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February 2013 Moms
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Re: Circumcision?
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
The only reason I wouldn't is the horrific time my friend had with my godson's. He ended up having to have not one but FOUR more surgeries to repair damage done.If I hadn't experienced it with the family I don't think I'd have an opinion, really, I'd leave it up to my SO
I'm not trying stir up anything. It's just something that has been coming up a lot with my husband and pregnant friend.
And I saw after I posted that you seem to be pretty new here (at least going by your post count), so I do think it was an innocent question. Like vaccines, though, circumcision is a topic that often gets tempers fired up on TB, so it's a topic that gets brought up a lot by trolls or people just trying to stir up some drama. So far things are staying calm over here, though :-)
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
Sorry, I'm really not trying to start anything. I guess for me it's just a personal decision as parent and I don't expect everyone to agree with it but I'm not going to get mad at anyone for their own decisions as parents. But I can see where some people are more passionate on the topic. Like PP said to each their own.
Missed m/c found @ 10 weeks - May 2010
Missed m/c found @ 10.5 weeks - August 2012
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
Originally I was planning on it and DH is for it, but since reading some blogs about mom guilt about the pain and such, I'm teetering on the fence. I feel like I should learn more about it. I read one woman's doctor describe it as 'barbaric' even though he performs them. Things like that make me rethink things. We will be finding out the gender so I guess DH and I will have some long talks if it turns out LO is a boy. I will not take this issue lightly.
I'm really interested in PP's DH's friend who was humiliated by it. I can definitely see that as an argument to do it, but on the other hand if the friend thought it was so painful as an adult, I wonder how painful it is for a baby who doesn't have any idea what's going on. :-/
This is a very tough decision; certainly no judgement from me either way - parents' choice IMO.
2 babies in heaven (mc)
Blog: ForLoveofCupcakes.com
This. My former BIL was premature and was not circumcised because of this. He found it to be extremely humiliating when he was in school and had to start showering with other kids.
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I just cannot even begin to understand the concept of permanently altering your child's body without their permission - especially for the reasoning that "everyone else is doing it".
But I wouldn't pierce my daughters ears or give my babies tattoos, so maybe I'm insane.
Oh and just FYI for those who are doing it so your kids are the 'cool kids', standards are changing now. The circumcision rate has been declining, and in 2008 it was down to 56%.
Just like everything else, do your research and decide what you feel is right, and don't let other people or social factors influence you.
We circumcised DS. I let DH choose because he has the same equipment.
After some research after he was born though, I'm not sure it was the best decision. I'm on the fence about how I feel if we have another boy. I think there are pros and cons to both sides. A lot of people feel very strongly one way or the other, but I really don't, so it makes it a tough choice. 
Jinx.
If this baby is a boy, he will without a doubt be circumcised. I grew up in a house full of girls (just my dad, no brothers), so I never really thought about it until DH and I began discussing starting a family. DH is circumcised and he feels strongly that if we have a son, he should be as well.
IMO, I don't feel there is a "wrong" choice. It is a personal choice. Another thing I am grateful that each one of us gets to choose/not choose for our children. No one is forced one way or another
It is very important to research this topic to assist in your decision making re: circumcision.
We will definitely be doing it. It's in line with our culture to circumcise boys. Actually, where I come from (I'm Kenyan), boys are circumcised at puberty as a rite of passage from childhood to manhood. However, since we live in the States now, we will have our son (assuming this baby is a boy) circumcised at birth. Had we been in Kenya we'd have done it the traditional way.
That said, I must say I personally find uncircumcised penises gross-looking. I am an RN and have seen more penises than I care to count and the uncircumcised ones do not look appealing at all, not to speak of all the crud and dirt that always seems to accumulate under the foreskin. Yuck!
This is my opinion. Bite me if you want but it won't change how I feel about the issue.
I have to weigh in on this one. I have two boys from my ex husband and neither was circumcised at birth. DH and I hotly debated the issue with DD (we didn't know if she was going to be a boy or a girl). I was adamantly against it and he wanted it done.
Unfortunately, DS1 is one of those rare few who develops complications from not having it done. Last November the head of his penis started sealing itself to the inside of his foreskin. He couldn't pull it back at all, not even enough to pee. We had to go to the ER and have them rip the skin apart so he could pee - it was the most awful thing to watch, he was in so much pain. The next day he had to be circumcised. Having it done at 7 years old was absolutely awful. He had such a hard time with it, not just physically, but mentally. Little boys are attached to their little boys parts and it took him a long time to get used to and be ok with. I would never wish that on another kid - so if we have a boy it will be done at birth, no question about it. I'd rather it happen before he knows the difference and when he won't remember it.
I grew up thinking there was only one kind of penis- circumcised. It wasn't until middle school health class that I learned otherwise. I remember clearly how it was taboo in high school health classes. They showed a picture of a man's uncircumcised penis from the 70s-can you imagine how scarring this was?! Then I met my husband...his parents are from Poland and have not had any of their boys circumcised. I was amazed! It was not a big deal for him at all. Ive asked so many questions about him growing up and being in the locker room with other guys (we are 27 years old now). He said he wasn't the only one and no one even talked about it. It was no big deal. I was shocked! I thought there was much more of a stigma. I guess I was wrong. This would have been my reasoning for having it done.
When we discussed our future children he said he would absolutely have them circumcised. For one, he said that hygiene is extremely important when the boys are babies and unable to clean on their own. Even when a mom/dad are careful about cleansing it can still get infected easily. Then, when they are old enough to bathe on their own they may not do it properly which can cause infection. He thinks it would all around be easier to have it done from the beginning. I hope this sheds some light...
In my PP I mentioned the experience my BIL dealt with being the only uncircumcised boy in his grade. I would like to state that I absolutely did not mean to imply that I would circumcise a child so that they would be "cool". My BIL's experience in the 1980s may be different than what a child would face now. I understand that it has become more acceptable to not circumcise boys. I would also like to state that my BIL was one of the "cool" kids and was very popular - he was just teased horribly in the shower room and made to feel different. Some kids handle that better than others.
Some of the PP brought up the issue of cleanliness and infections as boys get older. It made me think about my SS and the issues we would have if he was not circumcised. And yes, I am positive there would be issues. When my SS was three he was misdiagnosed as ADHD and OCD. At six, he was properly diagnosed with having an Autism Spectrum Disorder. SS was nine when I came into his life. DH gets SS one week day night and each weekend. He would have to shower SS when he had him. Part of this was because SS would not properly clean himself if he was put in the tub (he would just play) the other part is because SAHM ex-wife did not bother to make sure he even took a bath. SS is now fourteen. He still showers two to three times a week at our house (on his own now but we still have to remind him to scrub, use soap, use shampoo - and not to use it as bubbles). When we pick him up, he smells. His mom's response is to spray SS with Axe deoderant spray on him. We have been working on getting him to take showers on his own and to make him aware of how other people are going to respond when he does not. He is now taking showers a couple of days a week at his mom's (victory!). So, back to my original point - I am positive SS would have infection after infection if he had not been circumcised.
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Woah! Scary!! I hadn't heard of this... I think you just swayed me to your side of the fence. Poor little guy!
2 babies in heaven (mc)
Blog: ForLoveofCupcakes.com
Baby #1, born 3/1/13, Baby #2 due 12/13/14
Yeah... think about it. We consider cutting off the clitoris as genital mutilation, yet we don't see cutting the foreskin as genital mutilation? Double standard much? If it's part of your religion, I am not passing judgement, but I personally see it as genital mutilation.
I will not be circumsizing my child if I have a boy.
We did a lot of research before making our decision. DH is circ'd, but we both came to the conclusion NOT to circ DS - and as the child's mother, I have just as much a say in what happens to his penis as his father does. There is no medically necessary reason to do it, and complications with intact males are extremely rare. In nearly every other part of the world, boys are left intact with no issues.
Because the AAP recently deemed it a cosmetic procedure (not medically necessary), most insurance companies will no longer pay for the procedure - out of pocket, it can cost anywhere from $500-$700, depending upon where you live and who performs the circ. Therefore, many parents are choosing to decline routine infant circumcision. In fact, in 2009, only 38% of baby boys were routinely circumcised. I'm not worried about DS being in the "minority" as an intact boy, since it's becoming more common to skip the procedure.
If this baby is a boy, we will be leaving him intact as well. Keeping his penis clean has been a non-issue. It was nice not needing to clean and care for a circumcision wound in a diaper.
**FTR, I'm referring to the practice of routine infant circumcision with no medical reason. If circumcision is recommended for medical purposes, I believe it has a very important place.
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