Overnights at approx 2 weeks old?

monpetitechouchou01

Baby daddy went from making my life a living hell during the pregnancy to becoming super dad once the baby was born. I was surprised but happy for my baby because its all about her now. As difficult as it has been to have him over our home every day pretending as if he didn't mistreat me I do it for my baby. However, he requested that the baby stay with him over the weekend and then for a week when his family came to visit. I said no to this and explained that its not recommendable to start over night visits with a new born. She's 2 weeks old! I have hired a lawyer who I will see next week.. however, someone please tell me that a judge will not allow overnight visits with the father when the baby is this young. The baby daddy said all I had to do was simply pump and give him the milk and let her stay with him. He lives about 40 minutes away so the distance isnt far. But Will a judge allow this?

FyreFlyeRush

It all depends on the state, the judge and the lawyers involved. Whether or not you BF also makes a difference. Here are some links on overnights and the effects on infants and children under 3. 

 https://www.attachmentparenting.org/pdfs/artinfantjoint.pdf

 https://www.attachmentparenting.org/support/articles/artnightday.php

https://www.latrobe.edu.au/news/articles/2010/article/infants-struggle-in-shared-care-report

Also, if you're BF, from LLLI and the WHO regarding breastfeeding. The LLLI one specifically talks about breastfeeding and visitation. The WHO on talks about how critical exclusive bf is in the first 6 months.

  https://www.who.int/nutrition/topics/exclusive_breastfeeding/en/

 https://www.llli.org/law/lawvisitation.html

 

FyreFlyeRush

I'm searching for an article I read where it says pumping is not the same as BF. Breastfeeding is more than a nutritional bond. It is an emotional attacent between mom and baby. Also, that WHO article points out bottles should not be used if they can be avoided before 6mos. A week away from mom is WAY to long for any newborn, let alone a BF one, especially of you're practicing attachment parenting. A bottle should never be offered to an infant before 1mos to prevent nipple/suck confusion. Yes, it's real, and it is not fun. 

monpetitechouchou01

Thank you so much for this! I'll take a look at the links asap. I'm hoping beyond hope that a judge won't allow overnight visits at such a young age. I just don't see it being healthy for a baby. 

monpetitechouchou01

tifanico:

An entire weekend and then a week?! Is he insane?! 

In my case BD did have early overnights because I needed to go to school but more than 24 is outrageous.  

Thanks for your input! How old was your baby when she did overnights? And for how long?