Need some advice please **ticker**

Swede25

Hello ladies,

 I hate that I even have to ask this question, or that there are even people who are able to answer it, but I honestly have no idea where else to turn to get some advice about this situation.

A friend of mine from high school gave birth to her son exactly a week before I had my son.  In December, he suddenly passed away at 4 months old.  I've tried my best to stay in touch with her, do many of the things that you all have compiled in the list at the top of this page, but at the same time, give her a little distance because I know it is difficult for her to see or hear about my son (we don't live in the same state, so we keep in contact through Facebook, email, etc.).

I really want to do something for her son's birthday, which is July 23rd, but I am clueless about what to do. I thought about writing her a letter, or sending a card, or something, to acknowledge her son.  What do you all suggest is the best route for me to take?  Again, I know you all have that list of suggestions up top, but since this is specifically for his birthday, I didn't know if I should be doing something different.  I don't want to offend her or cause her more hurt than she already has, but I want her to know that I remember Gabriel and the life that he had.   

Thanks in advance for any help you can give me.

pottermommy

One of the ladies on here sent me a necklace for Kamryn's birthday with her name and stone on it.  I wear it every day.

I would write a card.  Tell her that you are so happy she has today to remember the joyous moment of her son's birth. 

My DH told me this year on her birthday....We will celebrate the day of her brith with smiles and joy b/c we will never be sad that she was born, on her angelversary we will morn and be sad but today we will be joyous.

Show her that you are joyous for the life and love her son had.

LoveOfMikesLife

I had a few friends send me flowers! It felt awesome knowing that other people were thinking about my daughter as well. A simple card,letter,note, whatever can really go a long way. Even a text for that matter. It's just nice knowing that other people acknowledge your baby even thought he/she isn't here anymore.

carrotsoup70

I agree with PP to send a card or note. On Ian's first birthday I received "Thinking of You" cards from a few family members. They were greatly appreciated.

ally2011

I think flowers are great.  I got some and it meant the world to me.

I ordered one of these for a Mother's Day gift exchange for loss moms and she liked it....they are normally almost $20 but are on sale right now for $8.  If you wanted to spend more, there are other options on Etsy, just search for infant loss jewelry.  These are customized with the birth stone and name.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/100078623/july-4th-sale-childrens-baby-feet-hand?ref=sr_gallery_9&ga_search_query=infant+loss+jewelry&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_ship_to=ZZ&ga_min=0&ga_max=0&ga_page=7&ga_search_type=all

Thank you for thinking of your friend!

Jenn