim

My husband asked me last night when we're allowed to be excited. I told him he can be excited whenever he wants but I need another 4-6 weeks (when I'll be 10 to 12 weeks along).

The biggest preparation for me is mental and emotional and I've been working on that for years.

 

ta78

Like PP said, you only have 9 months to prepare and be excited about this time. Whether you allow yourself to believe it or not, your body is doing something amazing and you are having a baby.

Yes, you may worry that something may happen, but that is beyond your control. Enjoy this time while it's here. Read a baby book, look at nursery ideas, talk about baby names. 

Chappy_jr

I felt happy, but not excited, until I saw the heartbeat on the first u/s.  Even now, the excitement abates from time to time because there isn't a lot to DO right now - I'm not showing, it's too early to shop/register/paint.  The excitement will come.