TTC after 35

I have been blessed officially. : p

Soooo.... I have 2 grandparents still alive. My two Italian 96 year old grandparents. My grandmother has a bizarre gift. She just knows things. Like when the phone rang out of the blue one afternoon and she said "My sister Jenny just died." and it was her other sister calling to give her the news. Or when she said "It's too bad Jason and Lea are dating other people-- they would be perfect together." and then my brother Jason and Lea ended up (on their own, having no knowledge of my grandmother's proclamation) leaving their respective partners and now are happily married and own (and run) two amazing restaurants out in Chicago.

So when my grandmother-- whom we call M?m?-- called me today to ask how I was doing ("I didn't want to call earlier because it gets in your head when it's so recent"), I of course gave her my full attention-- even though I was driving home and should have put her on speaker phone.

My grandmother gave me the usual "I guess it's not meant to be, but it still hurts. You're strong, you'll get through this. So many people have miscarriages and then go on to have kids with no problem-- thank God you don't have problems like my friend Louise (you remember her, right? Carmine's wife; she played pinochle with us on Friday nights.)..." 

And then she told me, "I know you're going to have more kids. And if M?m? says it, then it's true." 

So there it is. M?m? has spoken. Boom!

(Maybe I should rent her out on a pay-per-consult basis?)


"You have to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather was." 
        -- Abraham Lincoln

                           Me:39  MH:39 
DD born 6/1/2013 after 15 months of TTC with one loss.    
TTC #2: BFP 4/22 but stalled growth and no HB at 9w3d on 5/30        

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Re: I have been blessed officially. : p

  • Daniele,

    I am so sorry for your loss, I have been out of town for work and I just saw your post, otherwise I would have reached out to you sooner! 

    That is a really great story about your Meme.  I had a similar relationship with my Granny before she died four years ago.

    I will be pulling for you and your DH this month.



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  • I say believe her!  Good luck!
    Me 39, DH 40
    Male Factor (severe oligospermia) 
    IVF#1-December 2013: Conversion Protocol @ SIRM, Canceled on day 10 of stims due to poor response
    IVF#2- February 2014:  Estrogen Priming Conversion Protocol @ SIRM (ER 2/22: (9R, 7M, 4F, All arrested, nothing to trasnfer)
    IUI#1-May 28, 2014- 100mg clomid, HCG Trigger, 100mg progesterone oral--BFN
    IUI#2-June 24, 2014- non medicated, HCG 2,500mg x 4 doses (over a week), Endometrium- BFN
    Suprise BFP- September 1, 2014- miscarriage at 5 weeks. 

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  • Grandma's do have a way of knowing things, they've seen a heck of alot more life than we have so I'd say she knows best!
    nate and teddy
    Me 41 DH 46  Not actively ttc, surprise BFP on 1/6/11! 4/1/11 m/c our sunshine at 16wks after complications from CVS test. TTC #2 **5th cycle 12/6/11 BFP! Missed m/c at 9 weeks 1/21/12, trisomy 14. Two Chemical PG 3/12&7/12
    ** BFP 8/16/12 beta #1 148! beta#2 407 beta #3 4000 u/s 9.10 1 lovely hb 126, Baby Boy is due 04/28/13!! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

  • Meme knows best :) Glad you got some encouragement in an otherwise down week. I'm still so sorry that all of this has to be so hard for you ((hug))
  • Reading this gave me chills what a wonderful thing to hear from your meme and yes can you pencil me in for a consultation?  ;)

    Me 38 MH 41 - TTC since June 2010 - dx with Severe MFI. Straight to IVF with ICSI. IVF #1 - ER 06/13/12 - 9 Eggs Retrieved - 4 ICSI'd - only 2 fert. 06/15/12 - 2DT - 3 cell & 6 cell with fragmentation. Beta 06/29/12 - IVF #1 = BFN. 07/20/12 - WTF Appt -Told by our RE to quit IVF. Second Opinion from RE is good. IVF#2 - November 2012. Estradiol Pills Started 11/6. Stims start 11/16. ER 11/26 - 7 eggs retrieved - all mature. 4 fertilized with ICSI. ET 11/29 Transferred 3 embryos. Beta is 12/10. 1st Beta 81 2nd Beta 160 and 3rd beta 360!!! First U/S 12/21/12 - We saw one beautiful gest. sac. 2nd U/S is 01/04/2013 - H/B 183 02/05/13 - NT Scan - everything looks good and IT'S A BOY!  Aiden was born 08/20/2013.

    IVF #2 is in progress.  ER was 05/12/14 - 11 eggs retrieved, 8 fertilized with ICSI.  ET was 05/15/14 - we transferred 3 embryos as we did on the cycle my son was conceived.  We were able to freeze 3 embryos. Beta is scheduled for 05/26/14.  1st beta - 111.  2nd beta - 159 didn't double :( 3rd beta Friday 5/30) - not a lot of hope left. Beta # 3 is 247 - probably ectopic.  Beta # 4 is 813 - possibly vanishing multiple sydrome?  06/05/14 - 5w4days - first U/S - we see a gestational sac and yolk - still have hope!  06/17/14 - 7w1day - U/S and saw and heard the heartbeat - Finally!  06/27/14 - 8w4days - Baby and heartbeat look and sound great :)  EDD 02/01/14 and It's a boy!

     "Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."


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  • Meme has spoken and so it shall be!

    Me:40 AMA, DH:36 0% morph, TTC#1;
    BFP#1 4/2011, MMC 6/2011 11wks Trisomy 13;
    BFP#2 11/2011, CP
    FSH: 17.9, AMH: 2.2
    IVF#1 w/ICSI: ER 4/3: 5R,4M,4F
    ET 4/6 All 4 (1-8A+, 2-8A-, 1-3A) BFP#3
    Two weeks of beta hell = Blighted Ovum
    IVF#2 Aug/Sept: ER 8/27: 4R,3M,3F
    ET 8/30 (1-8A+, 1-6A+)
    Beta#1 9/10: 350; Beta#2 9/12: 796; Beta#3 9/20: 9155
    Expecting Boy/Girl Twins! My babies were born 4/23/13 at 36w1d!


  • She sounds like a wonderful lady.  :)  And she's right first pregnancy was a miscarriage.  I thought I would never have kids.  My second one...boom!  Got my daughter.

    Hope this helps.



    Me - 38 DH - 38 DD - 2 pregnancy
  • Such a great story.  Your gm sounds like a wonderful woman!
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    Daniele, I hope your Meme is so right!  Crossing fingers that she really does have a link into future visions for you.  And thanks for your comments today on what my mom made me laugh out loud for real and made it a lot better.  ;)

    TTC 10/11. IUI 2/12. BFP 3/8/12. 4/26/12 missed mc. RE consult 5/17/12. IVF #1 ER 7/13/12 53R, 41M ICSIed, 32F, 8 5d, 6 6d blasts - all PGD/frozen. PGD results 1 normal M and 1 normal F, 1 maybe M. FET 9/6, transferred 1 F embie. Beta 9/15 BFN. FET#2 planned for 11/2012 put off until 2013. Surprise BFP 11/21/12!! My son was born on 7/24/13!

    FET 4/28/2015 - Transferred 1 M embie. 5/6/15 BFP!

  • YAY for the blessings of Italian Grandmothers!
    "Don't look back, you can never look back." - Don Henley
  • That is a great sign! :) 
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