Update-family party today

dhreczuck

Well I'm sitting in a bedroom right now making myself take a time out. I kind of had a complete meltdown very suddenly and noone needs to see this ugly cry drama.

Every single person at this party has a child except DH and I so every time my pregnant sister sits down someone starts a whole conversation about pregnancy and it goes on and on and on..Many of the guests are my other sis's friends and don't know anything about my history. I just couldn't handle it anymore. I get overwhelmed that I can't participate in conversations, its like my pregnancies are dirty little secret or something.

So for now I'm hanging here by myself and I'll wait until the redness settles down before I rejoin everyone. Somedays I just can't..

Mrs.McIrish

Hugs. I know it isn't the same as family but I went for a pedicure today and two of the nail techs are PG. Another customer kept going on and on about how uncomfortable the PG ladies looked as they are due in a few weeks. She had to share her own PG stories from 30 yrs ago and I just wanted to scream "STOP TALKING, do you know how uncomfortable enduring 4 IVF without success is?" I hOpe you can return to the party soon.

dhreczuck

Yup, that's exactly it, there has to be a million other things we could talk about instead, DH just came and found me. He said me eyes are all puffy and red. Great! I told him to just say I was checking my email, which really is only 1/2 a lie.

danieleandwayne

Allergies are a great excuse for red, puffy eyes. A few well-timed sneezes and sniffles can really sell it!

I hate get-togethers when people can't talk about anything other than children. Even if/when I have children, I hope to goodness I have something else to talk about other than them. I'm still a complete human being with a job and interests outside of kids. 

At least at my get-together today, despite being surrounded by children everywhere, I was able to talk to MH's cousins about work, books, science, education, etc. 

I'm so sorry, Chica. Big hugs. I can't wait for you to be the one sitting down amongst a flock of hens and hearing them all cluck about you being all pregnant.

happywifemomofone

I'm so sorry that you have to endure this at your family party.  Hope that it's over quickly....IF sure has made me much more aware of what others around me may be going through.  Hugs and thinking of you!

10-4LilBuddy

I second DW - I use allergies as an excuse all the time for my red, teary eyes. 

I hope you were able to salvage your day.  

dhreczuck

Thanks, by the time I made it back outside all the pregnant ladies left and I then I felt silly for getting so emotional. Oh well, we're only human. 

DanielandWayne - I remember you also had a difficult get together today. I hope it went well for you.. 

lovelyday39

I'm sorry you are drowing in a sea of pregnancy talk today I can only imagine how difficult that is for you. Smart to take a time out, hope you're feeling better soon. You are not silly for having feelings! It happens! ((hug))

lovelyday39

Mrs.McIrish:

Hugs. I know it isn't the same as family but I went for a pedicure today and two of the nail techs are PG. Another customer kept going on and on about how uncomfortable the PG ladies looked as they are due in a few weeks. She had to share her own PG stories from 30 yrs ago and I just wanted to scream "STOP TALKING, do you know how uncomfortable enduring 4 IVF without success is?" I hOpe you can return to the party soon.

I don't know about you guys but in our nail salons here, the ladies/nail techs are VERY forward about asking if you have any kids. And if you don't WHEN you're going to have some or WHY you don't have any. Maybe it's a cultural difference, but I always find it very off-putting, rude and insensitive, not to mention uncomfortable.

Mayzie15

dhreczuck:

Thanks, by the time I made it back outside all the pregnant ladies left and I then I felt silly for getting so emotional. Oh well, we're only human. 

DanielandWayne - I remember you also had a difficult get together today. I hope it went well for you.. 

 I'm sorry this event didn't go as planned for you, but give you so much credit for going these functions are tough for me and I usually find some reason not to go - I say kudos to you for going and sticking it out  

BeckyP005

I'm late on this but I hope the rest of the day went ok. I'm sorry it's so hard  Sometimes I wish we all lived near each other so we could just run over to each others houses and give group hugs.

danieleandwayne

BeckyP005:

I'm late on this but I hope the rest of the day went ok. I'm sorry it's so hard  Sometimes I wish we all lived near each other so we could just run over to each others houses and give group hugs.

This! And we could also share spare OPK/HPTs! It could be the new "cup of sugar!"

BeckyP005

danieleandwayne:

BeckyP005:

I'm late on this but I hope the rest of the day went ok. I'm sorry it's so hard  Sometimes I wish we all lived near each other so we could just run over to each others houses and give group hugs.

This! And we could also share spare OPK/HPTs! It could be the new "cup of sugar!"

Seriously....haaha

dhreczuck

Well I just found out my mother wants to throw my sister's baby shower in early August, she's not due until the end of November! A little early you think, my other sister is on the same page as me, we'd like to do it closer to her due date.. uggg I have WAY less time to prepare for it than I thought, and it's very likely I will be in the middle of an IVF cycle. Good times!

danieleandwayne

Is there a particular reason-- other than grandmotherly impatience-- that your mom wants to throw the party early??

In our family, we don't do that so early-- it's just bad luck, we feel. I know every culture and family is different (and I'm superstitious, too), but that just seems like courting disaster. 

And if you're in the middle of an IVF cycle, that is just sucktastic for you. Does your mom know that the timing is going to be bad for you? Would she be willing to respect your wish to be fully present for your sister's shower and hold off until at least September or October??

dhreczuck

My parents live in Florida and now that they're retired its like pulling teeth to get them to travel more than a few times a year. She was already planning on heading up north for 2 weeks and doesn't want to make another trip until she has the baby, and apparently my sister has requested having it this summer because she thinks it will give her more time to purchase anything else that she'll need. 

My cousin who is due in August isn't even having her shower for another two weeks!  But I agree, I'm superstitious as well, and having unopened or used gifts in my closet collecting dust as we speak, I have a different perspective on it. 

I'm going to let her know now, that I might be doing an IVF cycle and I have no way of predicting what that schedule will look like. Worst case scenerio I just can't make it. Its not far but its still a 4 hour drive and that's w/o traffic, I would feel horrible but my sister having been through it I'm sure will somewhat understand, or at least I hope so..