Feeling content about 3

CaitlinJ22

I always wanted more than 3 kids, but after having DS2 and having a week with him in the nicu for salmonella and not knowing if we were going to bring him home...I look at our kids and feel very blessed that they are all healthy. Im thinking we may be done...but nothing is set in stone yet.

Maybe one day I will change my mind but I am SO happy to not be pregnant anymore, to not be overly uncomfortable or hormonal (well, mine are sitll leveling out and LOVE having my body back, even while nursing. I am so looking forward to raising our kids and enjoying it all more now that I am not pregnant. 

If we have a nother it will be closer to a 3 year age difference, and maybe even adopt as we have always wanted to do.

anyone else feel this way? I know its early, but with DD I knew I wanted more the day she was born.  

ldbryan

Before having DD2, I thought I wanted three kids. Now that she's here, I feel like we're done. The last few weeks of pregnancy, recovering from a c section, and struggling with BF twice might be enough for me.

cfitz16

I thought I would be ok with 2, but now that I am here, I realize that I would really like a 3rd.  It depends mostly on finances and how that shakes out for us in the next year or so.  I always wanted 3, but there was a time in the first three months of baby #2 that I thought "this might be it".  But, we'll see.  Hopefully things fall into place and we could welcome a 3rd into our family.

hellopoppyseed

Yes I feel exactly the same way even down to possibly adopting later. But as far as having them myself, three is it. I can't wait to have my body to myself and just focus on parenting outside babies. I'm just so excited for the next phase. I wanted three and it just feels right. Everything you're saying sounds totally normal to me. 

laura1

hellopoppyseed:

Yes I feel exactly the same way even down to possibly adopting later. But as far as having them myself, three is it. I can't wait to have my body to myself and just focus on parenting outside babies. I'm just so excited for the next phase. I wanted three and it just feels right. Everything you're saying sounds totally normal to me. 

This for us as well, except we will probably not adopt.  3 is pretty much our limit financially, and I am totally good with that.  At my 6 wk pp checkup after DD, my OB asked if we were done now, and I couldn't tell her - this time I will!

Court0026

After I had DD, I was SO done.  I thought I would die if I got pregnant again.  She was SO tough.  I look at my son with his severe food allergies and I am so thankful that we are managing them as well as we are.  Then I look at DD and I am so thankful about how she is finally getting easier.  It WAS enough, but when DD turned 2, I kind of have this twinge of wanting another.  DH is dead-set against it, but I have been mentioning it lately!  He thinks I have lost my mind.

lkf041

First of all, I hate that you went through all of that.  I can totally relate, our #2 was diagnosed with cancer in march so it has been a bit stressful here as well.  We always wanted more than 3 but when crappy situations pop up it really does make you think.  

shopgirl78

The further away from the baby phase I got the more sure I am we are done.   I am so ready to be done with, cribs (check), paci's (In progress), pull-ups, sipppies, etc. At DS2 first birthday, I was so sure I wanted another but its not in the cards for us and its best psychologically for both us that we draw our line.  

If we ever get a wild hair, I'd want it to be through adoption or foster care. 

runnergirl79

I feel very similar, feeling content about 4.  My husband and I both feel like we might have a fifth at some point, but I am in no hurry, and would be content to stop after #4.  If we have a fifth, I think it would be in another 3 or more years from now.

morgs8384

I am completely on the fence. I've always wanted 3 or 4 kids since I was raised in a bigger family. Then once I got pregnant I was open to the idea of having two... now that LO #2 is our second boy I am torn. Some days I want a third, and other days I think I am good with just two. I am 27, and find it hard to be done having kids already... So I think we will take a few years off and then try for a third and maybe a fourth. Should probably see how it goes with two first!

kcisthebombdotcom

I was 100% sure in the weeks following my 2nd child's birth that we were done. While there were no health problems with her, I had a really horrible recovery. After getting a year removed from all that I realized I did want another child.

memali26

morgs8384:

I am completely on the fence. I've always wanted 3 or 4 kids since I was raised in a bigger family. Then once I got pregnant I was open to the idea of having two... now that LO #2 is our second boy I am torn. Some days I want a third, and other days I think I am good with just two. I am 27, and find it hard to be done having kids already... So I think we will take a few years off and then try for a third and maybe a fourth. Should probably see how it goes with two first!

This is me, too. I used to want 4, and after DD1 said 3 was it. Now we have two wonderful girls, but having 2u2 wears me out some days, physically and mentally, and those days I'm just not sure adding a 3rd is a good idea. But like you, I'm only 27 and can't quite wrap my head around being done yet. Some days I have that "someone is missing" feeling, and others I'm quite content with just two. I keep hoping for a knock over the head telling me to either stop at 2 or go for 3

kfriscia

I'm still on the fence about this. When I was pregnant with #3 I was soo sooooo sure I was done. I had a loss at 15 weeks last summer and I was beyond stressed out during this last pregnancy worried something would go wrong at any minute. And I fould being ginormously pregnant with two very active boys to chase after was riduculously hard. If I would of had a csection for some reason I told my dr I would like to get my tubes tied. Well I had a normal vaginal delievery. And now that she is here I am finding myself thinking that I would maybe like a 4th in a few years. I don't want to do 2u2 again but maybe when the baby is 3 I would consider another one. DH however would have been good with 2 so he will be a tough sell on the idea. I bring the idea up occasionally and he doesn't immediately say that I'm nuts so that's a good sign.lol

meredith anastasia

CaitlinJ22:

If we have a nother it will be closer to a 3 year age difference, and maybe even adopt as we have always wanted to do.

anyone else feel this way? I know its early, but with DD I knew I wanted more the day she was born.  

That's interesting - with DS2 I had the same feeling, I knew I wanted more the day he was born.  I am hoping to feel complete after #3 is here, because realistically (and financially) this will probably be our last.  Congratulations on your family of 5!

LJR 84

The day #2 was born I knew I didn't want him to be our last baby! I can't lie...2u2 has been very difficult at times, (mine are 12mo apart) but its also very rewarding. Now that ds is almost 1 I'm starting to get baby fever! Hopefully I can convince dh to ttc this fall/winter.

 I do think 3 will make our family complete, though.  

MammaBear81

I think everyone just "knows" when they are done. Weather it was the number you had in your head when you were 6 years old, or you just figured out that what you have right now is perfect, when you know, you know.  As you said it's not set in stone, but I think when you have that content feeling, all is right in the world, and life is good.

I'm pretty sure we are done now (financial reasons) but I don't "feel" done.  If our financial situation changes in the next year we might just try for another, but I can't justify having another one right now just because I don't feel done.