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Any ways to prepare a 20 month old for a new baby?

RocklandhollyRocklandholly member
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DS will be 20 months old when #2 arrives.  He is very clingy with me and wants to be held all the time (he's 13 months right now).  He goes to daycare and I know he sometimes gets upset when anothro child is held, but has been ok when he's seen me with other kids - usually when that happens there are lots of adults around and he is getting lots of attention.  Is there anything I can do to prepare him?  I don't want him to feel left out or be upset all the time...

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Re: Any ways to prepare a 20 month old for a new baby?

  • Daisy22Daisy22 member
    My middle is 20mths and I just had ds3 last friday. DS2 is very much a momma's boy and I've been really worried about him. To my surprise, he's actually doing pretty good so far. when he came to the hospital it wans't great. He wanted to push buttons and didn't really care about me or the baby. First night home was almost the same. We'll see how the next few weeks go
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  • KaiterzKaiterz member

    All I did w/ DD is get her used to crawling up and down the stairs herself so that she wouldn't expect to be carried when I had a NB in my arms.  I talked to her about the baby in mama's belly but she didn't acknowledge that until the week I delivered.  I also got her a baby doll w/ stroller, carrier, bottle, etc a week or so before I gave birth.

    She's adjusted amazingly well.

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  • FormerlyKrista555FormerlyKrista555 member

    I think it depends on the child.

    DD and DD are 20 mos apart,  To prepare her, we started talking a lot about babies. We would point out babies, read books about babies, etc.  I also would tell her that there was a baby in my tummy and he was gonna come out soon. I know it sounds crazy, but I think DD actually somewhat grasped what I was talking about, because she never pointed to my belly and said "baby" again after he was born.

    We also read "I'm A Big Sister" by Joanna Cole. Great book for a toddler to understand. https://www.amazon.com/Im-Big-Sister-Joanna-Cole/dp/0688145094

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  • juliane2004juliane2004 member
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    nope!

    at 20m they won't understand anything until it is happening.

    This! DD (2.5 years) is understanding there's a baby in my tummy but DS (18.5 months) has no idea what's going on. I don't expect him to.

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